So I went out several times with this guy..but I only wanted to be his friend, (not a relationship) so we agreed that he would only see me as a friend and that we would be normal friends. He still calls me and asks me if i "think about him" and he has asked me several times if I will go with him to his nephews birthday party. I know his family will be there and I only want to be his friend. I really don't want to go, but he even got his little nephew to ask me if i was going to go to his party. I didn't say nothing, but I don't know...what I should do?
Should I go?...or skip the party and send a gift?
2007-02-23 09:33:33 · 15 answers · asked by ♥ mars♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
His family already knows that I went out with him several times!
2007-02-23 09:42:44 · update #1
He is probably obsessed with you. If you really have no interest in him, then you are better off backup off… a lot! Do not contact him for a long time, try to get away from him.
He is using the little kid to convince you, so no, do not go, come up with an excuse, like you have to go out of town or whatever. Send a present if you like.
If you don’t push him away, he will be always there trying to get you, and if you consider him your friend, then the only way to help him is by cutting him off. Otherwise, he might miss good opportunities with other women just because he is blind with you.
But let me also tell you this. Unless you really don’t like him at all, or have other plans in life, or have a boyfriend or fiancé somewhere else, maybe you could consider him. I only say this because my wife and I have a friend that has been going in and out of relations with the wrong guys for a long time, and keeps on ignoring a very good guy that likes her, and that helps her all the time as he is one of her best friends.
She would be so happy with him if she could give him a chance. But she doesn’t just because she doesn’t like him too much. I think is a waste that she is passing on this instead of taking a chance and see how it goes.
But I don’t know your friend, so I don’t know if he is really a good person or not. Just asking that you consider it too.
Good luck.
2007-02-23 09:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's trying to pressure you into being more than "just friends." I'd back off from seeing him. I'd send a gift to the party - maybe a card with a gift certificate - and you're apologies for being unable to attend him party. Then I'd have a clear-cut talk with your friend and let him know that you feel he's pressuring you and it's making you uncomfortable. Tell him that he needs to respect the fact that you only want to be friends. If he can't do that, then he really isn't your friend, is he?
2007-02-23 09:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy likes you and wants to be around you. He is probably an ok person if he is good enough to be your friend. You might examine whats going on here and base your decisions on that.
Keep in mind silence is consent. Many girls mistake that. They think that silence is not consent, but under the law (the courts) and the mind (what people think on the receiving end) it is. So.... if you don't want to go and this is your final thought, you should for sure make that is very clear in a kind way.
2007-02-23 09:39:55 · answer #3 · answered by Correctlinguistics 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the party, and when his family members and friends ask if you are a couple, politely explain that you are just good friends. That is an easy out for you that makes you still look good. He will get the hint when you explain the situation to others. Good luck, and have fun!
2007-02-23 09:38:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and make sure everyone there makes sure you are just friends. Tell the nephew you came with your friend because he asked you to come.
2007-02-23 09:37:55 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Skip the party. This guy wants to be more than friends. It is obvious.
2007-02-23 09:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by Paul S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't go. It's obvious the guy is still hung up on you and would like to still date you. Using his nephew was really low.
2007-02-23 09:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and while you're there make it perfectly clear that you don't want to be with him...if any of his family members say ohh look how cute they look...juss be like yea as friends...like make it clear to him and his family because then if his family knows they will help make it clear to him
2007-02-23 09:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by M<3 J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to go, go, but make sure when he introduces you to his family that you make it clear in front of him that you are just friends
2007-02-23 09:39:40 · answer #9 · answered by kittiebann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just go,that way this guy can't say anything.Just let everyone know that you two are only friends.
2007-02-23 09:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by turtle_rosie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋