she seems really nice and I have seen her with deoderant in the rest room (so you know its bad). But she smells really bad and she smokes, its hard to be in the same room with her at times. So how should I tell her, everyone talks about her, behind her back.
What should I do?
2007-02-23 08:53:28 · 21 answers · asked by Elle 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Anonymously e-mail her! Create a new e-mail account with her name on yahoo or something and send it to her work e-mail address all day with messages about what people are saying. You could say you know that she's trying and tell her she can see a dermatologist for BO ... they have a liquid medication she can put on at night to dry out the sweat glands.
This may clear the air!
Use the computer at your local library.
2007-02-23 12:48:00 · answer #1 · answered by Reserved 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It might not seem the kindest thing, but try to tell her as gently as possible, it's better then talking behind her back. Also consider she may have a medical issue or may not, for whatever odd reason, have access to proper hygene facilities. But It's sort of like comming out of the bathroom with TP hanging out of your britches, wouldn't you rather someone told you gently instead of laughing at you and letting you continue on to be laughed at by others?
2007-02-23 09:18:54 · answer #2 · answered by nemsethcszardescu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may have an illness that causes her to have a body odor no matter what she does. I would befriend her and just pull her to the side or get her number and call her at home and tell her. You could suggest that she go to a doctor because there is a diagnosis for this, and medication to help. What she will need after you break the news is support. So I would not suggest that you be the one to tell her if you are not going to support her afterward. I'm glad you're considering the idea of helping.
2007-02-23 08:59:11 · answer #3 · answered by Fee4Lyfe 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Just be forthright with her. No matter how she takes your explaination on her smell. Tell her its bothering not only you but the rest of the people. A horrible smell is a turn off no matter how you take it. Get to the side and have a heart to heart with her and tell her that everyone is talking behind her back. Let her know that you dont mean anything unkind but tell her she needs to clean her act up .. Tell her to shower and have clean clothes on and dont be smoking cause that smell isnt very clean.Get tough and dont bat an eye when you tell her.
2007-02-23 09:02:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I had a co-worker like that. And we worked in submarines, in the summer *ews!* I finally said, "Girl, I used to get reaaly bad BO in the middle of the day, too until i started taking a shower right before I come to work, and I had towash my shirt every day, and get extras." She was not thrilled, but when I put it in a "me, too' perspective, it wasn't so insulting, like the other peole were. She started following my advice because i was being respectful to her, and helping her out, also. Believ me, she smalled like a dumpster on a humid day, but I had to be nice or seem like a immature bully. Hope this works for you!
2007-02-23 09:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by hell hath no fury 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
There really is no way to be nice when you tell someone this. Don't beat around the bush, Just flat out tell them that they have B.O and it is hard to be around them. Then discuss proper hygene, such as using soap on the pits and deoderant. Sometime food can cause nasty B.O such as curry and indian food.
If they are offended and get mad at you maybe its for the best and they won't hang around you so much.
2007-02-23 09:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by luker 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Give her a gift basket from Bath and Body Works
2007-02-23 10:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go and tell her nicely that you think she should get checked out? I know a friend who had to get special deodorant for her body chemistry to remain balanced, so tell her you know of someone that's going through the same thing, the fact that she is carrying around deodorant let's me know she knows she smells! So do it in a sweet polite way
2007-02-23 08:57:57 · answer #8 · answered by Nish 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We had this problem at a place I worked once. Somebody bought some soap, shampoo and deodorant, and left it anonymously on their desk. They took the clue.
2007-02-23 08:56:53 · answer #9 · answered by aj1964 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Give her a nice gift basket full of bath products and hygiene products and a gift certificate to a spa with a steam room or sauna. If that doesn't work, ask to move your cubicle.
2007-02-23 08:57:53 · answer #10 · answered by Rosebudd 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋