i like her alot, and she did say she likes me too (but about 4 months ago)... we are great friends and are always there for eachother if we need eachother...
is it worth turning it into a 'relationship'?
wht happens if she says no?!! how embarrasing wud that be?!!
how can i face her agen?!
your thoughts plz! :P:D
2007-02-23 08:15:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she found out i was texting one of her mates - she didnt find it funny. She was pissed off with me for a few weeks. now its long forgotten, do i ask her out??
2007-02-23 08:31:37 · update #1
Trust me on this one. You'll never have a lasting platonic relationship with a female. What's the point anyway? Absolutely ask her out! If she says no? Who cares, then she says no and you move on to the next one.
2007-02-23 08:29:42 · answer #1 · answered by nadsblowhard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm this is a hard one.There are a lot of factors to consider like the way the relationship is at the moment, do u feel as if she is sending u any signals right now? Are u sure she shares ur feelings, but then again she could just be very shy and un sure about things, send her a few not very obivous signals like acting sort of gentlemanly with her or buying her a nice gift see how these things are recieved, but don't be too obvious with all of it, just send out subtle hints.
If she seems to recieve these things particularly well then set the scene, for it and go ahead and ask her out. But if not then all i can say is it reallt isn't worth ruining a perfectly good relationship, as she may think that all this time you've only been being so close and kind to her because you wanted to get her, if u get my drift.
Hope this helps you out.
Good luck with it all.
xxxxx
2007-02-23 08:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by SecondhandTink. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that all depends. If you two are very close and you ask her out, and she didn't want to, as a good friend she would let it down to you gently but still remain the close bond. Plus it shouldn't be embarrassing, this is your close friend here, she would be more understanding. If she says yes then you can move past the 'friendship' stage to the next stage lol.
P.S you will never know if it's worth turning into a relatonship unless you try it ;)
2007-02-23 08:33:43 · answer #3 · answered by Starjarus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mate told me he liked me and wanted to pursue a relationship. While I love him to bits, I didn't want a relationship with him. We are great mates, and worked hard at not letting it ruin our friendship and whilst things were awkward at first, things are fine now and we are back to how it used be. So, I guess what I am saying is, you have nothing to lose, and if it's a really good friendship, then nothing will get in the way.
2007-02-23 08:21:35 · answer #4 · answered by Danru 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel that she is the one then ask her,if nothing else she may be flattered,if she does'nt feel the same,try to make light of the situation by saying you were depressed,or even take her for a drink and if she dont feel the same then blame the drink,by saying that you confused the closeness of your friendship to be more,either way the thought will be in her head.if she is a close friend,she may just feel the same...you got nothing to loose but you may have alot to gain.try to keep the friendship though cos the answer may be no this time,but she will always have you in mind,women love understanding men and men who arnt afraid to show their emmotions.she will come round.DONT try to show off,just be yourself. gl!
2007-02-23 08:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by zonda23101976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she send you any romantic signals? It is a really difficult dilemma. If you think there is a slight chance that she might be interested in you ask her because I didn't and then it was too late.
It turned out a few years later after we were both married to other people that he had really wanted to ask me out and I really wanted to ask him out but neither thought the other was interested in that way and was scared of ruining the friendship.
2007-02-23 08:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her, if you don't there's always going to be ifs and buts in your mind and if she gets another boyfriend and you didn't tell her, you are gonna kick yourself. It's always a risk that your friendship won't be the same again, but if it is a strong friendship and she doesn't feel the same, you will get through it! I hope it all goes well x
2007-02-23 08:21:55 · answer #7 · answered by soph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go for it, if she just wants to be friends then thats ok, its when people are idiots and let it break up theyre friendship that things geyt ugly, and if shes willing to not be your friend because you like her then shes not a good friend anyway. i was head over heels in love with my best friend and we ended up in bed together, but it turned out he wastnt interested in a relationship. while it hurt, he was too precious to me as a friend to lose, so we just put it aside and got on with it. we now laugh about it and are better friends than ever before. so it doesnt always end badly.
good luck!!!!!! lett me know how it goes!
2007-02-23 22:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by tinselturtle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself how you would feel if you have these feelings for her but didn't ask her out? You would wonder the rest of your life about "what if?" Embarrasing? It may be, but if you are the good friends you say you are, there shouldn't be a problem.
2007-02-23 08:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by Deus Luminarium 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure as long as you put it tactfully she will respond graciously.things sound like you really think shes something so go for it.
if she declines
yes it will take a while to overcome but your friendship will become stronger.
if she really does like you too she should say yes.
as long as you put it the right way,
2007-02-23 08:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by Dingbat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋