okay...first off i met a guy that i like so far as to what i know about him...im pretty sure he likes me cause he was asking me questions like do u have a bf, and how old i am and stuff like that...he talks to me alot, he hugs me and pinches my side in like a friend way...he's 20 and im 17...be 18 in may...
after he asked if i had a bf, i asked him if he had a gf...well he goes i have a wife and then hes like but she cheats on me....and i asked why hes still with her and he said bc they have a kid
so my question is what am i supposed to do, if he likes me and i like him?
2007-02-23 07:49:47 · 14 answers · asked by sweet18apparatus 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would back off for a while. If hes still married no matter what the relationship is life you dont want to be tangled in that. If they really want to be seperated then he will divorce her oficially and that may be the time to step up to him. Just a suggestion. Let me know how everything goes! Good Luck! _-*Sarah*-_
2007-02-23 07:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe you are actually asking this question.
Say the two of you decided to start something. First off you are messing with fire. He is married. He has a full time relationship with another woman. Are you ok with that? He has a child with this woman. He will always have her in his life. Do you realize that if you do start something that you are breaking up this child's world? Yea so him and his wife arent getting along right now. Happens to alot of marriages. But for you to be the cause of a divorce and breakup of a family with a kid.
Who says he wont cheat on you if you got together? Even if he doesnt cheat on you while your together you will be insecure. When he comes home late, when he wants to hang with friends, when he spends a little money here and there, you will be insecure. Guaranteed.
This is not the way to start a relationship with someone. Now say if they end up getting a divorce and you want to be there for him then thats fine but to me it sounds like he is just keeping his options open and you will be more of a booty call than anything.
Oh and chances are his wife isnt the one cheating. It's him. And he uses that excuse to hook women into being sympathetic to him. Though hes lieing completely.
I was cheated on by my ex husband. Guess what. He wants me back. He learned his lesson.
So I guess what I am trying to strive is that you are wrong to want to have a relationship with someone that is married. It wont work. And it did it work you wont be happy. So try to find someone that is available and is worth your time and your heart. Your only 17. You have a lifetime ahead of you. You should be concentrating on graduating highschool and choosing a college not should I break up a marriage or not.
2007-02-23 16:08:26 · answer #2 · answered by a_dollier 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's testing the waters and softening you up. He knows you are young and will believe him if he says his wife cheats on him. That way he will be able to come to you with ever sob story with the hope you will give him what he wants. You don't want get yourself entangled in someone else's marriage. Like him from afar and wish him luck.
The guy you want for yourself is completely devoted to you and doesn't have to divide his time between his wife and kid. Do you want to end up babysitting his kid on the weekend. You are way too young for that. Try to also remember you are only hearing one side of the story and there are always two sides.
Also the guy you are looking for won't turn to another woman when things go bad, he will stick with it and try to work things out. So this definitely NOT the guy you want in your life. Let him like and give a picture for him to remember you by when you walk away.
2007-02-23 16:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Diane T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run away...you are not technically dating yet, it may be a bit hard but it will save you heartbreak in the end. Just because his wife cheats on him does not make it right, not too mention you don't know him well enough to know if that is the truth. If his wife cheats on him and he wants a separation tell him to give you a call then. Sounds shady to me and I would be on guard not too mention if he can cheat on his wife he can cheat on you, plus can you handle a relationship with a man who goes back to his wife every night. Men need to stop using their kids as a reason to stay married, people do it every day, its called divorce and partial custody. Be careful with this one
2007-02-23 15:54:50 · answer #4 · answered by Italia 28 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. If he wasn't happy with his wife, he wouldn't be with her. Nobody stays just for the kids, because that makes it highly unhealthy for the kids. He just wants a wife at home and a freaky girl on the side to do all the things his wife doesn't do. Don't believe him. I was in the Navy and I worked with guys like that would say that to females.
2007-02-23 15:55:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how much you like the guy tell him you wanna meet the kid and if you can bond w/ this kid maybe you would be interested in being the kids mom. Thats of course if he wins the custody battle after the long N bitter divorce. Less drama to just move on in my opinion. Good Luck.
2007-02-23 15:58:35 · answer #6 · answered by Smarty Pants™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ex wives and kids are a lot to deal with. If you seriously like this guy and actually think that something could come out of this long term wise then go ahead and jsut work on it. Don't get yourself into something you can't handle though. It's gonna be tough trust me.
2007-02-23 15:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by Socially Awkward Penguin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay far far away! Let him know how you feel, but also let him know that you won't be a party to a love triangle where two of the parties have a child. You'll only be hurt in the long run.
2007-02-23 15:54:21 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay away... marrried guy flirting with a minor... sure he is only 20... but that means he hasn't been married too long and he's already looking elswhere. this is a setup almost garanteed to end badly. he can claim his wife cheats on him all day.... but rarely is that the whole story.
2007-02-23 16:02:53 · answer #9 · answered by foo__dd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing, he's married. You have no way of knowing whether his wife actually cheats or he's lying to you. Either way there are plenty of single guys available.
2007-02-23 15:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋