They are very close and spend at least one afternoon a week together. Because she is sick, she hasn't been able to see him. He is constantly asking when she is going to come over and it is tearing me apart. Thanks for any advice.
2007-02-23 08:44:19 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
He's not going to understand the implications of cancer or even what it is, so I wouldn't even try to explain that. Just keep it really simple, that Nana doesn't feel good and is tired, and can't come to visit right now. Maybe you could sit down with him and help him make her a banner or poster and draw stuff for her- it will help him work out his fears and be a sweet thing for her to receive to. Best of luck to her.
2007-02-23 09:35:59 · answer #1 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that she has a bad boo boo and that she can't come over right now because of it. Have her call him a couple times a week so that he is still getting to talk to her. He is not old enough to understand the concept of cancer but he knows what it means to get hurt. Use simple terms and answer his questions very directly and simply, don't add detail. Good luck!! I will keep his grandmother in my prayers. I have someone close to me going through breast cancer as well, I know how devastating it can be.
2007-02-23 08:57:59 · answer #2 · answered by lover_of_paints_&_quarter_horses 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The average age for getting a mammograms is age 40. If you have a family history then you should have your first mammogram at the age of 35. There is a test you can have done to find out if you have the gene, it's a blood test. If you are that concerned you might want to talk to a doctor about this and then think hard about if that is right for you. I mean what will you do with the information if it comes out that you do have the gene. It's a hard choice to make, so think hard about it and go talk to a doctor. Good Luck
2016-05-24 03:21:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that you can explain in much detail to a child that age.
You may simply explain that his grandmother is sick and is not well enough to see him. It will be easier if the child has been sick himself , or seen a parent sick.
Is it possible to take the child to see his grandmother , even for a very short visit. ?
2007-02-23 08:59:09 · answer #4 · answered by mark 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him, but in terms that he can understand. He just really wants to see her and if that is possible it should be arranged.
We have always been completely honest with our sons illness. He was diagnosed at 17 with a stage IV abdominal sarcoma. I have a nephew who is three years old and visits his cousin frequently. He thinks my son is really cool. He knows that my son is very sick but has no problem relating to him at all. Kids are pretty amazing and adaptable. They pick up on the feelings of the adults around them . . as long as you're okay . .he'll be okay. Cancer is a rotten disease, but even worse is the isolation that can occur from 'not wanting to bother' the cancer patient. Find out if his grandmother wants to see him, in fact, you might want to encourage it. It may end up being the best medicine possible.
Good luck.
ACS: Helping Children When A Family Member Has Cancer
http://www.cancer.org/docroot/CRI/content/CRI_2_6X_Dealing_With_Diagnosis.asp?sitearea=CRI
2007-02-23 10:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by Panda 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just tell him that Grandmother is very sick. I don't think you have to be very specific, just let him know generally that she is ill. It would probably do them both a lot of good if he were to continue seeing her though.
2007-02-23 08:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by sm177y 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think 3 is a little young to explain cancer to just tell him she is sick why dont you take him to see her it might make her feel better and him
2007-02-25 02:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by mountainchowpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say she is not feeling well and that when she is better then they can be together. You dont have to go into detail cuz at that age they cannot understand.
2007-02-26 05:24:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well if she isn't going to die, and it can be cured, you would just tell him that she is sick, and can go see her later.
But...well if it is deadly then you could just let him go over for short hours! I'm very sorry! :-(
2007-02-23 09:34:20 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom has a very sickness that will casue her physical pain that keeps her from her daily activities. It will make her not be able to hang around other people im sorry but you will just have to break it to him. I am very sorry that your mom is very sick. I will pray for you. =)
2007-02-23 08:55:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋