do you think asking an 8 yr old to do their sandwiches for school?

Question

is too much? i ask my one as i feel like a sense of responsibilty and care for their things are important, like making bed etc ... am i being hard? however noting more than those two things

in response to shovel.... she takes sarny;s with fruit ... otherwise its chip ect at sch. my child has loads of fruit, and eats cereal in the morning, and in terms of being lazy, i am also making breaky for the 2 yr old

Answer 1

I think it is awesome, I have always encouraged our kids to be independent and help out with chores age appropriate. The teenager of course has more responsibility but even the 1 year old helps out by sorting clothes into piles and putting away spoons. My 8 year old does pack her own school lunch. I started doing it then she asked if she could make it so now when she wants a sack lunch she can do it herself

Answer 2

My 7 year old son helps make his school lunches and when he is home for lunch he makes his own under supervision. He also helps out with the dishes and the laundry. You are not asking too much, it is integral for children to learn responsibility. By the age of 4 they are ready to learn that lesson and need to. Otherwise they end up not knowing how to look after themselves when they are older.

Answer 3

When it comes to stuff like this it works if the parents are consistant and take the energy to see that the child gets the job done.

Sometimes with kids....it is the parent who is trained rather than the child,

If you are the type that can sustain asking and seeing that the child makes the sandwhich, then it is good. If not, choose another chore to start with.

Answer 4

Good for you. My son is 11 now and can cook tea for us, offers to do the ironing. Knows how to load the washer, and hoover among other bits and bobs. .(obviously he does these things with supervision)

He gets extra pocket money and is proud he is earning extra money himself. I think it is a great way to teach them responsibility and independence. He is learning the ethic that if he works he will get paid -- rather than sitting waiting for things to come to him.

We all know our kids will need us throughout life, but there is nothing wrong in teaching them from an early age how to care for themselves.

Answer 5

I think you should start with easier things like making their own bed and perhaps putting the plastic cutlery away.. making their own sandwiches is a big responsability... if you start soon by helping and showing... dont just jump in to it... parenting is a process good luck

mother of 5

Answer 6

my eldest son is 11 and i still make his sandwiches, just for my piece of mind, at least then i know what he is having for his lunch!
plus if i left him to do it then he would take chocolate crisps and whatever other junk he could find!!
there are other ways of children having responsibility's... like loading the dishwasher on weekdays, keeping bedroom tidy and rinsing the bath/shower when they have finished! now my son has the responsibility of coming in on time when he goes out!

not making an 8 yr olds lunch in my opinion is just plain lazy, your supposed to be the parent!

p.s. i also have a 2 year old and another on the way, i still have time in the mornings to make breakfast for everyone and iron the uniforms and make the lunches!!
maybe you should get up earlier!

Answer 7

My kids love to help...they like the responsibility and are proud when they do a good job ,sandwich making isn't exactly slave labour (just remember if your kids had been born 100 years ago they would be working in the mill with you!!) learning skills is great and it gives you chance to spend time with your kids whilst actually getting something done..go for it!

Answer 8

as a mother of 6 children,if a child can do things for themselves and help out at the same time that's great,
if my kids didn't do things for them selves,our house wouldn't function,
you can only do one thing at once,
my 9 year old makes his lunchbox up every night,has done for 2 years..

dont let anyone tell you how to do things,you are the one in the house ...multi tasking not them...

Answer 9

no,when i was 8, i had to start cooking and cleaning,my mom has kidney failure,and was in and out the hospital.i think,at six,your 8 year old should have started making his/her bed,and 8 is the perfect age to start using butter knifes,so making a sandwich,or his/her lunch should start at 8.

Answer 10

i think its good, they feel more grown up and want to do more, my daughter was ironing at 8, only simple things and 100% suppervised of course, now shes 11 and helps around the house with most things,