In my previous question i asked if you thought this guy liked me, and all said defi, and some said ask him out!
He's VERY VERY popular, and im shy about asking guys out!! What do i do, its easier said than done to "over come your fears!" I'll get mocked for life if he says no!
2007-02-23 09:16:57 · 44 answers · asked by CompleteCreation90 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He never noticed me
- I had to sit at a table with him in art class
- He mades jokes about me (which were funny) to make me and his mates laugh
- He stopped making jokes about me and made general jokes
- He started talking to me a breaks and lunches and had water fights with me
- I went out with him and a big group and asked me to go on a ride with him twice!
2007-02-23 09:27:11 · update #1
A much safer approach is to simply talk to him. Talk about regular stuff. Once you start talking to each other, you'll both get a feel for how compatible you'd be on a date. Then you can decide if it's worth the risk, and who knows, once you start talking, maybe he will be the one to ask you out.
2007-02-23 09:20:12 · answer #1 · answered by Liza 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As hard as this is - it comes down to one thing, do you want to know if he likes you or don't you? I was the queen of shy in high school, so I know how you feel. I also know how it feels to look back and wonder how things would've been if I'd just taken a few chances. Think about it. If he likes you - it could be the start of great memories. If not, you might be a little embarrased for awhile, but new things happen everyday at school and it won't be long before it's OLD news and they'll pick on someone new. Bottom line? Take a deep breath and just start by talking to him. If you're too shy to just ask him out, start out slow by asking him to help you with homework (make sure it's one he's good at) or invite him to a small party or get together - or if you're brave enough, see if he wants to just hang out sometime.
2007-02-23 09:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being mocked has little to do with his turning you down, and much more to do with how you handle it.
First of all, ask him in private, not in the hall during passing period. Second, plan what you want to say. Don't just blurt out, "Will you go out with me?" Ask a specific question. "A lot of people I know are going to (do) ____. Would you like to go with me?"
Lastly, be prepared for the fact that he MIGHT say no. Put on your best game face, and be non-chalant. "Okay. Well, see ya later."
If someone tries to mock you later, blow them off, too. Shrug, and go, "Yeah, he said no. Oh, well. There are lots of cute guys in this school." There's no gain in mocking someone if you can't get a rise out of them.
If you're thinking, "I could never do that! If he says no, I'll burst into tears right there!", you'd be better off waiting a couple of years before you start dating.
2007-02-23 09:34:32 · answer #3 · answered by trai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take baby steps. First you have to start a conversation. Talk about school, sports, movies, any subject at all. You can tell by the way he reacts to you whether he's interested in you or not. If he is, you can talk a little more and get to know him. If not, well, you tried. As for rejection, guys deal with it all the time. It's just a part of life-- no big deal. You just move on when it happens. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
2007-02-23 09:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your too shy don't ask him out. I've never asked a guy out. Just act like yourself and talk to him. Play flirt with him. Ask him what he likes to do in his spare time, what kind of movies he like to watch and stuff like that. Once you really get moving and if you have anything in common with him you can maybe say hey there's this movie I've been wanting to see, do you want to come on Saturday night with me or are you too busy. You can ask if he has plans for the weekend before you ask him the question. Oh ya also make sure he's not dating anyone. He's the only one who can tell you that. Good luck.
2007-02-23 09:22:56 · answer #5 · answered by shy_gal2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you'll get mocked for a minute but people are too busy living their lives to think about yours.
Second....decide if being mocked for a minute is worth maybe getting to know this guy better.
Part of being mature is making decisions and then dealing with the consequences.
2007-02-23 09:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really hate to say this, but if you want to ask him out first you have to answer these questions:
1) Are you yourself popular? (answer needs to be yes)
2) Have any other cool guys ever liked you?
3) Does he even know you? (If you're part of the popular crowd, then yes)
4) Does he already have a girlfriend or openly like another girl? (The only acceptable answers are: No girlfriend, doesn't like another girl)
Don't worry, being shy about asking guys out is normal -- it's just like me too! Before you ask him out, try to establish some relationship. Talk to him online and flirt a little. Try to hang out around him. If he plays sports, watch his games and cheer for him as he scores a goal or shoots a basket. Some ways to flirt are: dropping your pencil and asking him to pick it up, mouthing him answers in class if he needs help, or passing him notes, etc. Another idea before going out with him alone is to get a friend (who he knows and is also popular) and email him casually and say, "Hey do you want to come to the movies tomorrow night with Laura and I?" You can also invite a WHOLE group of friends, including him and his friends, but purposly sit next to him. Your relationship will blossom. Say something like "Hey, this was a great movie! And that other new movie coming out sounds good too! We should totally see it together!" and then he will be prepared for when you say, "Do you want to come see that new movie with me Friday?" Plus, you won't make a fool of yourself, esp. if you say it casually and lightly in the theater so if he's like "No" you can be like, "I didn't mean just us! The whole group!" or something.
I really hope that that helps!
2007-02-23 09:28:22 · answer #7 · answered by je suis mode 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ugh, don't listen to people who say use email. If you get rejected, you don't want there to be a written record. Ask him face to face. You said he's very popular, so that means lots of girls like him. If you step up and ask, you've already done more than 90% of the people who like him. It's expected people will ask him out, it's expected he will turn a lot of people down, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't try, because I guarantee you this:
If you get turned down, you won't get mocked for life, but if you don't ask him out, you will forever wonder if he might have said yes.
2007-02-23 09:23:13 · answer #8 · answered by 006 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If the guy wants to go out with you, don't you think he will ask you ??? If not, ask yourself WHY ? I would rather go with a guy that ask me out rather then the other way around. Makes both feel more comfortable I think.
You just need to consider~~What is the worse that can happen and go from there. Is it worth the risk of what you dread ?? Only you can answer that~~~Jill
2007-02-23 09:28:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont go asking him out then. Try to do it all incognito. Drop bigger clues you like him, but think of an out, so if it turns out he isnt interested, you can tell him he's crazy. ha ha, and where did he ever get that idea. Flirt, and act like life is wonderful with what you got, and he will want to be a part of that action. Be happy around him, but not annoying, and youll see him come around. make sure you get on his radar
2007-02-23 09:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by sjhockeyfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋