The first week we were dating we had no boundaries set and I hooked up with someone else...I don't think this was cheating we were not exclusive yet...He disagrees. Was this cheating?
Now he is worried that I will cheat on him again...Which I won't, the only person I want is him...What should I do to help him trust that?
2007-02-23 09:51:47 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It wasn't cheating. You weren't exclusive at the time. The thing is, if he doesn't drop this, then he'll be on your case about this during your whole relationship. You need to sit down with him and truly find out if he can let this go or not.
2007-02-23 09:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by Keep It Sane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Was he seeing anyone else in that first week of dating? When I date, maybe for the lack of free time I have, I date one and only one. And I have to think that most people tend to believe this. I would unfortunately have to say that I would consider this cheating. As for helping him trust you again, well this will take some time. Trust is not built over night. If he truly wants to be with you he will be willing to start trusting again.
Now on the flip side, a friend once told me if the other have of a relationship constantly accuses the other of cheating, they probably have a guilty conscious. Good Luck
2007-02-23 09:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if your going to be in a relationship i would go out with anybody else unless my girlfriend is with me... when he said or when you guys agreed no boundaries he was just testing you tell him how you feel about him if you really just want him then tell him....how about you ask yourself DO I REALLY WANT THIS GUY>>> if you guys been together only for 7 weeks you need to slow down and make sure whats going on before things get worst trust me...
2007-02-23 09:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by SAL-NICA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is already accusing you of cheating and it has only been 7 weeks it is only going to get worst
Relationship should be based on trust and he obviously don't have that towards you
My advise is to get out now before he starts accusing you of more and makes you life hell
You don't want a relationship with someone that doesn't trust you. .. it will never work
2007-02-23 09:57:26 · answer #4 · answered by Applied E 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he's insecure. if he can't let go of that early dating experience, dump him as he will only grow more insecure and jealous. if he's worth keeping, you must try and explain to him in plain English what you stated in your question. There were no boundaries set yet at that time. I don't know how to prove to him that you are committed to him, but if he doesn't trust you then you need to set him free because trust is crucial to a relationship.
2007-02-23 09:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by Nose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He's a mess if he thinks you cheated on him. Sounds like the extremely jealous type.
2007-02-23 09:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by Paul S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that wasn't cheating you guys were only testing the waters then, run far from that one because if its only 7 weeks and he already nagging and being insecure he's gonna make u miserable.
2007-02-23 09:59:42 · answer #7 · answered by JudiM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've only been dating for 7 weeks...I don't even consider THAT a relationship.
2007-02-23 09:54:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not cheating to you both agree your a couple.
if he says otherwise and thinks it is, say ok if that's the way you think than i guess i was and it won't happen again. i didn't know you would think like this.
2007-02-23 09:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by myddad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and ask him you are past the "dating" part.
"Dating" is for trying out other girls.
"Girlfriend" is for concentrating on ONE girl.
"Fiance" is setting up the future with ONE girl.
"Marriage" is growing old with ONE girl
2007-02-23 09:59:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋