I've known a guy 6 months and last night he revealed to me that he likes me a lot but he hasn't felt a feeling of love since he was 18. He has been married twice, but said he didn't even love his wives. He is not sure if he will ever love again. It makes me so sad. I enjoy his company but is it hopeless and should I continue to see him? He has been hurt but how can that prevent his loving someone else?
2007-02-23 08:12:01 · 18 answers · asked by Patricia 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he started with the word LIKE YOU "NOW"...
I guarantee you he will end up with LOVE YOU "LATER"...
All it takes you to do is to continue being yourself with him,,,the way he liked you a lot will get him somewhere ahead...
Just don't push it on him...
It takes a Genuine True Lady to penetrate a man's heart ON DUE TIME...He knows he didn't love his wives...and part of that reason were the wives themselves...
Don't ever count on a Statement that a man DESN'T KNOW IF HE COULD LOVE AGAIN...This is INVALID...
There will always be time & circumstances for love..ALWAYS..
If you enjoy his company, this should be mutual...He likes your Company as well...So he will be prepared for opening that big heart of his with a tiny little door one day...because he has got to fill it out...
Of course you should continue to seeing him... all the time you can...
Invite him once for something of your own made...not in a restaurant for instance...
Show him the real you....Let him dig out the differences himself on what he had seen on both his wives, and YOU...
Let him realize how genuine you were/are/will ever be...
Eye him somethimes and let your eyes DO THE TALKING...
If you know his birthday, ensure you are the first to congratulate him with a neat gift or something...
Try to get yourself with him in a picture while out...and on his coming birthday, buy him a FRAME as a GIFT, AND HAVE THAT PICTURE OF YOU BOTH IN THAT FRAME.... A couple of words of your own on the back of the picture will be so nice; i.e., MEMORIES OF THE GOOD TIMES....
This will draw his attention on you so right...
Do something about it.. You are the Female, and I am sure you will do it right....
Offer to help / assist on ANYTHING you could think of....
He NEEDS you now, but he doesn't realize he MUST TAKE YOU FOR A WIFE YET.....
Stay on it, and you will get there...Never give up if you know you love him.....AND IF YOU VISION HIM AS A HUSBAND....!!
2007-02-23 08:42:13 · answer #1 · answered by FOREVER AUTUMN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time with this guy. It sounds like he has either been hurt in the past or really has some issues deeper than the surface. Continue to get to know him and take your time. Let him know that you love him and that he is deserving of love. He may feel that he is not worthy of love anymore. Just relate to him that you do care for him and that you are interested in getting to know him better and let him know how you feel.
2007-02-23 08:19:19 · answer #2 · answered by ltwatkins77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why are you already thinking about love w/ this guy. You only said that you've KNOWN him, not that you've BEEN WITH HIM! a guy like this can be an excellent **** buddy but probably nothing more. Unless he truly does end up "loving" you then MAYBE it can be more. All I can tell you is follow your heart and your mind. If they are at a disagreement then "make a deal" w/ them. And DON'T let yourself fall for him cuz he probably will not catch you.
2007-02-23 08:24:13 · answer #3 · answered by dr_mctwitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will have to work through that and you can help by being supportive, encouraging and loving. Deep down he's afraid to hurt again. You have to stay true to him and the relationship. Be creative in doing little things for him. Show him that love doesn't have to hurt.
2007-02-23 08:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very leery of this person. Married twice, didnt love his wives, doesnt think he can love again???? Be careful you dont attempt to be the Red Cross here. You may find yourself fixing him for his next wife whom he wont love either.
2007-02-23 08:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by Devdude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to tell u this but dump him & find you somebody 2 love........... that will kinda tell you that the guy is a little off, No offence to u but find you a man that cares. I'm not a perv but I am single, and looking for love. You said he's been hurt.... she broke his heart, that would do it right there. I know all about that.
2007-02-23 08:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by BIG BEN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probitally incapable or the hurt has really effected his mind I am feeling low my-self and trying to compassate for it . May-be it will or will not work but I too have to try an improve b/c being lonely is hard!
2007-02-23 08:24:14 · answer #7 · answered by David H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
run run run...... two marriages is a big flag, but mix that with his attitude on love, and you are certain to get hurt. it is the way he views relationships that prevents him from forming sucessful relationships. getting hurt can lead to this twisted view of love, but more often it is the whole reason he got hurt to begin with.... self-fulfilling prophecies. don't let his dysfunction grow on you.
2007-02-23 08:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by foo__dd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
read in between the lines gal... he never loved anyone, not even his 2 ex wives...hello.. he said he LIKES you,not love... probability is, he will never love u n u will ens up ex wife No 3... think galfriend...
2007-02-23 08:16:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is setting you up to be dumped or cheated on one day. He told you that he has no love so you can't blame him when does you wrong. you were warned so it's your own fault.
2007-02-23 08:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋