He left me and said he was moving back in to ex's house that they still own together as she wrote him letter with ultimatum of move back in and try to work it out or i'll move away and take our son away. (She found out he was dating me and in live with me) They've been seperated for 10 months) 2 days later his sister was in a near fatal accident and the family got together and they said he she is manipulating him with his kid and that he should do what makes him happy. He wants to marry me and me forgive him, she is going to sell the house and move away but I am scared he will miss his kid and get spooked again. am i crazy?
2007-02-23 10:22:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She cannot take his kid away from him legally for not being with her. She would have to have another REALLY good reason to get away with that. He probably knows that already, but has chosen to go back to her anyway. It sounds as though he is giving you excuses and stringing you along. I repeat, he will not lose his child for not moving in with her. He probably also knows that if she moves away (out of state) with the child without his approval, she can be arrested for kidnapping. It sounds like you need a fresh start with someone new - quit being so "sympathetic" to his plight - he is counting on that and has turned this into your problem.
2007-02-23 10:36:08 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to talk to him about your fears. I think his motivations have to do with his kid more so than how he feels about you. If he is legally divorced, there must have been some decision made regarding custody of the son. If he is not legally divorced then nothing has been done to address the issue the child's custody. If he is not legally married to this woman, I do not know what happens. I think you need to find this out because your boyfriend does want his son in his life at any level. That issue is the motivating factor in his life right now.
There is a lot going on in his family and he must resolve these issues before he truly ready to move ahead with your relationship to him. I feel he is truly sorry for what he did. If you gave him some time to take care of these issues, I think things will work out for you.
2007-02-23 11:22:17 · answer #2 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loved you, then he would not have just left you just like that. He needs to step up and be a man. If in 10 months she hadn't moved and taken their son, then why would she do it now? He can fight that...if he man's up! I don't think you should take him back because there is no telling if he won't leave you again the next time she gives him an ultimatum.
2007-02-23 10:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me see she is blackmailing him with his son. You dont have a chance. This thing between them will never end until the kid is in college, so tell him you love him and leave it like that. Love hurts, but if he will follow his son wherever and that is not fair for you. She will continously cause problems within your relationship if you stay together. So be realistic and good luck
2007-02-23 10:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by pauljpray 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry hun.... no one should EVER use a child as a bargaining chip and she is wrong for doing so.
Sadly, she will always be the mother of his child no matter if he marries you or not so you will have to deal with her until that child is grown and on their own. If he gave in and moved back in with her, he will give in to ANY demand she makes.
2007-02-23 10:29:51 · answer #5 · answered by mom tree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hrrm..interesting situation you have there. If he honestly wants to marry you then i saw go for it, but if he runs away then it's time to move on.
2007-02-23 10:30:49 · answer #6 · answered by stephanie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋