can someone please help me?? i can't figure this out?

Question

im in 8th grade and im 14. i'm not popular, but im not a geek or anything like that. Theres a girl in my language arts and health class. shes in the same "social class" as me, but i've never really talked to her or her friends. my gym teacher asked me what exercise she was doing and i didnt know, so without the gym teacher seeing, she mouthed the answer to me. thats definatly not the reason i feel this way about her though. i wanna get to know her, but i dont know how. Shes usually quiet, but i see her talking to her friends. she's smart, but she never raises her hand in class. shes always with her friends and i dont wanna try anything that will make her think i'm stupid. i dont know if i would wanna go out with her in the near future or not, but i really wanna get to know her. I was wondering if any1 could give me ideas of how to talk to her or approach her without telling me anything like "be yourself" or "stay cool". a trained monkey could tell me that.if u got any ideas,please tell

i said please dont tell me "be myself" or things like that, which includes "follow your heart"

she elped me in gym class about a month ago, no offense, but that wouldn't be the best thing to start out a conversation

Answer 1

You approach of just getting to know her is a good one. When you happen to be close to her, and it's an ok time to talk, start the conversation with something that you're both familiar with. Like "thanks for helping me out in gym class. I had no idea what the teacher was talking about!" Talk about school stuff first, because it's something you both have opinions about, and you won't be stuck for words. As soon as you're both comfortable talking about school together, the conversation will naturally flow to other things, and you'll be on your way to getting to know her. Breaking the ice is tough, but when she mouthed the answer to you in gym, she gave you an opening. Good luck!

p.s. I know it's no consolation now, but trust me -- it really does get easier to get to know girls as you get older!

Answer 2

1) Try to sit next to her in class if you can, and start a kind of polite conversation, like "Did you think that that math quiz was hard?". Before you know it, you'll be talking about more stuff than before!

2) In gym class, if you play a game where you have teams and you're on her team, watch if she has trouble scoring or throwing the ball. You can walk up and give her advice. Also, you can ask HER for advice!

3) Figure out her interests. If she likes a certain team, what sports she plays, the TV shows that she likes. Try and familiarize yourself with those specific things. When you're getting a drink at the water fountain or sitting with her in the library, start talking about those things! You will find that you start to have a great conversation.

4) Keep your cool. Girls like guys that are funny, but sensitive. Being good looking won't hurt either, but that doesn't really matter. (Oh, and girls go crazy over Hollister JAKE cologne. Just a fact.)

5) Email and IM her. Just have small chats. You can get to know her more through the computer because you're not talking to her face. If you do this before you start talking to her, she won't be at all surprised and you will have alreay established something.


Hope those things help and good luck!

Answer 3

Just ask her a question about one of the classes you both take together, make small talk from there. You say she smart but shy? And you don't want her to think your stupid, will I’m not a trained monkey, but your never going to know if she likes you as a friend or if she would like to get to know you better as a boyfriend until you make the first move.

Just make small talk with her from anything on form, did you find the home work hard last night to, do you remember when the report is do for what ever class. Just start small and work from there your be fine.

Good luck from this trained monkey

Answer 4

Well, since it seems that she is more than happy to help you in class, then it shouldn’t be too difficult for you to talk to her.

A nice “thank you for your help” would be good to start with. And if is been some time since that day, then just tell her that you never got the chance to really thank her.

From there, you can take any direction. I am going to tell you the “monkey talk” and repeat to you: be yourself, and don’t try to impress her. Is the easiest way. If she likes you, you will impress her by doing the best you do: being yourself.

If she is interested, she will look at you, and smile when talking, so you’ll know you can talk to her, and maybe start doing homework together, and go out to the movies or something on the weekends.

And if she shows no interest, then is ok, be cool about it too, still you could just become friends, and later on she might start liking you, and if not, there will be more, don’t worry about it.

Good luck, and have fun.

Answer 5

Look, you sound like a bright kid, and you've just answered your own question. "Being yourself" will definitely count in your favor, so do that. Nothing will annoy her more than if you act like an idiot by not being yourself. Don't go doing anything that's out of character for you.
Maybe start up a conversation with her about homework or something, ask her where she lives or what her favorite music is, or if she's seen a new movie that's out. Just general talk for starters, so you can get the lines of communication open, and move forward, in friendship, first. If she seems to be friendly towards you, maybe then, ask her if she wants to sit with you at lunch, or if she minds you sitting with her. You can decide if you want to go out with her after you're friends and you get to know her first. Her friends are her friends for a reason. You should just talk to her first, as friends, and everything else will follow. Just go with the flow. First think of her as a friend and talk to her like you talk to your friends, then see where that takes you.

Very best of luck.

Answer 6

Wow! You've got great insight for a 14 year old! You are sure to go far in life!

As far as the girl is concerned, I'm not sure how you could approach her because she's always with her friends. If you know her last name, you could look her up in the phone book and give her a call - most girls feel totally comfortable talking to a guy on the phone!

I wish you well!

Answer 7

Just talk to her like any other person ud wanna get to know. Like one of ur guy friends. If u want to start a conversation w/ her start by something that may be going on. If gym class invite her to play a game u may be playing w/ ur friends or after school it may just happen that ur walking the same way she is. Things like that

Answer 8

Is there anyway you could impress her (Like through sports, musical talent, etc)? If so try to show off a little in front of her, but act like she doesn't exist. That way...If you do make an impression, than she will aproach you. Otherwise, just try to come across as confident and ask id you can join hre for lunch or something. And I hate to say it, but-"be yourself". Don't go too far out on a limb to impress her. There are plenty of girls who will be looking for someone like you down the road.

Answer 9

firstly i dont appreiciate being called a trained monkey specially when im trying to help
first off if shes quesit shes probably shy
and smarts good but it doesnt automatially mean shell think anybody not smart dumb
but heres my solution
either come uo to her and say ahigh and ask her a question about sumthing you "missed" in calss
so shell give you the answer and talk to her for like a second then leave gradually build up to long conversation this wa you get to know her

or one day if ou bump into eachother in the hall compliment her
something small not bug or overly needy
ad i t might start a conversation

do anything to start conversaton and to get to kno her friends if their important to her and they dont like you you might as wel frget her name

ahh that did sound like sumthing a trained monkey would say
but believe me, girls just want to be noticed for mrore than looks and we want sumone who cares but is manly to

Answer 10

Tell her, "thanks" for telling you the answer when the gym teacher was on your case. Then, use this as an opening to talk with her.

This may sound absurd to you, but simply tell her that you would like to get to know her better. Tell her that you think she's an interesting person. Let her talk. Be her friend.

Good Luck!