How can I descipline my teen age drugees with out kicking their behinds?

Question

I have 4 boys who assume doing drugs and disobeying are ok , I'll get over it and things will be fine.

Answer 1

Tough love, clean out their rooms, give them a mattress to sleep on and one change of clothes.

Answer 2

Well my teenage daughter, I tried everything with. She defide curfew came home drunk on school nights at 4 or 5 am. She was using extacy , coke ,pot, drinking. I put her in a group home for 6 weeks. To no avail. Then I appealed to the gang she was hanging out with. Peer pressure what it is. We had ups and downs and still are she is only 16, but today I usually have a core group of teens mostly the 3 she was closest to, aparently my daughter liked the "bad boy" I guess two are brothers who were shuffled in foster care from young ages the other has a rough home life. So I have sorta unofficially adopted them.
We have rules. NO ever drinking and I better not ever find out about coke or ex etc. No swearing, and I pretnd not to smell pot from the balconey.
We have reached a point that if some one outside the core drops by and attempts to smuggle past me something forebidden, I get notified so I can "catch" them. They all take turns cooking and doing dishes and are responsible for the area they mostly hang out. I get them DVDs at the library every couple of days and I am so not worried about my daughter & freinds sitting around giggling inanely at Peewee Herman or some stupid movie. When she was falling down drunk, having black outs I was terrified. Plus she passed last year of High School with an over all 84% average. It turns out these kids never liked drinking they never had some one care for them give free range of the fride, set rules, listen, rember what snacks they enjoy when I shop, unless that person was getting a pay cheque and usually complaing it was not worth it?...they may seem a little rough around the edges, but it's a facade if they trust you. They are sweathearts and I understand my daghters attraction, you see ever since she could walk she was always there picking up the under dog. Almost every elementry teacher has made a comment to that tendancy...Mary.

Answer 3

I am going to start by asking you a question. Do you even spend time with them? Well if you said no I understand because probably you spend most of your time working and by the time you get home you are so tired. First what you need to do is manage your schedule so that you have time for work, rest and your "4 druggies". Like all teenagers the reason why they are doing drugs/stupid things is because they lack attention. A small attention from you can make all the difference. Second, encourage them to get a job, do sports, go to the beach, go to the arcade or mall anything just to get them away from drugs. Personally what I consider my "drug" is videogames. Third, be firm, stand your ground when you are communicating with them(not in an agressive way) and dont show weakness. Lastly tell them that you love them and that you would do anything for them to be healthy and succesful in life. If that doesnt work well that is all I can give you. Good Luck and I ill Pray for you and your four children =)

Answer 4

Call the police. If they won't listen to you, maybe the cops'll straighten 'em out. When they're all home (make sure one of them is acting up) call the police and give them a scare. Let them get arrested, or go to jail.

Stripping their rooms is good idea too. Also, you have to be more tough. I assume you are a major pushover. If I was the kind of person to do that stuff, my mom would have been just like you. However, my Uncle would have beaten me like a punching bag both verbally and physically. You have to be tough.

Answer 5

I'm a 52 yr. old grandmother, I totaly agree with Karen P. CALL THE POLICE AND PUT THEIR BUTTS IN A REHAB QUICK AND THEN A DENTENTION CENTER WHERE THEY HAVE TO LEARN HOW TO RESPECT YOU AND OBEY YOU AND IF THEY COME BACK AND STILL DO THE SAME PUT THEIR A__ OUT AND DON'T LOOK BACK AND pray pray pray and if you don't believe You might need too start, and where is the daddy?? He should kick their butts if he's any kind of a man !!

Answer 6

i'm sorry but "spare the rod spoil the child" if you don't start disciplining your kids early they will be virtually uncontrollable as they get older.........my advice is that if you cain't whip them or impose some type of punishment then CALL THE POLICE.....most likly they will catch them with drugs on them and your sons will be in jail....therefore they will be safe, DRUG-FREE, and that should teach them a good lesson (hey some kids need to learn the hard way).....if that doesn't work then...i don't know the ages of the boys but if they are in their late teens then they will have to start making thier own decisions at one time or another......sometimes children are just hard-headed.....but you make your bed hard.....you WILL sleep in it...

lotsoflove

Answer 7

I was originally going to say you cant do anything cuz normally they dont care i mean my brothers into all that now and he dont care at all but i agree with the guy who said strip there room out and although you cant stop them from doing drugs outside home at least you can at home and when your around Goodluck

Answer 8

I am telling you, it's hard. I understand that. Please ignore all the jerks who think they know how to raise perfect children.

Don't take it lightly, get down on them hard; as hard as you can. Enlist the help of the police, their school counselors, teachers, bosses, anyone.

I posted a similar question a while back and there were some good ideas. Not all of them good, but a few helpful ones.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AtnQuhG5rrgxmMxrxn65_jbsy6IX?qid=20070107165821AABAbL0

Check it out and see if it helps.

Good luck

Answer 9

You could start by letting them know who pays for the roof over their head, grow a pair (figuratively speaking) and start behaving like their mother instead of their little sister.

Answer 10

Kick their Behinds.