okay,so theres this guy that im soo inlove with and then we were about to get engaged,intell shiit happened everything was PERFECT..are family loved eachother,and we chhose to stay virgins till marriage..and im saying everything was perfect,..so he traveled and met an old friend..and supposably loved her more then me and told me he cant be with me..i cant stop crying for weeks,after a month i supposably was over everything..he left me in bits of pieces..and i loved him sooo much..so today i was with a friend and saw him and he could not stop staring..him and his friends..and his friends knew and he just kept staring..and then i felt like every memmory came thundering on my heart and started bauling [after he left].im soo inlove with him..but i cant forget him..i love him..i really need advice..im soo hurt..i just wish we can go back...but hes engaged with her..so theres no hope..and me and my mom were soo hurt..shes like if he ever comes again,i will never say yes to hiim..but i icnt
2007-02-23 09:14:25 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i swear,im crying right now..i love him alot..
:'(
2007-02-23 09:18:46 · update #1
hes 21 and im 18
2007-02-23 09:23:51 · update #2
the answer to ur question is simple, yes of course u have to move on, but the difficult part is how, from what i know is start from ur head, i meant litteraly ur mind the way u think, u have to reverse it.
if u actually take a minute , a person start to like a person when they start to think "oh he is nice etc" and then u decide to like the person.
so what i meant by reversing it , is just start to think u have a life and goal , such as career , family or even things u want to accomplice before u with him.
and believe it or not, sometimes in human nature the like drama , the like the feeling of being sad.
u'd grief /sad /hurt , but is time to set ur mind straight and get it together , remember the next one could be better than the one whom past u .
is his lost not the other way around.
plus u are really young , there are a whole world out there u can explore and enjoy.
u can do it.:)
2007-02-23 09:23:53 · answer #1 · answered by mazdaspeedprotege 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about what happened to you...however hurt and brokenhearted you may feel right now, you will get over it...we all do...first of all think it is not worth being with someone who does not love you and obviously he didn't...maybe this girl was just an excuse for something he didn't have the courage to tell you before...you don't stop loving someone (or start for that matter) overnight...it is a process and he had probably stopped loving you long before...this girl just gave him tha perfect excuse to leave you...you must stop thinking about him and start thinking about you now...you deserve better than him, you deserve a man who really loves you and who can be with you for the rest of your life...every cloud has a silver lining and if this happened to you it's because he was not the man for you and because you are still to meet the person who will love you like you deserve...you will meet someone better and then when you look back you will be amazed at how you could even love this person or think about marrying him...trust me!
2007-02-23 09:26:49 · answer #2 · answered by Queen of the Rÿche 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mate.... there isn't alot you can do at this time because it is going to take a while. Throw away everything that reminds you of him.... clothes,photos,cds,books and etc... Delete all his messages on ur phone and cell and maybe emails and after that let time do its thing with your heart..... And.. go out with friends you dont necessarily have to rush another guy cause u might do something you regret.... just spend time with friends and family and forgive him and let him go. Cause theres someone else out there who's looking for you and glad that your still single
2007-02-23 09:22:24 · answer #3 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're going through that...I've been lucky not to run into my ex boyfriend. I'm afraid to have the same feelings you had run through my mind.
All you can do is give youreself more time. At least he was honest with you and didn't cheat!
Don't worry...everything happens for a reason! =)
Good luck sweetie...
2007-02-23 09:21:19 · answer #4 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you sound extremely young. Yes, get over him. He's a jerk and you deserve someone that will love you completely and not forget about you and pick up with someone else on a trip away! he didn't really love you if he could do that. And love will come again for you.
2007-02-23 09:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by Vexer D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems like he made a choice and followed through with it. It hurts, but move on, there is nothing you can do at this point. You can't change his mind and make him do anything he doesnt want to. Yes it hurts, but it happens.
2007-02-23 09:19:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As heartbreaking as this might be you need to accept it's over and he's moved on. It's natural for your feelings to get stirred up when you see him so maybe it's better to try to avoid places you might bump into him. You will get over this but the first step is to truly accept it.
2007-02-23 09:18:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He found someone else he's serious about; you gotta let go, sweetie. Try being happy for him, maybe. There really are alot of other fish in the sea, too, hon.
2007-02-23 09:22:55 · answer #8 · answered by john b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, he'll be back sweetz.. If he could breakup with u to be with her, then i say he can definitely break up with her to be with you if he realises that he loves you more than her! so , what u can do is , save your self respect and move on!! I'm sure ure a very beautiful gal and will hav many guyzz waitin to sweeep you off your feet! :)
lods of affection and prayers
2007-02-23 09:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by zany 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No let him go,on his own, it's so typical. Shawty why you still trippin' over him, steady watchin' ready so you can wipe his ***?
2007-02-23 09:18:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋