How do I get my child to behave?

Question

she is not listining and this has been going on for a month..........I NEED HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

I don't care who says that spanking your child is abuse, I think that is the biggest load of bull crap I have ever heard. The bible even tells you how to discipline your child, by spanking them on the bottom. When you do it out of anger or to purposely hurt the child is when I consider it abuse, but not when you use the method to teach. They can cart me off to jail all they want but to tell me to swear on the bible to tell the truth but expect me not to live by what it has to say is ridiculous. Spank her bottom and give her a time out. She'll know who's in charge.

Answer 2

It depends on the age of the child. If she is under 3, she will not behave. That's just how they are. You have to wait it out and be unwavering on matters of safety. (like her wanting to unbuckle her carseat) A child over 3 has the mental capacity to obey rules and should be taught she will be punished if she disobeys. Whatever punishment you decide, it should be up to you. If you choose not to spank, then that's fine. Don't let anyone tell you she will be a spoiled brat if she doesn't get a spanking. I've found that taking away privaledges works best. If she doesn't want to behave in public, she doesn't get to go out with you anymore.

Answer 3

I have a two y/o who will be 3 in may. If I ask him to do something he will test me...a lot. "what happens if I don't" kind of attitude. One of the biggest issues is getting him to leave things alone and clean up his toys when he is done playing for the day. When this happens I tell him that he will get grounded from his foavorite toys or things (and I always explain to him that it means he will lose them for a while.) This motivates him to stop acting up and to clean up when asked. Even with a fuss to get him to act right he is rewarded when he does as told. There are days when nothing, time outs toys taken away...works and as a last punishment for not being good he gets a spanking. Even on those days he ends up doing as asked and still is rewarded for doing what he is supposed to. you have to be consistant with everything! My son is in the terrible twos, it is a phase, but at any age letting them know you mean what you say and you will do what you say, that you will reward them for doing right will help them learn that you are the parent. Just remember that your kid is testing you, and if your child is as young as mine this is something he will do from time to time. You can also go to www.babycenter.com for expert advice (not just for babies).

Answer 4

my daughter is 3 years old getting ready to turn 4 when she is bad like when we are in the store and she starts acting up wanting something and i tell her no she'll start to throw a fit right in the middle of the store i leave my grocerys i take her out to the car and we go home i leave everything then i explaine to her that is not how you get things you want and i stick her in the corner for 4 mins i usally sit her down take her toy away from her or stand her in the corner and if that does not work and she is still acting out i make her lay down and take a nap

Answer 5

Why do children misbehave? Dr. John Gray says there is only one reason. They are not getting enough positive attention from the parent. If they can't get positive attention then they will go for negative attention.

Instead of yelling or punishing your daughter, for a few days ignore her bad behavior and praise her good behavior. Praise even the smallest thing she does and you will begin to see more good behavior

Answer 6

When you find the answer to this one please let me know too. LOL

I have a 9 year old, 6 year old and a 3 year old and they all go through their own fits of not listening!!

We have done everything from grounding them, taking away toys, time out, folding and putting away laundry or doing the most hated housework to them, nothing works! LOL

Answer 7

When you figure it out, please let me know! Toddlers are learing their independance during this time. You have to be consistent in how you deal with her. Don't be wishy washy or they walk all over you! If she is not listening, put her in time out, explain why she is in time out and then walk into the next room. If she gets up, pick her up, put her back and walk away. I know it gets aggravating, because she will get up numerous times, but when she see this is what happens, it will start to sink in.

Answer 8

if the child has things that she likes take them away from her......but if not you should give her a talk about how you feel about her behavior and then explain what her consequences will be if she doesn't straighten up

Answer 9

The key is to be consistent. If you say, "Don't do that or you'll get in trouble", then be sure that they get in trouble when they do it.

It's also important to reward them for good behavior.

Kids only do what works...if they don't get what they want by acting up, but do get what they want by acting nice, they'll learn to act nice, real quick.

Answer 10

How old is she?If she is 5yrs. or older give her a wooping.If she is under 5,take her toys away,don't let her watch t.v.,don't let her do anything she enjoys until she starts behaving right.