There's a cute, attractive girl who likes me. She's very open, likes to be around a lot of people all the time, and seems to drink a little bit too much sometimes. I, on the other hand, am more closed, quiet, introverted. I do have tight bonds with a few people, but for the most part, I keep to myself often and meet very few new people. I also don't like to drink often and I really don't like to be in areas with a lot of people all the time (parties). Should I not go for the cute party-girl, or should I just find someone who's more like me--quiet, shy, etc.? I really don't know what I should do. Perhaps, this girl can get me to be more open, but I don't know if I'll feel comfortable making such a change so quickly.
2007-02-23 08:40:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Party girls are good for fun but not for a long term relationship.
2007-02-23 08:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by Harushnakarvikonivonich Hakopyan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think for you to appreciate the woman you'll eventually end up with, you need to experience all types of women. You're right, this could help open you up and get you to meet some people. I see that as a good thing. Listen, you can't be introverted your whole life. There's too much out there to keep to yourself.
Plus, it doesn't sound like you have a ton of options right now and if this girl digs you, then give it a shot. The only thing you have to lose is time alone. You stand to gain much more.
2007-02-23 16:51:45 · answer #2 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my experience, party girls are too wild for a shy guy (I used to be a party girl). Party girls are adventurous and outgoing and want the same in a guy. She may like you now, but you may end up being too "boring" in her eyes. Also, it might make you feel a little insecure that she is always drunk and getting hit on by other guys. She's having fun right now and probably not looking to change much. You should hang out with her as friends and try to be more outgoing. Who knows? Maybe you'll like all the friends you meet and start to be a party guy!
2007-02-23 16:47:58 · answer #3 · answered by THREE_X_A_LADY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should really read the book called Personality Plus by Florence Littauer. It would really help you in terms of dating and relationship by understanding temperaments and personalities. You sound like a Peaceful Phlegmatic (according to the book) and she sound more like a Popular Sanguine (according to the book). You guys would probably make a great couple since your temperaments compliment each other pretty well. However, she will not be able to change you nor will you be able to change her. Plus, she will constantly be wanting to make new friends because her temperament makes her the life of the party. Your temperament has you agreeable with everyone, but you do tend to be subtle and like you said, introverted, which makes it hard for you to make friends. By reading this book, you guys will be able to understand each other a lot better and have a more productive relationship. Take it into consideration. Hope this helped you.
2007-02-23 16:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by pauldhass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you need to figure out first if you two get along. Meeting new people is generally good, right? Just approach her and hang out with her, see if you like her company. You never know, you might click or you might not like her at all. In the long run your personalities might clash, but on the other hand you might balance each other out nicely. Relationships are compromise. Just get to know her and see how it goes. The only silly thing to do would be not to try.
2007-02-23 16:45:15 · answer #5 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are you, she can not change you and you shouldn't want her to. That's a lot of responsibility to put on a girl and you will only end up hurting her and yourself. God created you to be who you are. On the other hand maybe you should spend time with her in your own environment and see how she likes it, maybe she has a deep desire to tone down her party style!
2007-02-23 16:48:34 · answer #6 · answered by gurt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be with a person that makes you feel comfortable and how you want to feel.
My boyfriend is very opposite of me. I'm what he calls a social butterfly but so is he in a different way like BAR GUY.
I'm more to what guys (haters) call a CLUB HO. I love going to the clubs and know everybody...don't confuse "know" to "screwing"....I don't sleep with anybody/everybody but my BOYFRIEND!!! I'm very faithful!!! =)
Plus I come home to him and no one else. I don't drink and don't smoke.
I go out like every other weekend...maybe or twice a month...
I invite him but that's not he's seen.
I don't want him to change... I like keeping my things seperate.
2007-02-23 16:46:46 · answer #7 · answered by lotsofluv007 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a social butterfly and my man isn't. We seem to match better than I did with guys that liked to party with me. I was in the Navy and partied hard. But my man learn to open up a bit and I learned to tone it down a bit. We fit together becuase we are not identical. =)
Good luck
2007-02-23 16:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By all means, go for the party girl! They are soooo much fun and you will meet a lot of her friends which are also party girls. When the "jealousy gene" of her friends takes control and you get tired of your original party girl, you can take your pick of her friends and have another party girl. Good times!!!
2007-02-23 16:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple if your looking for a g/f shes not the one.....im shy too and if your with her and you dont open up she will get bored of you fast and start cheating or dump you...maybe she just thinks your cute and wants sex
2007-02-23 16:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by Vincent B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋