I have been in a long term relatonship (6 years) with a wonderful boyfriend. We kind of met through that same old scenario, rich girl meets poor boy and family hates poor boy. But, we eventually got over that hill. The thing is , over the years, i finished school and he didn't and now im working a good job and he's still trying to pursue a career in music. Recently, he moved to another state to pursue his career and then afterwards, we decided that i would move to. But, lately he's been saying things like, " i think i should go and get my life together so i have more to offer you". My reply is " why cant we grow together and work together to get the life we want". He feels that im making him feel like less of a man, and i dont want to do that. Now, i dont know what to do. Should i continue on being with him or just let him go?
2007-02-23 08:58:23 · 8 answers · asked by missy_r01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My father always told us that a poor excuse is better than none. He seems to be offering a poor excuse to push away from the person who has stood by him while he chases his dreams.
This is a tough situation you are in - can he explain to you in clear terms what his definition of getting his life together; what he means by having more to offer you etc. Is he fulfilling your definition of a relationship that can continue to grow and blossom? At the end of the day, each of you deserve happiness.
He should count his blessings to have someone like you through all of these years!
I wish you all of the best in dealing with this and hope that in the end both of you end up happy.
2007-02-23 10:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by scpathfinder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to be true to yourselves. If being together isn't working for one of you it isn't working for either of you really. Just talk to him, ask him what he really wants and be honest with him about what you want. And like I said in the beginning do what feels right whether it makes sense or not.
2007-02-23 09:03:14 · answer #2 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it.
He feels like he needs to get something better because he's not making any money doing what he is doing.
Talk to him about growing together and helping each other.
Good Luck
2007-02-23 09:03:25 · answer #3 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooo...that's hard. But what he's saying, at least from my experience, is that he thinks you'd be better off without him, and trying to force yourself into being with him is only going to drive him further away. It will be hard, but have a serious talk with him. You may want to try a trial separation, but I think you're going to have to let this one go. I'm sorry...
2007-02-23 09:04:14 · answer #4 · answered by aldera22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a self-esteem problem on his part. If he's resistant to staying then I'd let him go. If you talk him into staying chances are good that he'll come to resent you and you him. Let him go. Who knows, he might come back. And if not, you still did the right thing.
2007-02-23 09:03:13 · answer #5 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, you can't convince a man he's good enough for you. In all honesty, if he believe's he isn't good enough, then is he right? I understand your point of view, i truly do, but maybe it's best to let him go for now, and hope he realizes what he's missing.
2007-02-23 09:04:19 · answer #6 · answered by passionatemilf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go he feels like you have surpassed him in life and it makes him feel like a failure he needs to go or he will never be happy
2007-02-23 09:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT LOOK LIKE HE NOT SURE WHAT HE WANT.HE NEED TO TRY TO MAKE IT GOOD WHAT YOU ALREADY GOT ANDSTOP TRYING TO RUN EVERY WHERE ANDLOOK FOR MORE.
2007-02-23 09:04:49 · answer #8 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋