I'm a single mom (divorced) of an 11 year old boy. He has a fascination with unicorns, and insists that they are real and I buy him one. I tried buying him a pony, but it didn't work. What can I do? I'm so confused.
2007-02-23 11:10:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
being 11 years old of course he still has an imagination, but it's important around this age to start separating fiction from reality. Unicorns have wonderful mythical backgrounds....I suggest taking him to a library or buying him some books on the subject and explaining the origins of Unicorn.......how they were thought to be real but it turned out they were being mistaken with other (real) horned creatures....just like mermaids were confused with manatees.
Once he comes to terms with this, you should get him the book The Last Unicorn by Peter Beagle, it is a beautiful novel that both you and your son will enjoy.....but be sure he realizes they are just a myth.
I applaud you for allowing your son to be who he is, don't listen to people who say little boys should be into sports and not ponies or unicorns...... forcing the norm onto our children is an invite for a life long therapist, among other things.
2007-02-27 06:49:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I wish I could buy you one but they just don't exist in the real world. Unicorns are creatures of fantasy like dragons, gryphons and sphynxes, I know that movies sometimes make them look real but that is the purpose of special effects, there is nothing wrong with liking them a lot. The closest thing to a unicorn is a horse and horses are real living creatures.
Hope it helps. Kids are not dumb, explain things to him, find out how much he knows about them and where he got the information, talk to a child psychologist about it. I would not worry too much.
2007-02-23 11:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by Karan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him a darn thing. Smile and say oh, really? Life beats you down quick enough, mom doesnt need to be the one to do it. He knows they arent real, but a part of him wants magic. Something or someone has caused him to feel like he needs to believe in something that can rescue him. If he says do you believe mom, say, I dont know honey but you need to make your own mind up. I can not believe all these people telling you to stomp on your kid, tell him the truth...no wonder our kids must turn to drugs or whateveer for a bit of stress relief. He may be socially inmature (you know it if he is) or he could be gay, gay boys tend towards softer kinder girl things, or he could just want a freaken unicorn. Go help him pick it out. Use it as an opportunity to find out why he likes them and what he thinks about them and for heavens sake, shut up while he talks. This kid has something to say, you should find out now what it is.
Good Luck
2007-02-23 11:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by batwanda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like I would want to check with a therapist or at least a school counselor. I doubt it's anything huge, as boys this age are normally fanatic about their interests. I always like to get a professional's point of view, they often understand things from the child point of view when I tend to forget and behave too much like an adult. Sounds like a fun interest...just wondering, though, what your marital status has to do with it? Do you think it has to do with the divorce?
2007-02-23 11:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by momof2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why does your son like ponys try to get him into baseball and sports cause i am sorry thats weird for 11 year old boy!~!~
2007-02-23 13:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by lady_bug110 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, please ask him why he wants one. Then, get him one. And even tho the unicorn does not exist now, they did before the Flood. The unicorn is mentioned in the Old Testament of the Bible. Take care.
2007-02-23 11:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably hiding a painful truth with fantasy. Something is bothering him. See a doctor (not a psychologist) but don't put him on psychotic drugs. But, he's only 11. Maybe he hasn't outgrown his imagination. Make sure he has a guy to be a good example to him...uncle, grandpa, good friend, etc.
2007-02-23 11:15:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you actually bought him a pony? wow. thats awesome. i'm impressed.
anyways, you should sit with him and do research on it. take him to your public library, and a librarian can probably help find books about it. going to a place of knowledge and asking a third party might make him realize that unicorns are mythical.
2007-02-23 11:19:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
well i would say dont but the kid no more unicorns or ponies. he should be a strong boy, not one that is covered in clothes and plays with toys flaming gay all over them. toughen him up a little!!!!
2007-02-23 11:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by builtff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know,I would understand if it was a little girl,he is a little too anyway to believe in that kind of stuff.Try to get him into something else,like some kind of cartoon character for his age,try cartoon network.Good luck,hope he gets over this soon.
2007-02-23 11:14:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋