I'm 22 years old and have been dating this guy that I LOVE for 2 years. I see nothing wrong about him and could see myself marring him in the future. It's almost like a fairy tale relashionship. My only problem is his mother. He is 25 years old and is the youngest of 4 kids in his family. He is the only one still living with his mother. His father had past when he was 16, and his mother doesn't have the best of health. He gets stuck doing all the work for his mother, and no one helps out. Whatever his mother says, goes. she is a control freak. He is not seeing any of this. Do you think if we ever get married this will work out? Or maybe suggestions for me on how to handle this?
2007-02-23 08:18:17 · 5 answers · asked by motowndrlin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its a known fact that the youngest child will always care for their parents Something about being the baby of the family and getting so much attention themselves It is wrong for his mom to take advantage of him. She should be encouraging him to have a life of his own, and she should make other arrangements for the extra care she needs. It should be shared between all the children or professional help should be brought in. If you do not speak up about your needs, he will not know how you feel. I am sure he does not want to make you unhappy. . She is not being a control freak, she just needs help, and he is willing to do it. Hopefully he is not doing it out of guilt, because eventually he will resent her. He needs to take care of himself first and help his mom when he can. Talk to your boyfriend and make sure he is not stressing out. Be supportive. If you are feeling left out then let him know. He can adjust priorities and make this work for everyone.
2007-02-23 08:40:02 · answer #1 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if its his mom just making the problem then i say u have nothing to worry about.....u said it urself shez not in good health, he loves his mother so he has to be there for her, and since he is the youngest of 4 he has no choice but to do that....if its a fairy tale relationship then dont let anything mess it up.
2007-02-23 16:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by annawuvzchris 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let him go now. If you guys get married she will run your marriage or you will be married for a short time
2007-02-23 16:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by shawn 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
talk to him about it, and perhaps suggest he talk to a proffesional. if he might tak offense to that, then suggest couples coucling. what you are going through is a problem, but it is fairly common.
2007-02-23 16:25:03 · answer #4 · answered by foo__dd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a mamas boy and that's all there is to it..... and she will probably always be first with him about everything.
2007-02-23 16:25:09 · answer #5 · answered by BIG BEN 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋