I do believe I have met the guy of my dreams. He is 8 years older than I am. Hes handsome, and into the church. He is stable on his job and makes good money. He treats me like the queen I am. Anything that I ask for he gives it to me with no questions. He is smart, wise, and funny. I have one problem......I dont think that he can perform in bed. He has diabetes and I think he has a problem getting "him" to stand at attention. What should I do. Wedding bells are soon to be ringing!!! I love him and I know that sex shouldnt matter. Help. SERIOUSLY
2007-02-23 08:14:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I completely understand where you are coming from...and sex does matter to a point...(no pun intended)...I'm guessing you haven't had teh chance to see for sure if he is able to perform yet...which can be a very very touchy subject. If he's willing, have him ask his doctor about the many erectile dissfunction pills out on the market these days...there is NOTHING wrong with him taking pills to help in that department. AND nothing wrong with you for wanting that department to stay open for business. I truly wish you the best of luck!
2007-02-23 08:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by macsmom33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a concern for the medical team. If you say you love him and it's unconditional then you may have to deal with the situation at hand. Think about this, would you rather have a man who makes love to you so good your head spins then he cheats on you, beats you and treats you like yesterday's garbage? Sometimes in life we have to play the hand that is dealt to us. I'm sure there's something that can be done with his situation but don't lose a good. There are other ways around that, buy some toys, get creative and make him feel good despite his situation.
2007-02-23 16:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guy of your dreams??? Well your dream will turn into a nightmare if you marry him with his little "problem"... Sex isn't everything - however it's very necessary in a healthy relationship.
If he's a "new boyfriend" - get out now and find someone who has all the qualities that you admire in him....BUT can satisfy you sexually also...There are some out there -
2007-02-23 16:21:32 · answer #3 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Diabetes can cause sexual dysfunction in men (so glad I was born female!!) but that does not mean he can't get medical help to "him" in performance order. If you want children you should go with him to talk with someone about function in that area before marriage.
2007-02-23 16:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex does matter, does he ever satisfy you in that department? Be warry before you make a life long commitment.
2007-02-23 16:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by Woody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think about it then, because you're not going to break up with a person just for this(you'll probably regret it). And just because he has diabetes doesn't mean he can't! Does it?
2007-02-23 16:20:17 · answer #6 · answered by notoriousteen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to ask his doctor about a drug called viagra it helps in that area. A healthy sex life is very important in a marraige. but be sensitive when you talk to him about it.
good luck
2007-02-23 16:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by karen l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he if it does not matter if you love him dont let him go diabetes is something to deal with but dont be fooled he can get it up if not theres always viagra
2007-02-23 16:19:55 · answer #8 · answered by duby_doo2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋