2007-02-23 09:26:48 · 10 answers · asked by nicoleld3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sit him down and tell him (in nicer words than mine) that if hes mature enough to ask you to marry him, he should be mature enough to talk about things. Remind him that there are about a million decisions to be made when a wedding is involved, and youd like his input!
The first thing you need to decide though, TOGETHER, is how long you want this engagement to last. My fiance and I chose to be engaged for at least a year because we dont want to be rushed through what should be an enjoyable time, we want to plan a wonderful wedding (even though hes not interested in much of the details), and of course, part of engagement is preparing for the MARRIAGE, not just the wedding.
Once you get some input from him on how long you want to wait, YOU CHOOSE the date. Trust me if he doesnt throw out any suggestions (especially if you ask him) he wont mind if you pick it!! Dont feel bad about it.
Its pretty simple. Men arent great communicators, and theyre rarely interested in wedding planning! Your fiance can be absolutely in love and just dying to marry you, and still not care much about the wedding. Its a girl thing.
So theres my thoughts on the issue. Keep him heads up about your planning and encourage his input, but dont push it. Just because hes not interested in wedding details does NOT mean hes not ready to marry you! Good luck!!
2007-02-23 11:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you been engaged so far?
Sometimes it may take a little bit to start thinking about a date for the wedding.
Enjoy being engaged for a while, especially if he's not wanting to decide just yet.
For example, my fiance and I got engaged the last week in Aug '06. Two weeks later we had a season (spring/summer) and a year ('08). It took a bit to figure out a date, maybe a month or so.
2007-02-23 20:20:08 · answer #2 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep bringing it up. You're not REALLY engaged until you've made plans to get married. Engaged doesn't mean you're wearing a ring, it means you two are PLANNING TO GET MARRIED (with or without a ring). If you're not planning - you're not engaged. Give it some time - but not an infinite amount; after a while, decide if you're going to stick around or not; you could always give him the ring back, and tell him to re-propose when he feels he's ready to set a date and go ahead with the marriage - and go date other people in the meantime. Perhaps you will find a guy who is truly ready to get married, and not just throwing you a bone by getting "engaged" with no plans of marriage.
2007-02-23 18:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
are you newly engaged? my husband didnt want to talk about dates at first. he finally agreed on our to get married on our 7 year aniiversery which was april 1, 2006. (yes april fools, no it wasnt a joke) it just happened to be on a saturday and our anniversery. if youve been engaged for a while, then just ask him why he wont help you pick a date. or just pick one and let him know thats what youve decided. good luck
2007-02-23 17:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You had better work on it, because you are not really officially engaged unless you have a ring and a date. If he won't set a date, he may have just given you a ring to quiet you down.
2007-02-23 21:46:33 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I like the previous answer..... you give him a date that you like and if he doesn't like it also, then tell him you guys can discuss a date together right now... that way its over and done with. Good Luck
2007-02-23 17:50:00 · answer #6 · answered by totallylovableandinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him if he wants a long life engagment, or does he really want to get married. You have to deside what you want, do you want to get married? If you do, then ask, or I would say, see ya I don't have time for games
2007-02-23 17:55:18 · answer #7 · answered by Dee G 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he won't talk about it, then write down some suggestions and give them to him and ask him to help you decide. If he still has nothing to say pick one yourself and tell him don't ask him.
2007-02-23 19:02:17 · answer #8 · answered by Justyn's Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he's not talking about it, just pick one and tell him. If he doesn't like it he will pipe up! :)
2007-02-23 17:32:49 · answer #9 · answered by jaye 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This could be a red flag!!
2007-02-23 17:46:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋