Why is a sexual things are harder to brake after becoming a Christian.. I see some that over come it, But, it's like a pleage with me.. I fight it more then if I wasn't.. It's like my hard drive is always on...
2007-02-23 08:21:34 · 16 answers · asked by myst_v_the_fog_buster 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The first thing you have to know is that Satan is real and really does not want you to follow Christ. He will do anything he can to stop you.
Second, the sex drive is about the biggest natural drive God placed in man. It is not an easy one to control, especially for men. That is one of the many reasons that God instituted marriage. Between a man and a woman who are legally married, a sexual relationship can be wonderful and bring the two of them even closer. It can create a bond that makes the marriage special and eternal. But even within marriage it has to be used with care. It should be about loving each other. It should be about becoming one, as the scriptures point out.
What makes the whole situation worse is the prevailing pop culture that would have you believe that free sex is truly freedom. It is not, but they will portray it as such on TV and in movies. They make it look great. But, most of the time, they neglect to portray all of the negative aspects of sex when it is used incorrectly or even abused.
However, the constant bombardment of sex everywhere we turn makes it that more difficult for a person trying to control their passions.
I have found a couple of things that help.
1. Don't ever let a single day go by without praying to God for help. Do that several times a day if you have to.
2. Don't ever let a single day go by without reading in the scriptures.
3. If you fall, don't ever let that stop you from doing 1 and 2. Pray for forgiveness and more help.
4. For times when the temptations get especially bad, memorize a few good hymns about Christ. Sing them, even if in your mind until the temptation goes away. Or memorize your favorite passages of scripture and repeat them until the temptation goes away.
5. Finally, never ever allow yourself to rationalize that just this once it will be OK, or just this once this little bit of indulgence will be alright. It never is and just leads you away.
We all have our own Goliaths to conquer. Sex is a big one for a lot of people. But we are all different and we don't all have the same Goliaths. The most important thing to remember is that you can never truly know how easy or difficult it is/was for another person. Most people's lives are not what they seem to be to us on the surface. If you were to really get to know people whose lives just seem so easy, I think you find that they really do have struggle, just like the rest of us.
I hope this helps. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-23 09:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by rbarc 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm in a similar boat. I have been around more blocks than I care to mention. All you can do is keep it in your mind, set realistic goals, and pray for help in breaking what needs breaking, whatever that may be. Remember, sex is a gift from God as well, and we are never told not to enjoy it.
I try to focus on not being controlled by my vices. It is work, and quite unpleasant. If you're married,don't screw around-that sort of thing. Nowhere in the Bible are you promised an easy ride. In fact, it's quite the opposite. And the more we slide, the harder it gets to stop. (Ask any smoker, we know we kill ourselves and can't live without doing so.)
Give yourself time, keep your faith up and you can't lose. Remember it takes balls to give up your will in this. I ain't saying I have done so, but it's what I try to do. But you KNOW you won't do it yourself. I'm guessing history proves me right on that.
Sorry if this was a bit long, I'm cutting it now. I wish you the best.
2007-02-23 08:35:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just like with spiritual gifts are different with different people, so are spiritual weaknesses different with different people. It's a good thing we don't all have the same spiritual weaknesses, or we'd never be able to help each other out of them.
If I'm reading your question right, you are a convert, and so for you this may be more difficult because before converting you were used to sexuality in your life - it was normal for you. That's naturally going to be hard to suddenly switch off.
Keep in mind, every temptation or sin for you will have some circumstances or situation where they can easily happen. I don't know if that's when you're alone with a girl late at night, or in a position where you can see lots of scantily clad girls...but you know what those situations are. My best advice is to start identifying and avoiding those situations.
good luck.
2007-02-23 08:28:54 · answer #3 · answered by daisyk 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Not everything is accomplished so NO you should not eat shellfish. Most Christians don't do this though. Most say we're under the new covenant but Jesus clearly says this in the New Testament that "Do not think that I Jesus have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them." To me this means we should go by the Old Testament. Until I see Scripture that says otherwise that's what I believe. I am not going to believe the church (certain religions) if they have no Scripture to back their belief!
2016-05-24 03:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the evil knows that it is your weakness, and this leads to sex or god..you have to choose one or the other..it can't be a combination of both. this is the test that will prove if you can be a good person and follow in god's footsteps or will you be swallowed up by lust and the things that society has to offer. You can either have physical pleasure here..or eternal pleasure with god and be happy..its all up to you, and i hope that you chose the lord, but you are an individual and it has to be sincere from your heart when you devote yourself..if it is hard for you ask him for help, and i'm sure he will be more than willing and will never turn his back on you.
2007-02-23 08:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
We can be more inclined toward certain sins, thus making them harder to overcome. I've been there. I thought I was gay for 8 years, and I know how easy it is to focus on that and get all freaked out and depressed. Can I offer a key bit of strategy that I learned?
Take your focus off your sin and put it on God. Galatians 5 talks about how a life lived by the Spirit won't go after the desires of the flesh. If you focus on your problem, it is all you think about. If you focus on God, and pursue Him, and His ways, the desires of the flesh just start to roll away. Not to say they disappear, but the more you're engrossed in God, the easier it gets to say no to temptation.
2007-02-23 08:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by BaseballGrrl 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I agree with one of the other respondants. Exactly why do you feel you have to "defeat" some sexual feelings?
They're absolutely normal and healthy. Please understand, I'm not saying that you HAVE to have sex of any kind - with a partner or with yourself - but there's absolutely NOTHING wrong with it.
As long as you're taking care of your various obligations in life (job, family, friends) you have no reason to feel guilty about sexual feelings.
I offer you a favorite excerpt of mine. Please read it carefully:
Author David Shaw wrote in The Pleasure Police (1996),“Misery does indeed love company; people who aren’t having any fun don’t want anyone else to have any fun either, sexual or otherwise.”
Shaw speaks further about the link between religion and anti-pleasure, saying,“Maybe it’s precisely because sex is so overpowering, so all-consuming, so capable of not only overwhelming but of obliterating all else, that the extreme religionists among us are so opposed to it, and so appalled by it.”
“Besides, sex is about losing control, about abandoning oneself to the moment.” “Most very religious people seem to think that the only 'other'
to whom one should ever abandon oneself is God...”
2007-02-23 08:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone has the one thing that is difficult to keep under control. For some it's sex. For others it's food, or alcohol, or shopping - everyone is different and we all have different weaknesses. It is how we deal with those weaknesses that defines our character.
2007-02-23 08:36:10 · answer #8 · answered by padwinlearner 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn’t easy for anyone. Those who say it is, probably have a few “naughty secrets”.
It’s sad really that you feel like you have to “fight sex”. That is such an unhealthy attitude. Sex is good. Fun sex is great. And kinky sex is the best thing in the world.
I mean, really! What the hell is wrong with that, that you feel you have to repress it?!?!?!
2007-02-23 08:25:46 · answer #9 · answered by A 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A lot of people rely fully on God. He cant help you get through it (he cant do anything with it) unless you let go of it and fully give it to him.
prov 3:5&6 "trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding In all your ways acknolage him and He shall direct your paths. "
2007-02-23 08:26:07 · answer #10 · answered by TheMadHatter 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋