If you are dating someone, how long do you typically wait to see if there is chemistry in the relationship? I'm talking about a situation where two older people have common interests and seem well-matched, but there just doesn't seem to be much of a spark.
2007-02-23 07:40:38 · 22 answers · asked by Sunflower81 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
depends on what you want out of the (or any) relationship. Some people are content to have just the companionship that comes with joint interests- movies, walks on the beach, etc....and are interested in a sexual or romantic relationship. You need to feel the other person out and see if they are on the same page as you. If you don't feel the spark, but want to, consider keeping them as a friend, and look for someone who generates some heat for that spark.
2007-02-23 07:44:59 · answer #1 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer, that's why you asked the question, to get confirmation. And I quote "I'm talking about a situation where two older people have common interests and seem well-matched, but there just doesn't seem to be much of a spark." Sounds like you have a really good friendship developing and it will probably be left at that. To quote another icon "you can't start a fire without a spark." Good luck
2007-02-23 07:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by Ion Cel Mare 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say if you have gone out long enough to both get past the nervous first date jitters, moved past the trying to impress stage and now you are at the stage where you feel you know each other fairly well, then you are at the point to decide if the relationship has legs.
Sometimes new relationships can be tricky and a spark may not ignite a fire too quickly because nerves get in the way.
However, if you can honestly say that this relationship have evolved to a point beyond nerves and there is still no spark then perhaps you should cherish what it has become; a friendship. Friends of the opposite sex can be wonderful. A companion to go to places with and maybe someday it may lead to more. Just be clear with each other about your feelings and expectations of each other.
2007-02-23 07:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by karenlanea2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, as mature adults why not keep getting to know each other as friends and not worry about the "click". I have found that when there was no spark at first it never really turned up later BUT sometimes I ended up with a really great friend. And I guess you never know, it might ignite something.
So, maybe try being friends and not push for more. If later it begins to turn into more than great but at least you won't have to push for something you may never feel.
2007-02-23 07:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give each other some space. Don't see other people of course but allow each other to miss each other for a lil bit, then you should get somewhat of a spark. If during your time away from each other you simply don't miss that person then there isn't any reason to continue with the relationship. It would be best to stay mutual friends.
2007-02-23 07:49:15 · answer #5 · answered by dala_o_2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the spark should happen when you first meet the person. I felt the spark when my now husband walked through the front door. If there's no spark maybe you two are better off friends
2007-02-23 07:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't date them at all if there is no chemistry. You either feel it or you don't. There's no point wasting precious time. A relationship without any spark is doomed (except for a new friend - and one can never have to many of those)!
2007-02-23 07:43:39 · answer #7 · answered by I See You 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, if there is no spark, you will know right away. But beware of the lust factor. The Lust Factor is when you are so attracted to someone, that you change you habits and everything that makes YOU who YOU are, to conform to what the other person likes. I have, unfortunately been a victim of this. I love Rock music, scary movies...etc. And was so in lust with a girl, I started listening to country, and watching different movies and TV shows...etc. Thankfully, my friends pulled my out of that hole.
2007-02-23 07:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by Society Dweller 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spark is generally defined with a desire to kiss someone at the same time as realizing that you enjoy the other person as a person. a spark without anyone chasing the other for kissy kissy doesn't work... and kissy kissy doesn't spark unless you too are either ok or good with eachother if not amazed
2007-02-23 07:44:19 · answer #9 · answered by guitarbuttmunch88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well with me it averages about 2 to 3 weeks of dating. Try to have the dates be just you and him so you can talk and learn more about eachother. Then you will be able to make a decision on what you have observed.
2007-02-23 07:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by bronzebody281 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋