i hung out with another guy a couple of weeks ago and it has been eating me alive, if i told him hed never speak to me again but if i hadnt done this i wouldnt have realized how much i love him..i dont think im going to tell him, our relationship is better now then ever
2007-02-23 07:40:07 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look girl, i lie to my bird all the time. Its what keeps us together. So say nothing and do it again.
2007-02-23 07:46:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see why it would be eating away at you...if HE were to have "hung out with another girl" and not tell you about it, but then realized he had strong feelings for you afterwards.....How would YOU feel if you ever found out??
You can either be honest and upfront to him...knowing he may get so hurt and leave you
or
Keep your secret a secret and pray he never finds out accidently as you will lose him for lying and keeping this from him*
You say if you hadn't done this (hanging out with another guy) you would never have realized how much you love your b/friend now....That's bullcrap and you know it* If you needed to be with another guy..you definately Dont LOVE your boyfriend..you're not feeling Love for him now...it's guilt* of him finding out*~
All I can say is Goodluck to you*
2007-02-23 15:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all you did was hung out there is no reason to tell him unless he might hear about it from someone else. Just because you are in a relationship it doesn't mean you cannot hang out with other guys. Stop beating yourself up over nothing.
2007-02-23 15:45:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yah, but now your relationship is based on a lie. Its better to tell him deal with him being mad and hopefully have him get over it.
Otherwise, he will find out from someone else, be WAY MORE MAD and wonder what you had to hide, and DEFINITELY not forgive you.
Remember he has a right to be mad. How would you feel if you found out he was hanging out with some other girl??
2007-02-23 17:14:29 · answer #4 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell is wrong with hanging out with another guy?! I have a lot of guy friends. I think if you and your boyfriend are secure enough in your relationship, there should be nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex. And that goes for him too. It's not like you're sleeping with this guy.....or are you? I would tell him-He shouldn't feell threatened by you "hanging out" with anyone.
2007-02-23 15:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by court 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like the first answer said, Dont tell. If you were just hangign out its ok, you did nothing you should regret. You now know how deep your love is for him now. Sometimes we have to test ourselves to find the truth, because we don't even know it. Im going through a simmilar dilema at the moment. Good luck.
2007-02-23 15:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by Kari H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what you mean by hung out. If you were actually hanging out with him, then I see no reason to say anything.
If what you are trying to say is that you cheated on your boyfriend with another guy, 2 scenarios: If you tell him, will he break up with you? If you don't tell him, can you live with the fact that you cheated and are keeping the truth from him?
2007-02-23 15:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by jon c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's okay that you didn't tell him; as long as you didn't do anything out of the way with the other guy. That was something that you did for yourself, and proved your love for your boyfriend. So in a way it helped the both of you out.
2007-02-23 15:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by tcgagirl18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you can say something about seeing someone else, and other times, it does not help, but hurt your cause. So don't say anything. Ask God to forgive you. and move on, with having a great relationship!
2007-02-23 15:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you hung out, you didnt do anything wrong. no reason to tell him. if he wouldnt be with you for that then maybe you dont need to be with him anyway. i couldnt be with someone who didnt trust me
if you tell him now, he is gonna think you are hiding something more than that cause it took so long for you to say anything.
i vote no, keep it to yourself
2007-02-23 15:44:37 · answer #10 · answered by Patricia G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋