ok i've read flirting articles and im not a bad flirt myself. but there is a girl i know that has done every flirting technique i know with me. nobody else. just me. but when i asked her out. she told me she wants to keep the friendly relationship more than a dating relationship. WHAT DOES THAT MEAN? she has been out with other people. sure i have talked to her for 3 years without asking her out. but i went out of my way to get to know her enough to ask her out and she turns me down! she has just recently (before i asked her out) started flirting with me really bad. she touches my hand when we talk. she looks in my eyes. SHE EVEN MAKES A BIG DEAL AND COMMENTS ABOUT MY EYES TO LET ME KNOW SHE IS LOOKING AT MY EYES!!!! yet. i ask her out and she says friends is better. what friends flirt, go out, hug, but dont start dating? i wanna know. help me please someone. i want her as mine!!! i want to fight the kids staring at her. i want to hold her under the stars. so help me please!
2007-02-23 08:43:48 · 6 answers · asked by confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, I want to commend you for asking her out right away instead of trying to slip beneath the radar by being her "friend". That avoids a lot of mixed signals, confusion, and hurt feelings.
Not only does she know where you stand right away, but it also saved you a lot of time.
psh, it drives me up the wall when guys do what you did. In my experience, I could really like someone back, (yes, it's pretty obvious to us girls when a guy likes us), but when he doesn't pursue me I don't know what to think and eventually assume he doesn't see me that way. Sometimes, it'll take me months to be able to finally see him as just a friend, and at that point, it's hard to go back for my own pride's sake unless he can change my perception of him.
She wants to keep the "friendly relationship"? Well, this is the point where you need to remember that you were the one who pretended like he didn't have any male anatomy to begin with. Why don't you stop pretending now and pursue her since she's obviously playing hard to get and wants you to man up and hunt her down?
2007-02-23 09:03:33 · answer #1 · answered by HallamFoe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay mate.... what you need to do is let her come to you. Im in the exact same position... Let her come to you.... like... flirt with her act like you didnt ask her out...Erm... when you see other girls give them your attention but at the sametime... give her your's confuse alittle to make her think..ohmigosh he doesnt like me and she'll have a coy look on her face and then smile at her.... keep that up for awhile and see what happens....Cause it seems she's playing with u like a puppet so get in the game. Play with her and let her know she's not the only one who can play....
Cause she either doesnt know she likes you alot more then shes thinks or she likes u as a mate
2007-02-23 16:52:04 · answer #2 · answered by ¸¸.•*´`*♥ Selah 21 ¸¸.•*´`*♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get the hint...she might just only want your friendship...or she is nervous....one of the two...wait awhile and then bring up again....saying that you would like to take her to a movie or to the mall alone....confindence is the key (act like u know what you want) Others girls are out there.....waiting for you...and you don't want to lose your friend....
SHE IS PROBABLY SHY ABOUT TAKING IT TO THE NEXT LEVEL>>>>
2007-02-23 16:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by hey_thanks_you_guys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-02-23 16:47:34 · answer #4 · answered by bob m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's not flirting in her books. do the same things to her, see if she feels anything.
2007-02-23 16:48:36 · answer #5 · answered by jean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will notice a fake confidence
2007-02-23 16:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋