I know this guy from third grade. We didn't start socializing until 9th grade. We were fine at first, but he misinterpreted my amiability and with the support of a girl with which i am virtually enemies with, he planned to asked me out. I had recieved word of this in the morning and avoided him the whole day. After succeeding, he managed still managed to ask me over the phone. I was bewildered that he did not get my message and I explained to him kindly adding that I only saw him as a friend. I ignored him for a while to give him time to get over me but after a few months we were good friends again. Then while I was on my way to a class he walked up to me and told me that he had to ask me something. I saw his nervous face and tried to stop him from asking me. Starting to get nervous I said," no don't ask me" and ran away. I ignored him for for a while again, but once more we became friends. Today, the same thing happened again. I still want to be friends with him. What do i do?
2007-02-23 08:39:31 · 19 answers · asked by pinkpockadotz333 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest with him. Tell him that you just see him as a friend and you just don't feel the same. Tell him he is a nice guy and bring his self-esteem up and say that there will be someone else who likes him for who he is. (Kinda even out the "rejection.") You just don't feel the same way.
2007-02-23 08:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
On one hand, I would suggest agreeing to go out with him, just to see how it goes. People are always different outside of school, you might have fun.
That being said, it's also important to remember you cannot control how someone else feels. If you rejecting him will make him feel bad, it doesn't matter how nicely you do it. You can ease the pain by telling him his friendship is important, and that while you have great chemistry as friends, you don't believe it would work in another kind of relationship. Be honest, and be as kind as you can. That's all you can do, and he will have no choice to accept it.
Good luck!
2007-02-23 08:45:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it to him straight. Tell him you really like him as a friend (they all HATE that) but you do not and will not see him as more than that. Let him know the more he pursues you the more you are uncomfortable being his friend. It will hurt his feelings and you will probably feel guilty, but there is no way around that - especially if he's persistent. Good luck!
2007-02-23 08:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't really a way to reject someone and not hurt their feelings. It's okay to feel guilty if you are not attracted to someone in "that way"... you just aren't... don't bother telling him though that you still want to stay friends, chances are by crushing him, you're not going to be friends. But you can't help how you feel, and neither can he, so just be honest. It's your best bet.
2007-02-23 08:45:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you reject him, you will hurts his feelings, and you will feel guilty since you care about him. It seems like you not ready for a relationship or you have someone else on your mind, either way it's not going to be easy, and most of the time it's impossible to work out a friendship in this situation considering the fact once he sees you with another guy it's going to hurt like hell.
2007-02-23 08:44:12 · answer #5 · answered by aphotic nostrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you don't think of him in that way....umm be nice to him about it ....tell him that their are plenty of girls..that you think that you are not ready for a relationship at this time....tell him that you really like him as a friend and if you went out that you could loose the friendship....this is stuff that i have heard from girls and it did not hurt me one bit...you have to lie....but most guys see through the lie and get the hit.....he has to get used to rejection and you are giving him a taste of the real world....lol
he has no confindence it looks like.....i see why you want no part of him....
BE A NICE GIRL AND APOLIGIZE ABOUT THE OTHER SITUATION WHERE YOU RAN AWAY
2007-02-23 08:45:10 · answer #6 · answered by hey_thanks_you_guys 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since he keeps doing this, he clearly has feelings for you. If you want to remain friends, you will need to tell him VERY bluntly that you do not wish to be asked out by him again. If he asks you out again, you two will not be able to stay friends.
On the flip side, if you ever do start to like him, you will be the one to do the asking out.
2007-02-23 08:43:42 · answer #7 · answered by Aimee L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to be honest,
tell this guy up front/ without running away.........
that if you can't just be friends, and if he keeps asking you out
then you cannot be friends.
All you want is to be friends, and if he wants more, tell him it's not gonna happen.
Honesty is the best!!!
just do it.
It's mean to run away from him, avoid him and lead him on with friendship, that makes him feel more for you!
2007-02-23 08:43:39 · answer #8 · answered by Lilly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not possible. You can be respectful though. if you don't know how to do that already, you should talk to a psychologist.
2016-05-24 03:19:36 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At some point you should sit down with him and tell him how you really feel and say that it will have to be ''that way or no way.''
2007-02-23 08:44:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋