About four or five months ago I met a guy online and we became very good friends. The first few months he flirted with me and then decided he didn't like me that way. After I fell in love with someone else, he started acting strange. Calling more often, flirting with me, talkng to me about more things than usual, and yelling at me and arguing with me when I brought up the man I'm in love with. I never flirted back or anything, so I didn't lead him on. I recently started ignoring him because he became more upset about me being with this guy. I'd like to hear you're opinions on this because even though there are a few things running through my head as to why he acts like this I'd rather have other peoples opinions to ponder with too. Why is my friend acting like this?
2007-02-23 08:26:02 · 16 answers · asked by Roxie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has told me that he sleeps with a woman once than tells her to get her clothes on nd get out and he told me he wouldn't say/do that to me.
2007-02-23 08:34:45 · update #1
Well it seems to me your with someone new* and enjoy being with him as you said you love him*
This guy you met online and became "friends' with, seems like he doesn't want you but doesn't want anyone else to be with you either.
Once he realized you were with someone , he should have just accepted that and moved on...keeping in touch every now and then to say hello*...NOW..he is calling you more which I"m sure will eventually put a strain on your new relationship..,There is No NEed for Him to be yelling and arguing with you...For that..you need to let him know right upfront that you won't allow anyone let alone a Friend to Yell at you and argue with you for no reason at all. HE obviously doesn't want to respect that you have a boyfriend or he'd do the right thing and leave you alone. I would stop communicating with him...via phone calls and emails..Let him know you've moved on with your life and won't stand by and allow him to treat you this way when y ou don't really know who he is anyways.(You've never met , only talked online....have you not seen or heard of ppl pretending they are someone they are not to lure ppl ...he seems obsessed and I would break all contact with him*
Enjoy being in love with your man* not worrying about what this guy you met online has to say*
2007-02-23 08:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy played with fire and got burned. The is also a classic head game guys try to play to get a woman more interested. Now he is jealous of the man you love, and pissed off at himself for letting you get away.
This just shows his emotional immaturity. Just think you have been part of a lesson designed to help a guy grow up. Just remind him of his mistake and you can't change the fact you are in love with someone else.
Be kind and understanding but firm as you inform him the friendship is on the line if he keeps treating you this way.
Also remind him a girls heart is not a toy. Tell him that his perfect may be on her way and this experience was meant to teach him a little lesson so he would not below it with his perfect lady.
2007-02-23 08:40:42 · answer #2 · answered by T-Rex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing he now has feelings for you and is upset that you didn't wait for him to feel the same way, instead you moved on and are now in a happy relationship. If you haven't led him on, that you should have no reason to feel guilty or bad about this. If this is how he is truly feeling, you may need to explain that you can't just sit around and wait for someone to fall in love with you, but that you have moved on and found something better. I hope everything turns out alright. Good luck!
2007-02-23 08:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by K. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Becuase, he quit showing attention for you because he lost interest, but now that you are with some one, he wants you. Its like a baby, if you take a ball away from a baby that is not playing with it, what happens? They then want it and make a fuss. Thats is what he is doin. He'll get over it. Just be carefull in case he gets out of control. Let your man know how this guy is acting.
2007-02-23 08:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its funny, when you're single, nobody seems to want to be with you...once you're in a relationship, seems they all want you. He's just jealous because he thought you would always be there. And now that someone else has you, he's jealous. Some men like attention to boost their ego. If you're in a good relationship, don't leave it because all of a sudden he wants you. Its not worth it.
2007-02-23 08:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by Mizz Cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealous.
2007-02-23 08:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by Meeeeee! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well: first of all you'd must tell him to just"Calm Down & be
nice personnly " yes that would help or get some good counciling
together as suggested only !
2007-02-23 08:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by toddk57@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just trying to protect you that's all. or he likes you. take your pick. maybe he likes you but is just waiting til the time seems right to ask you out. when you started dating this other guy, he started to get jealous and is maybe trying to tell you that he is in love w/ you, but doesn't want to say it aloud yet. maybe he's trying to make you like him by flirting.
2007-02-23 08:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by kizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a control freak. wants you tied around his finger.let him know that is not appropriate and run.Good for you you did not flirt back with him.Men are like that. they will pull all kind of stunt to get your attention.take heed.
Be Strong.
2007-02-23 08:31:54 · answer #9 · answered by shabin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like he's jealous and he doesnt want anyone to have you. He's also trying to make you feel jealous aswell.
2007-02-23 08:39:40 · answer #10 · answered by xo-Stacey-ox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋