My gf takes taekwondo and i am jealous of her instructor.?

Question

she says it is a teacher/student relationship but it is weird that they are close. she says a romantic relationship is taboo and he is like a brother but is this true? wth?

Answer 1

Insecurity is soooo unattractive.

Take Taekwondo yourself - in her class (or at least at her school) if you can.

It IS like a family relationship. You learn to trust and respect your fellow students, and the teacher is like an older brother/father.

Answer 2

Well, at least you admit to your problem--being jealous. Get over it though.

And if she does have a crush on him, so what? Maybe this isn't true for you, but almost every woman I know admit that there are several different types of crushes. She could have a mentor-crush on him. Nothing romantic or sexual implied.

My situation is a bit unusual--I live and train in South Korea in a studio where I am the only foreigner and nobody else speaks much English. Despite our language differences, my Master is superhelpful to me. I view him as an instructor, a mentor, sometimes as an older brother (he's 2 months older than me), and as a friend.

I have told him that he's a mentor to me in a letter that a friend translated. I don't know if his wife has seen it. No matter, luckily, his wife (a week older than me) has no problems with me. She's always very friendly and kind to me.

Be like her--get over your jealousy.

Answer 3

k most of these people have no security and are biased
u dont do too little, but also u dont wanna do too much
yes u have a right to feel jealous, unsecured
everyone does
it's a type of sense that is sometimes true, or gives warnings for the far out future
u can try questioning her, but dont over do it, she'll feet untrusted and that u are gettin too much into her space

however, u also want to learn how to trust her and convince yourself of letting go some feelings of jealousy, it only pains u to think of it
however, there is also a limitation to every single relationship existing, besides Marriage
friends should only get close to a certain point, if anymore than that, then yes they do would have secret feelings for each other
question - does she spend more time wit her instructor than u? or does she spend more time with the instructor instead of her female friends?
think of it this way, yea u love her, but if she really is doin wat u are aware of, then that's her choice, she isnt right for u, u gotta find someone that is willing to make u feel comfortable most of time, example, the right one would instead of constantly stayin around this instructor, she'll keep her distance from him, just to purposely make u feel better, but enough distance to be good friends
at the same time, learn to trust more, if she makes a mistake then she is to blame, but dont u be the one to make the mistake and blame either
however, if your relationship breaks wit her if ever, she'll most likely go after watever male that is closests to her and have feelings of love towards her

however if u really love her and wanna keep her, u can join her same class, or just somehow grab most of her attention of anything towards u, make her feel like u are the best guy in the world and she lucky to have u, that way she wouldnt dare to do anything wit anyone else, unless she's a plain simple slut
but.. the risk involves, overdoin it to where u or her will be bored of one and another..

sit down and talk wit your girlfriend about this
if she isnt willing to listen or coroperate at all, then she's nothing more than selfish and immature and stubborn,
a person that cares only about oneself, doesn't value any other opinions, and tends to push things more than limits

remember give it time, trust, discussion, understanding, most of all , Love

Answer 4

Insecurity and lack of confidence is so unattractive. When training in the martial arts, great relationships are developed. Instructor student relationships develop into a bond. Very few times is it romantic. If you are insecure then your relationship with your girlfriend isn't built on trust nor are you truly committed to it. Everyday life puts us in situations where we learn to trust our partners and that is what builds and prepares us for life partnerships. When jealousy arises it is the little green monster that destroys all trust. If they do against all odds, develop a romantic relationship then that is what fate has planned, and you learned at an earlier stage that this wasn't your life partner and you get to start searching to your true partner.

Answer 5

you are jealous.

odds are that if he is taking tkd, he is doing point sparring which makes him a WORSE fighter than if he had no training.

That means you could whup his *** easily. you will rain on him with combos while he sits there chambering his fists at his hips.

I would suggest getting some training at a school that actually fights with closer to realistic rules, walk in the school challenge the head teacher (that is of fighting age- it is inappropriate to challenge an 80 year old man wearing a diaper and a cane), and proceed to pound them into submission (or grapple them, whatever you chose). then you will be in a position of authority.

I suggest you have a friend along to videotape the challenge as no one will believe you if you don't have it on tape.

EDIT: that is the way to cause trouble. The reality is that if she is that easily swayed by some guy doing "martial tag" then I suggest you forget the whore and start looking for a new girl yourself. If she is swayed by someone like that what is to stop her from bieng swayed by the next guy? Maybe her college professor, what are you going to do then? Go get a phd and a teaching license, by the time you do that and try to one-up every guy that throws a shot into her, she will have seen more use than paris hilton on a drinking binge and you don't need that.

EDIT2: thats the social advantage of taking sword over unarmed fighting. for some reason it triggers visions of elegant finesse in thier head and if not they just write it off as sport fencing which is non violent to them. So long as your looks don't scream "renaciance fair geek" or "anime wannabe".

Answer 6

Sounds funny to me. If she looks up to him and she is pretty. No such thing as a guy and girl being just friends unless he is gay. Why are they close anyway? Should just be a student teacher relationship. If I was you I would go watch the class one or two days. See how they react. If they look uncomfortable with you there, you know something is up. But dont say you are going to see for that reason. Say you just want to see how good she is.

Answer 7

Well it is probably nothing. Seriously don't worry too much. Look at how he interacts with other students. He may just be a personable sensei who care about his students.

You might want to take Jujitsu just in case. That way if it turns out he has romantic interest with her then you can take him down and put him in a submission. Don't seriously hurt him though cause then you will be doing time with Inmate #273 and Inmate #273 may be lonely and Inmate #273 may know his own submissions and inmate #273 maybe 300 lbs.

Seriously though don't sweat it.

Answer 8

positions of power do hold appeal, and she could easily be attracted to him. even though it is an unwritten taboo, if the instructor is less than professional he could easily take advantage of his position.

happened to my sister. instructor told her all the things she wanted to hear.

very bad mojo.

He dropped his pursuit when I found out.

I suggest you stop being jealous, and train in Muay Thai. stop being a farmer and become a warrior. dont train TKD just to spy on them. be more than you are now, be strength and power, and if that is what she likes, she will forget her infatuation.

Answer 9

You shouldn't be jealous. They have a relationship of a different sort -- an instructor or sen-se (spell?) is important to a pupil. If you don't believe your gf when she tells you they are like bro and sis, then you have trust issues.

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Answer 10

If bluto is correct about your girl being swayed by martial artist guy easily, send her my way. I most likely can kick her instructor's as$ if he do point sparring and your as well if you don't train realistic.

Oh man I would love to impress a girl who is attract to martial artist/fighter that's a rare one! Must be so nice to not feel like I have to hide it.