My little sister copies my cousin, who's into stuff like My Chemical Romance. She changed her wardrobe, her clothing, her music tastes, her diet (she wants to be veg because of my cousin, and nows she's pale from lack of proper nutrition), her attitude and everything! I'm very scared by how she idolizes my cousin. The results are drastic, and I wish my sister could be an individual. She will not confirm nor deny she copies my cousin, but it's really obvious! What should I do! She's young and I don't want her to do anything she would seriously regret, like start cutting herself or anything. My cousin even pierced her own ears the last time she visited the house!
2007-02-23 09:20:07 · 15 answers · asked by tres_maqnifique 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well its nothing wrong with wanting to be like someone,but you should never change your personality.Let her know you understand that yals cousin is her idle but let her know that she doesn't have to change her personality.
2007-02-23 09:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you saying you have never worn something that you thought looked good on someone else, and maybe even went and bought it?Your sister is normal in this aspect.As far as her health, if she gets sick enough, your parents will notice and do somethign I'm sure.If they dont just call the local authorities.Has your cousin died from peirccing her own ears?If a person knows how to do it, whats the difference of doing it yourself or paying someone else to do the same thing you know how to do?Your sister will eventually move on.Just for kicks tho, start imitating your sister lol!
2007-03-03 07:11:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much time do you spend with your sister? Maybe she is following someone else because she wants to be attached to someone. Show her some articles or stories about people that follow that kind of lifestyle. also, it might be just a fad, it will probably wear off soon. Have you spoken with your parents, maybe they could help you. People go through many stages in their life time, usually they go back to their roots and what is acceptable in their household. Let her express herself and don't keep telling her she is wrong about everything she is doing. One way to make someone go the other way, is to tell them they are wrong. Just be there for her, she probably thinks what you are doing is crazy too. she will grow out of it.
2007-03-03 08:47:18 · answer #3 · answered by Deborah D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well..start talking some sense into her..the clothes and music is ok..but the attitude and not eating?.that's a different story..take a closer look at your sister..see if she really has changed or she's just being influenced by your cousin but still in her right mind..
2007-03-02 23:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should arrange it that the cousin does not come over as much and maybe talk to your cousin's parents about the cousins influence on your sister. also, do not encourage you sister by telling her how much you don't like her wardrobe, that will only make her want to keep doing it.
2007-03-03 08:43:26 · answer #5 · answered by dustbunny319 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advice would be if she does start anything drastic, it's intervention time. Just sit her down and tell [don't yell] her that she can be an individual, but also recognize what she wants [if it's for attention]. And maybe reach a compromize that she won't do anything drastic, but just be comfortable with herself.
2007-03-03 07:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by Illusen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand you! My little sister was like that with me! She did everything that I did...I wasn't exactly the type of person that she should have been looking up to either...I talked to her and so did my mom, but she didn't want to hear it...my mom finally decided to put her into counsiling and I find that it helped her tremendously! Maybe you can try hanging out with her and talking to her about it. Good Luck!
2007-02-28 06:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by He's my world 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even however you do no longer opt to pay attention it from everybody, she looks as much as you. you are the closest woman parent in her existence. She basically needs to be such as you because of the fact she admires you. If it rather bothers you that lots, tell her she could start up making her very own (good) judgements. prepare her to be a pacesetter and the thank you to be self sustaining particularly of being aggravated. help her and set a good occasion for her.
2016-10-01 21:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by hardage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong in idolising anyone.....she is little as you say....she will come out of this infatuation eventually....no two person can be exactly same so she is bound to find her limits.......bear with her......she is an INDIVIDUAL and will find her own feet soon..
2007-03-03 00:42:43 · answer #9 · answered by P'quaint! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats fine but i think that ur sister has a problem she could having the anarexia. i think you should talk to your cousin and ask her if she could talk to your sister or change a bit, or it could be so she will get more attention
2007-03-02 22:55:55 · answer #10 · answered by fonzi j 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋