my daughter is adopted should we look for her parents
2007-02-23 09:07:32 · 8 answers · asked by jaymee s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
by the way my daughter is 14
2007-02-23 09:17:15 · update #1
That should be up to her they are her real parents!
you need to ask her what she wants!
Good luck!
2007-02-23 17:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a toughy, on one hand you have a child with the right to know her history on the other you have that childs parents who made a concious decision to adopt her out for what ever reason and they may not want to be contacted. i was brought up in a step family where until i was 10 thought my dad was my dad now i am 30 and to be totally honest i have no intrest in seeing the person who is on the birth cert. he wasn't there when i had the mumps, a cold, had my heart broken, taught me to drive...this maybe how your child will see you compared to her "birth" parents. she may want to know her history for medical reasons or whatever but i say as long as she knows the truth, you never deny her the ability an support to search for these people i think she will grow into a well ajusted young woman with respect and love for the people that GAVE her a life. not just allowed air into her lungs.
good luck
2007-02-23 09:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by wild_witchy_one 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if she is comfortable with it. I was adopted and my mom left if in my hands if I wanted to find my birthmom. I did at age 23.
Personally I think you should wait a couple more years but if you both are comfortable with it then go for it. I wish you 2 the best!
2007-02-23 09:21:15 · answer #3 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean if your daughter already know she's adopted well you should leave it up to her. Only she can decide if she wants to meet them now or later on. You should ask her. If by any chance she wants to meet them, then you should look for them no matter what. She deserves to know who they are and her biological parents also. Good luck
2007-02-23 09:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by shy_gal2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was adopted... and I appreciate now that my adopted parents left the decision entirely up to me. When I was ready... I asked to meet my mom. It needs to be on HER time.
2007-02-23 09:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ferrari and april answered this good
everyone want's to know where they really came from sooner or later
may or may not get along with real parents, but atleast have the choice to meet them
2007-02-23 09:14:38 · answer #6 · answered by myddad 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants to sure but if the only reason to find her parent is because you want to then no dont push her into somthing she dosnt want to do
2007-02-23 09:16:14 · answer #7 · answered by Vanessa Anne Hudgens 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wants to it would be nice if she has your consent, help and support.
2007-02-23 09:10:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋