My boyfriend left his myspace signed in on my computer. I know that he has been talking to these girls who are "just friends" so i snooped which I shouldnt have and found out he gave her his number and said well it's not like my girlfriend will find out. He's told her shes cute. and they have exchanged pictures. Do I confront him? or do I not because I had no right reading his stuff.
2007-02-23 09:19:11 · 30 answers · asked by linkin15park17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, you shouldn't have read his stuff, but he also shouldn't have done what he did. You are willing to own up to what you shouldn't have done, so he should be willing to do the same. You should definitely talk to him about it. The fact that he is so obvious about sneaking behind your back is not right. You deserve an explanation, and it really better be a good one...
2007-02-23 09:23:51 · answer #1 · answered by Liza 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did a wrong move by getting into his personal stuff. Is not like you two are married or anything, right?
And apparently he did something wrong too by hiding from you the fact that he might be or trying to cheat. But is not for sure.
So, you can do two three things:
Do nothing. See what happens, keep an eye open… or both eyes, and if you find him cheating, you know what to do.
Talk to him but don’t be so direct, just say that somehow you heard that he has been exchanging pics with other girls. If he ask how you know, you can “extend the truth” and say that a friend that you don’t want to say the name saw his pic on some girls computer. See what he has to say about it. But don’t be surprised he denies anything… you be the judge and decide what to do at that point.
And last, talk to him about it but be 100% honest, tell him you sat down on the computer and realized the page was still signed on, and that you started to look around to see who he knew (his friends) and got surprised to see those girls and the exchange of pics. Tell him you are very sorry for getting on his stuff, but that you couldn’t help it when you saw that he was exchanging pics with other girls, calling them cute, and that how in the world he goes and tell them that you won’t find out about it, like he is hiding from you.
If you choose the last option (I would), you can tell him that you are sorry, and that you promise not to spy on him ever again, but only if he promises to be serious about the relation, at least while you two are officially together. Otherwise, is better to brake up now than be sorry later.
2007-02-23 09:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is obvious that if you snooped that there are some trust issues present in the relationship. It is not right that you went through his myspace but it is also wrong for him to be going behind your back with other girls. The problem here is that if you do decide to leave it alone you will always wonder who he is with and what he is doing and that will eat you alive. Your best bet is to confront him about it and try to get the real story on what is going on from him. If he continues to show you that you cannot trust him and he can not be faithful then I think you have no other choice then to end it.
2007-02-23 09:24:54 · answer #3 · answered by Michael S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He made a mistake when he left it signed on. That's like leaving a diary wide open and expecting people not to walk over and read it. I bet he'd have done the same thing to you. Do you think he'd accept it if you had the type of cute boy 'just friends' that you exchange pics and phone numbers with behind his back? Sure, confront him but it will probably cause him to be more careful about covering his tracks. He sounds like he will try and get away with anything he can as long as you don't find out. You may want to consider saying, 'So long, Chump' before this guy really hurts you. He just sounds like any other dawg to me. You are worth more than being treated like that. Find a guy that agrees with me.
2007-02-23 10:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by Im Listening 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't confront him you'll always be wondering and second guessing everything....I would be Honest and say he left his myspace open on your computer...and you happend to read that he gave some girl his number, and how will "you' find out...
Ask him straight up....Find out NOW if he's interested in hooking up with someone else...or not. I'm sure once you confront him, he'll go on the defence and turn it all around so that it's your fault for snooping* Umm NO* It's HIS fault for typing in that stuff. Caught Red Handed* on YOUR computer!*!~*!*! Tell him he sure does have "balls" giving out his number to other girls...on YOUR computer....then tell him to go have his fun with them cuz you're done~
2007-02-23 09:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay forgive me for being blunt, but i'm an old broad of 30 and have been through enough to know when it's time to get lippy. of COURSE you should confront him. the fool was careless enough to leave his myspace logged in, and it's YOUR computer. if it was like the library computer or something, that would be snooping, but he left the information for you to see on your own computer, and it deals with you. now let me ask the hard question:
do you really care about keeping the respect of someone who's doing this behind your back?
2007-02-23 09:24:58 · answer #6 · answered by Jan F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can live with the fact that you know your boyfriend is doing dirt behind your back. Then keep quite, but good luck with that! I guarantee that that little voice inside of your head thats telling you that everything is ok, will someday become loud voice telling you something is wrong. At some point everytime he goes somewhere, you'll be wondering where he is...what he's doing and who he's with. You will probably be checking his Myspace page every chance get to see if you can find something. Save yourself the stress!! Confront him!! Yeah, he may get mad, but whats done is done and the dude is still wrong.
2007-02-23 10:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by the anomaly23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's bad that you snooped but you can't help being curious.
2 things...One - Yes, confront him. or
Two - Here's what I would do...make a list of the girls and you add them to your favorites to keep track. If their myspace is not private, ask them what they know about the guy (your bf) that's pictured in their friends. Even invite them as a friend.
It's kinda sneaky but it looks like he's playin' you.
2007-02-23 09:26:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats his bad for leaving it on. If you want to pretend it didnt happen, and if that doesnt eat you up inside than dont say something. but i think that you should. The cat is already out of the bag, so you should confront him on it, cause you dont want a guy that does this kind of stuff. what a loser. LOL, or write her a message on myspace and say..."his girlfriend did find out"
2007-02-23 09:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by sjhockeyfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately talk to him about it...
To be honest with you, what he did is not excusable...its basically cheating...he's keeping secrets behind your back about another girl, exchanging numbers (which points in the direction of getting to know this girl more - perhaps even meeting up with her)...and he is making you look like a fool by telling her you won't find out...he's flirting with her, with no guilt about his actions against you.
I'd dump his butt! You did nothing wrong, girl!
2007-02-23 09:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋