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i am in love with my Boyfriend and me and him want to have a baby im 17 and his 18

2007-02-23 09:30:07 · 37 answers · asked by Brittany D 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

let get this ok my BF just turn 18 and he is in high school and we are both senior and i b 18 in nov. 3 so we aint break no law of any kind

2007-02-23 09:58:06 · update #1

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WELL SURE IF U WANT 2 RUIN UR LIFE WIT A BABY GO AHEAD UR 2 YOUNG BUT MY FRIED HAD A BABY @ AGE 17 2 SO I DONT CARE BRANDY HER DAUGHTER IS ADORABLE

2007-02-23 09:35:05 · answer #1 · answered by pimp132 2 · 0 0

Please don't make that mistake.
Having a baby now will complicate your life so much, and all the things you have wanted to do after school will have to be put aside to devote yourself to raising a child.
Who is to say this guy is going to be "the one"?
Think ahead, what will life be like with a baby? a toddler? a five year old?
My sister got pregnant when she was 17 and a freshman in college.
She had to quit college and get a job to raise her baby.
It is extremely tough, with no education and no job experience to get a good job that makes enough money to support you both.
I know you feel this guy will be there to help, but will he be there 5 years from now? 10 years?
If you are truely in love, wait, get your schooling out of the way, get good jobs where you make an income that will provide everything the baby needs and pay the bills.
Your 17, where will you live?
If your parents are like me, I'm sure they don't want to end up raising your kid for you while you try to go to school or work or both.
Daycare??
Religion?
Welfare?
Are you thinking your parents will watch your baby? if you are you are planning on using them.
Think it out, it affects more people and more things than you realize.
Too many kids these days are making babies just because they can, thinking love is a reason to have a baby.
Look around, there are many many couples out there that are in love but do not have children yet, because they are making sure they are prepared in life to provide for the child the way it should be.
Please make the right decision, more than just you and your bf future depend on it.

2007-02-23 09:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0 0

Neither of you are ready to have a child. It seems all "wow and fun right now thinking about it" but financially and realistically you both can't do it. What is the hurry? Are you both working full time, living together, making ends meet..or going to school, living at home and don't have many bills at all??
You're 17 and he's only 18..Your life is just beginning* There's plenty of time to have a family* You're not even married...HOw long have you both Known each other? been together??
I think you both should get a grip on reality before you think about bringing an innocent child into this world and not being able to provide for her in the way you would want to* GOODLUCK*

2007-02-23 09:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 1 0

i'd get decrease back on the dep. and ignore about having a touch one for the subsequent ten years. OMG, you've a fiance? the position the hell is your mom? you have not any employer being engaged when you're nevertheless a baby your self. i'd have your "fiance" thrown in penal complicated for statutory rape, in case you've been my youngster. OMG, and he's having unprotected sex with you? Aarrggh! one of those huge quantity of swear words! you're making it sound as if it really is this amazing present, notwithstanding it really is only a jackass getting his rocks off with a gentle female because he can. do not fool your self. If he's older than you, he's playing you. If he's your age, he's playing you - and he's too youthful to be engaged, or to be having unprotected sex with absolutely everyone. ok, so the following is my suggestion, 'reason i comprehend you're not to any extent further gonna take any of the suggestion that i'd like to make sure you follow. Get a pre-nup/pre-natal settlement. Ask him to signal a legally binding record that announces he will stay with you always, and continuously help his baby in a way it really is acceptable from a discern. at the same time as he hesitates, you'll comprehend i'm telling the reality.

2016-12-04 20:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Yes you are definitely too young! You should be able to already have a life established with good money, a nice neighborhood, and... I suggest you get married, because if he wants to shirk away from his duties as a father, he'd have to divorce you first and he'd have to pay child support. A baby really is a HUGE responsibility and it takes a lot of work and support to give that child the best you can because they deserve it. They don't deserve to be brought into this world without their parents support. My parents had me at an early age and now we have moved a countless number of times, lived in the "ghetto" and even had life threatening situations. We also don't have a lot of money and that means little food and more moving around. You should definitely hold off until you absolutely KNOW he loves you, that you have everything under your control and everything like that. Continue to pursue your education also, cuz you are young and college is important to get jobs these days cuz Mickey D's just ain't gunna cut it... esp. if you wanna have a baby. God bless, I wish you the best of luck!^_^

2007-02-23 09:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by no 4 · 0 0

You're already breaking the law if he's having relations with you. That's statutory rape as you are a minor. Having a baby with anyone before you are a responsible, financially secure, emotionally secure adult is wrong anyway. Your life will be ruined because that same 18 year old young man can haul butt like most of them do and your parent (s) will be stuck with raising and supporting a baby that you chose to lay up and get and you will begin to have animosity for because your freedom and life will change dramatically as will theirs. You will make a terrible mistake if you mess around like that. If I were your parent I would bring charges against that person and that would give him a record as a sex offender. Don't take your life away before it's even really begun, don't bring this onto your parents shoulders and don't bring a child into this world like that.

2007-02-23 09:40:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

I don't think anyone is mature enough for a baby, it's a big risk. If you really want to do this, make sure you know as much as you can about parenting. Cause after a baby, you can't do the things you really want to do (clubbing, drinking, going to random places whenever you want) Think of it this way when you have a baby it's like a really needy, sister/brother that you need to haul around. Now I know your going love your baby, but your life will never be the same again. Is that what you really want?

2007-02-23 09:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by dala_o_2003 2 · 0 0

Go and talk to the women at McDonalds, Tim Hortons, or whatever fast food restaurant(s) are in your area. Ask them if they had the choice between having a child at 18 and getting an education, what they would do. I bet you anything they will tell you to go get an education. You need an education to get a descent pay cheque, so you can feed a child, so the idea is that you get your education FIRST, then have a kid.

2007-02-23 09:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by in_my_mind2006 2 · 1 0

YES, you are too young! You are still just a kid, im 22 and i still think im tooyoung to have a baby. you have to account for the cost, and its not a long term commitment, its a lifetime commitment. what if you two break up badly? you'll still have to see him the rest of your life over custody and things like that? and do you have a job or a career? if you have a job, how will you support your baby if you change jobs? want to go to school? what happens when you turn 21 and you cant go out to bars and celebrate being young??

2007-02-23 09:35:57 · answer #9 · answered by sarah 2 · 1 0

NO, do a lot of research about relationships and raising a child, this is 18 years of your life your talking about. Dedicating 18 years to bring forth a competent human being in the world, are you and your boyfriend financially stable do you guys live together????? i would spend at least a year researching this.

2007-02-23 09:34:22 · answer #10 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 0 0

Yes,you are too young to have a child.If your b/f really loves you,then he can wait to start a family.There is really no hurry to have children.You should stay focused on getting an education,a job,and a place to live.You don't want to have a child and not being able to provide for it.Wait until the two of you are ready.Don't rush into something that you might regret later on.

2007-02-23 09:36:28 · answer #11 · answered by turtle_rosie 3 · 1 0

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