the reason i want 2 know is because me and my bf were really good friends b4 we started dating and I'm kinda worried that if/when we break up it will ruin the friendship that we had b4 we became bf and gf......please don't tell me 2 talk 2 him about it because I've tried that but as soon as i brought it up he changed the subject. so how hard is it 2 stay friends after your break up with somebody??
2007-02-23 10:49:08 · 25 answers · asked by the idiot down the road 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and i dont want 2 break up with him i was just asking.....the reason i've tried 2 talk 2 him about it was just 2 see how he felt about it
2007-02-23 10:58:07 · update #1
Impossible if you really loved them
2007-02-23 10:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. Your "friendship" will never be the same after you had dated and it went sour. But sometimes, once you get over the initial "shock" of the break-up, you can still remain in touch with the person. I still talk to my former spouse, and we've been divorced for over 6 years. We don't "hang out" or anything, but if I had an emergency, and my husband was unavailable, my ex would be the first person I'd ask for help - and I know he would drop everything to come and help me; he had done it before. If this what friendship is, then we're friends I guess.
2007-02-23 10:54:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure why you care this much if you don't plan on breaking up with him. I don't think it will be like it was before you started this relationship. It's just depends on what type of people you both are and if you can handle situation that come after it over. So I guess in that case, I don't know. Time and maturity would help a friendship work.
2007-02-23 11:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the reason it's so hard, is because once you cross the friendship line, you can never go back to being "just friends", trust me i know from experience, actually i went through the same situation. me and my best friend crossed the line and now we are broken up, but still friends. even though we are still friends, it's not the same, it's not really something you can understand until you experience it first hand. we can't look at each other the same way before we got involved, and we never will be able to again. staying friends after is hard because there will always be feelings whether hiddem or obvious, and that gets in the way too.
2007-02-23 10:55:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a worrying variety of guy. i does no longer combat with this female anymore. Your existence has substitute right into a viscious circle of struggling with, forgiving, hoping and being disenchanted persistently. sometime, she is going to could desire to stand on her own 2 ft. regardless of the certainty which you probably did no longer mean to, you have enabled her to stay immature, make undesirable selections, and nevertheless be taken decrease back in. i might ease out of this relationship over the subsequent numerous months. i think of in case you enable flow of your anger and frustration, you would be waiting to adhere it out some greater months. i might probably clarify to her that there is an end of the line and you'd be making distinctive plans as quickly as the lease is up. At that element, you have accomplished greater advantageous than maximum men might do to be sure that she's ok. I appreciate you for that. yet please do no longer enable her drag you down anymore.
2016-09-29 13:05:24 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the relationship. If yall end on good terms and still can stand to be " just friends" even if they go out with someone else then yeah it would prolly be a little hard at first but some people could never be " just friends".
2007-02-23 10:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by Emz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how long you have been together, and the circumstances of the break-up...
in general, it's pretty hard to stay friends after a break-up (something that I'm trying to do right now) because usually one person, if not both, ends up wanting to continue the relationship
2007-02-23 10:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by vokshori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't sound very optimistic, it being you're still with your boyfriend. I would invest a good deal of myself into the current relationship. Should the worst happen though, your friendship will never be the same and would most likely hurt one of you if not both. I would then move on, wish him the best.
2007-02-23 10:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by VW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to stay friends. There are those people who stay friends, but it is more the exception than the rule. It can also be hard on future relationships...still wanting to spend time with an ex as a "friend."
Good luck if you want to try it.
2007-02-23 10:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by Mr. G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First it's really hard to break up with someone who you were or were once friends with. It's almost impossible to stay friends. I've succeeding in this once in my life but this was because I immediatedly moved hours away from him. Basically you can stay friends if you really work at it, if you resolve to avoid seeing him in private ever, and restrict most talking to phone conversations.
2007-02-23 10:54:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to stay friends is difficult. let there be some distance..... as at first it is touch. who broke up.
my frist boyfriend was for 3 yrs again he was my best friend before and during. we broke up and we didn't tal except few times... but after a few years he is still one of the best friends ever.
it does take both wanting it... but tha is way with all friendships.
or relationship or anything
2007-02-23 10:52:46 · answer #11 · answered by VK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋