My boyfriend thinks he is very good at having sex and continues to talk about it . like he is so great at it !!! i want to tell him but not hurt his ego that its not that great ?
2007-02-23 11:03:49 · 16 answers · asked by taytay_1009 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to deflate that ego a little bit...
2007-02-23 11:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, if you tell him he surely will feel hurt- but try buying some magazine the talk about sex issues, and read an article together and let him take the magazine- maybe he'll get the hint or take up some pointers. Now if your communication and confidence on each other is very big tell him you would like somethings done in a certain matter- maybe that will spark is interest.
2007-02-23 19:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by Taz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh man, don't tell him, you would definitely damage his ego. He may not even want to speak to you again. He'll probably be like 'oh you don't think I'm good at sex, then I'm never having sex with you again'. Just let him keep thinking that. LOL. and if it affects you, just try being on top all the time, so you can do all the work and do what feels right for yourself.
2007-02-23 19:09:19 · answer #3 · answered by Loves It<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys think that they are the bomb even when they ain't doing ****.....so just tell him.....They way you tell him however will make the difference in if you stay together. Since you wisely don't want to hurt his ego there are several things to do:
1. watch porn with him and ask his if he ever tried to do it like.....(whatever you see that u like)
2. get a sexual massage or kama sutra book and suggest working thru the positions together
3. tell him you like what he's doing but that you'd like it more if he did........
4. just show him while he's doing whatever...take his hands and put them where u want and move it the way u want them move them away
Good luck....hope it works
2007-02-23 19:18:33 · answer #4 · answered by answergirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest, you have the right to tell him how you feel and what you think and he must listen, and vice versa... tell him in a polite way tho so you won't hurt his feelings and if you say he's not that great then you should teach him some stuff... read some books together or search on the net useful information, that will help... comunication is the key to a very successful relationship. Good luck.
2007-02-23 19:12:50 · answer #5 · answered by ? DeSi ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone here says be gentle and kind and talk to him during sex and teach him how to be better. I have found that if the sex is bad and the age is above about 25 and you both have experience with a few different partners - it just will not improve. Being a man ho, I just move on to someone whose track record is a little better.
2007-02-23 19:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BE HONEST---yet gentle. Be sure to reinforce anything you say bad----with something good. Something about the quality of the other/non-sexual time you spend together. Then suggest things he can do to please you better. Be quite specific and blunt. In my experience with men---they dont take hints very well. Maybe watch a few 'flicks' together and compare. Also maybe suggest videotaping yourselves together and watching it-----for inspiration and training.
Whatever happens--you will know you have been honest with him and yourself. Be sure to keep a positive tone. Good luck and happy humping.
2007-02-23 19:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by itsjustme_erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what pleases you. If it hurts his ego, move on.
2007-02-23 19:15:29 · answer #8 · answered by David A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rather then telling him hes not that good suggest things he can do to make it better, this way u wont hurt his feelings
2007-02-23 19:06:56 · answer #9 · answered by Onie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send him a survey that shows majority of women don't have orgasms. The funny thing is there is a correlation between the more macho they act, the less orgasm their partners get. They just don't know how to please except themselves.
2007-02-23 19:07:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be straight forward especially if he thinks he is the best or tell him things to do that could make him better
2007-02-23 19:07:40 · answer #11 · answered by Lexy320 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋