The relationship is unhealthy, but we are both still in love. How do you get it off your mind?
2007-02-23 08:22:22 · 14 answers · asked by Emily 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Decide to change your mind. If your head knows its time to let go, your heart needs to let your head be in charge. Find a group to vent to, be it friends or structured support with a doctor or church. Look for a good hobby, go out and do volunteer work. Most important thing you can do is stay busy with anything but that unhealthy relationship.
2007-02-23 08:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by NakasEvilTwin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 21:24:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always going to be hard to break up with some1 that you love and if you will feel it when you do indeed breakup with him. The fact that you know that it's unhealthy means that it's time that you move on. Just because you love someone doesn't nessearly mean that you have to be with the person, maybe you guys weren't meant for each...if you really want to be with him, then you should work it out things with him, put if you know that it's impossible to fix, let it go!!!!!
2007-02-23 08:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is my question too, the way I see it, and this may not be good advice if you truly don't want it over, keep working on it, it may seem doomed and so unhealthy but analyze do you want to be together or apart. IF you are going for apart, time heals, as tabo as it sounds that is the only thing that is going to get you through it. On the flip side take up some challenging hobbies.
2007-02-23 08:26:36 · answer #4 · answered by Italia 28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard!!! I was in a relationship like this last year and we kept trying to work it out. It just got worse and worse and finally I had to say "enough!" You need to stay away from each other - no talking on the phone, e-mailing, nothing because it just makes it harder to let go. You just have to take it day by day and eventually it will get easier. There's a book called something like "How to Break Your Addiction to Someone." You might give that a try.
2007-02-23 08:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by THREE_X_A_LADY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to regroup
you need to find what make you happy hobbies, friends, family, or a pet. But you really have to keep your mind busy.
Before all you did was think of them and now you have to think of you.
And what ever you do, do not go out and get into another relationship to just to not be alone. Find peace in your heart for you..
So when you are ready to find a friend to start dating you wont make the same mistakes again.. You will be ready.
2007-02-23 08:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by MissChatea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i moved to another state where i found my wonderful husband! my ex and i were still in love but we both knew it was a very unhealthy situation, it was starting to take a toll on my health due to all the stress, getting away from him was the best thing i ever did. if i hadn't i would not be with my new husband now. happily married 4 years :)
2007-02-23 08:29:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emily -
How can you feel that you are in love with someone who you have a unhealthy relationship with??
The truth is that you know it should be over, but have invested so much time already and you don't really want to be alone........
its easier just to stay with this guy.
I can tell you FROM EXPERIENCE.......you just have to leave
and with time you will get over it. The longer you wait to leave
the harder it is going to be.
2007-02-23 09:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surround yourself with friends and family and go out and have fun. Meet new people and you will be able to see that there are healthy relationships out there. Sometimes when you love something you have to love yourself enough to know that you have to let it go.
With time it will get better but always keep in your mind when you think of him.... that you are doing this for you because you deserve better!
2007-02-23 08:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from one another and time will heal all broken hearts..If it is an unhealthy relationship you need out, and the quicker the better..dont bring yourself down, there is someone out there who will treat you right and someone you deserve.
2007-02-23 08:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by Vicki B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋