2007-02-23 07:48:26 · 5 answers · asked by getting better- 35 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know my husband was a victim of this in his previous marriage. It was his step son. It landed him in court and took a lot of time and money to clear him name. The boy finally admitted to lying, but I don't think my husband has ever quite healed from the pain and embarrassment.
On the other hand, I would be horrified to think any child telling the truth might be ignored or not given the proper help. I think this boy had some serious issues and did need help of a different kind.
2007-02-23 08:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by jessnbethsmom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
children in todays society are not equipped to work for anything nor accept the word 'no'. God forbid you take away privileges as a consequence or do not supply your 13yo with a cell phone.....you should watch out because children today know that all they have to do is say that they are abused.(I'm not talking about sexual abuse here at all) The laws on abuse have become so unbelievably absurd that children are almost 'rewarded' for their lies. If you don't feed them the food they want...abuse. If you do not give them a cell phone, laptop or unlimited access to facebook...you are abusing them. If you expect that they help around the house...abuse....you refuse to spend $100 on jeans from that fav mall shop of all their friends...abuse...it goes on and on. I agree that there are some very serious cases of child abuse out there and those children need all the help and support we can give them and though I am not a fan of spanking AT ALL....I am not going to report a mother or father for swatting a behind when that parent feels it is warranted. There has to be some responsibility placed on a child who willfully lies to get something they want by way of a blackmail fueled tantrum. And all the wonderful parents of the child's friends that feel that it is your duty to advocate for said child...pick up a phone and call the accused parent or parents before passing judgment or getting involved. Or maybe if you have been around enough children you know that children have a very different psychological disposition and YES...THEY DO LIE sometimes. We have set the system up so that they are not held accountable for the damage they inflict intentionally. And shame on those adults that foster that type of environment. If we are to believe that every child that claims abuse is being 100% truthful before any type of competent in-depth investigation is done then we might as well just hand over the 'keys' because we are at the mercy of the children...and believe me, the children know it too.
2014-05-14 18:36:32 · answer #2 · answered by T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
People know they lie about abuse it's just that some kids don't realize that lying means they are using someone and people who use others always get used. There are many situations where they don't lie...case workers and counselors have been known to manipulate children to feeding into themselves so they can win a case then they blame it on the child and the parent.
2007-02-23 08:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by GoodQuestion 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. There have been cases where children convict their parents of sexually abusing them when the parents didn't do anything to the children and they do this because the police want them to.
2007-02-23 08:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
children lie all the time but people all ways see them as the victims
because they are children and help less they don't understand in till they go though their own battle but hang in there
2007-02-23 12:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋