My 14 year old daughter is pregnat what do I do?

Answer 1

Talk to her, be a mother.

By the way I know you're making this up.

Oh and it's " pregnant " not " pregnat ".

Answer 2

Whats done is done the only thing you can do know is let her know that its time to make adult decision. You should sit down with her weigh out your options. The one thing you can not do is leave her stranded she will need your more now than she ever has. She has already made the mistake stand by her and guide her don't take on the responsibility of taking care of the baby but basically hold her hand through it she will see the error of her ways and learn the hard way. Try not to blame your self if you are.
Just know that you will get through it . But before all this make sure this is something that your daughter wants to do and thinks she can handle there are other options she can look into for example.

Good-luck

Answer 3

Congratulations! you have a grandbaby! Love your grandbaby, love your daughter. She made a mistake. She needs discipline. I am 17 years old, and I can imagine that would be extremely hard for all three of you. I am a child born out of wedlock, I've been poor, and boy is it hard. But remember, this is a life. Do what is best for your grandbaby. Your daughter is not really capable of raising a child, she has about six years till her final brain growth stage. If you can take good care of this child, maybe you should. If you do not have the time, resources, and money, see if the child can be raised by a family member. If not, find adoptive parents. In my family, I also have a cousin who was born to a teenage mother whose older sister adopted and raised the child, now about your daughter's age. I suggest you talk to a pastor. Whom the Lord loves, He chastens. A loving parent will discipline, but also knows when grace needs to be given.

Answer 4

Make sure she goes to a doctor and gets good care. Be there for her. Talk to her...I'm sure she knows she made a mistake so don't dwell on that. Talk about how she will take care of the child. Talk about how you can help while she gets her High School diploma, but it will be up to her to do the main child rearing. When she is 16 she can get a part time job to help with expenses for the child. Maybe see if there is a class at the local college about child rearing that she can take. This child now has to come first in her life and it's going to be up to her to provide for the baby.

Answer 5

See what resources your state has for pregnant teens. You should discuss many things with your daughter to help her with her fears. Discuss the 'dad', adopting out the baby, keeping the baby etc. Have a plan for finishing high school, perhaps home schooling and if she decides to keep the baby, you would both probalby benefit from some parenting classes. Mostly give her strenght and courage, I know she's got to be terrified. Also, try to find an OBGYN who's got experience with pregnant teens, who's compassionate.

Answer 6

What ever you do, don't shun her or push her away. She will be in a very vulnerable state. You know what it was like when you were raising her, think how it is for her only she is a teenager.

...And what about the guy that got her pregnant? You can't exclude him, get a paternity test if you need to. If they don't plan on helping make sure he is sending child support.

Take her to a doctor so she can start getting prenatal care. She needs to do what's right for her body and the baby's body. She needs to know what to expect. She should start reading up on things to be concerned about during pregnancy, delivery, and after pregnancy.

Your daughter is most likely scared (still) of what you will think of her. She is going to need you. She is new to the world of mother hood, you want to show her how to be a good mother to her child. Scolding them or abandoning them when they make a mistake is the wrong thing to do.

Guide her and help her, teach her the things she needs to know so she can be sucessuful. Talk to her and ask her what she plans on doing, I doubt she could ever give up her child, her flesh and blood. Assuming you have a stable home, your grandchild will be better of with you and your daughter. If they went into foster care they may stay there for 18 years or if they do get adopted there is a small chance that something could happen to them. Abuse, rape and nurmerous others. Im not saying that it will or would, but it is a thought to consider.

Talk to her, she probably wants to apologize for getting herself into this situation, but she's being mature about it by talking to you about it.

Remember that teenagers make mistakes, children in general make mistakes. And what does one do when you make a mistake? You learn from it.

You can be mad or somewhat disappointed in her actions, but don't make it the only feeling or the strongest. Love should come first. A baby is a wonderful thing, you can be happy for her, but still not approve of her being pregnant at that age.

Your best bet is to start talking to her and listen to what she has to say, and have her listen to what you have to say....talk it out. Good luck.

Answer 7

Be a mom. Take her to get medical care. Then give the baby up

If you knew where she was at all times this could not be happening. I know where my son is at all times. When I allow him to go Play ball at the park with his friends, he knows I can drive by at any time, and if I call he BETTER answer his cell phone.

Your only other question is your child wont behave and that was 24 mins ago, So do you really have a pregnant daughter?

Answer 8

Do not panic.

She is still a child and will need alot of support.

She needs to register for medicaid and other services she may be entitled to. (Especially WIC, child care assistance for after the birth, parenting classes, etc.) Even if you have insurance on her, it will not cover her unborn child.

Each state has a specific department that handles its social service programs. You can search social services and your state and it will probably pop you right to your local offices. However, the following sites are great to find lists of services in your area... both private and public.

Also, remember, she needs to finish school--above all--she needs to finish her high school education. By teh time she gets her high school diploma, her child will likely be entering kindergarten (good.) She will be able to get a technical training or a college degree also.

AGAIN--her education is VITAL. She is already startign her family with Xs against her. Help her... I know how easy it is to be angry at her... I know when I got pregnant at 16 my mother was angry at me... but really... her anger didnt help me at all. It was finishing school that did.

Good luck... you are in my prayers.

Answer 9

Take her to a no kill counseling center where they can help her with medical. Please put the child up for adoption or your daughter will never have a normal life it will be one of motherhood for the rest of her life. You will end up having to raise the child and by the time your daughter is ready for college her child will be ready for kindergarten and you will never have a life of your own. There are lots of good people out there waiting to adopt a baby and the baby will have a loving home.

Answer 10

go over every option possible, be supportive but do not make her think its o.k. if she keeps the baby be an active role in her life so she can continue school, but do not be yourgrandchilds mother.If she goes out, limit it, and make her pay some way for your babysitting services.. let her know the large amount of responcibility she is going to be facing... its not the end of the world, and no matter the mothers age and grandchild can be a wonderful thing... good luck..

Answer 11

First of all, make sure she knows you are there for her and are very supportive. Getting angry at her won't undo her actions. Let her know you are disappointed, but don't guilt her out; the damage is done. Tell her her options (abortion, adoption, keeping the baby). Tell her you will support any decision she makes. Make sure she thinks her decision through. Lastly, don't push her towards a decision she doesn't want; you will regret it later.