Why is it that men are so shallow. I understand the whole visual concept of picking a mate, (girlfriend). But why is it that they seem to go beyond the norm of tactfullness, (so to speak). To just be outright ignorant? Where have all the gentlemen gone?
2007-02-23 09:48:14 · 9 answers · asked by Solitaire 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would totally agree with you! Just went on a date with a sleezebag and came out wondering, "Where are the genuine, old fashioned guys???"
2007-02-23 10:53:20 · answer #1 · answered by Chelsea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perhaps difficult to imagine quite how sexualised men are, and the degree to which that is visually based. Men are still expected to make passes at women.
I don't know about gentlemen, and if there was ever a time when there were more- read dorothy Parker for some amusing insights into men of the 20s, 30s and 40's.
I'd say that women are often very shallow too: certainly often obsessed with appearances and with material stuff- more so, I'd say than most men, though admittedly its hard to guess.
2007-02-23 18:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're not all gone. I think that you probably have limited experiences with the "nice guys". I think that the reason for this is that the gentlemen of whom you speak are a bit less proactive when it comes to approaching women. While it's not a matter of lacking confidence, our biggest fear is fear of rejection. Therefore, it's often harder to make that first step.
2007-02-23 17:54:45 · answer #3 · answered by RcknRllr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to rethink the company you keep, sweetie. I am married to a wonderful southern gentleman, he opens doors for me, always ready to help me, extend a hand, whatever. Plus he speaks to me with respect, (he is not a p-word, either). You need to set the bar high, and do not tolerate men talking nasty body part crap on front of you. Sexy talk is for behind closed doors, only.
Good luck, you might have to kiss a few frogs, but there is a prince for you.
2007-02-23 18:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem you are having is that the "men" you are describing are not "men." They are boys. Men are not shallow. Men are thoughtful, considerate, intelligent, and have many other qualities that are wonderful. Boys are shallow, inconsiderate, ignorant, tackless, and other qualities too shallow to mention. Lose the "boys" and meet some "men."
2007-02-23 21:22:11 · answer #5 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shallow? Come now, we're not all shallow - are you certain you're looking at the right attributes when you're picking a man to date? If you're interested in champagne, you won't find it at the corner bar.
2007-02-23 17:53:54 · answer #6 · answered by Isaac 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not all the gentlemen are gone :) - We're just few and far between.
2007-02-23 17:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by nemsethcszardescu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it seems that to guys girls go for the mean and out right nasty guys and not the gentleman because of how soft gents can be and gents disappeared cause of the stupid movies where guys score a girl by being nasty and mean.
2007-02-23 17:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by demetrius z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a good question. They don't believe that ladies want them to be.
2007-02-23 17:58:22 · answer #9 · answered by Lindsay Jane 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋