My bf and I have been together for almost 2 months...within the first 4 weeks (Begining of Feb.) he bought me brand new tires that cost $245.00. He jokingly said that was my vday gift. Well come vday i get ready thinking we were going out. Boy was i wrong. He picks me up and takes me to his house to eat. To top it off he gave me a mug!! I was so upset because he didnt put any effort into vday. We stayed at his house watched a movie and that was that. Can someone tell me what he was thinking? am i not worth doing something more for in his eyes?? please help!
2007-02-23 07:36:45 · 23 answers · asked by melyssa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop being so picky!!!
He spent $245 on you, for God's sake!!!
Be a little grateful here.
Atleast he bought you something (doesn't matter what the crap it is) and atleast he made time for you on Valentine's Day and he didn't forget.
Don't be so selfish. He won't be sticking around if you continue to act this way.
2007-02-23 07:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You were together 2 months and I bought you a $245 gift (tires). I know it's not the most romantic of gifts, but it was something you needed, right? In fact, I don't know too many guys that would spend that kind of money on someone that early in the relationship. I agree, a mug is a bit of stretch for a Vday gift and perhaps a teddy bear or single rose would've been a little more romantic, but some guys just don't think too much about that sort of thing. Just try to let it slide this time and maybe next year (or your birthday or next holiday) you can drop a few hints while your shopping to help him out.
2007-02-23 15:42:29 · answer #2 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He actually spent $245 on you, even when you have been dating for only a couple of months.
Have you stop to think that maybe he has no more money? Have you realized that he spent his money on something much more important than going out on vday? Your life might depend… in fact it does depend on your tires when you are on the road.
I’m not saying he was right or not, but based on your question, I don’t know you actually sat down with him and asked him if he was ok spending all that money. I mean, unless he has a lot of money (and you must be sure of it), 245 dollars are still 245 dollars. If he has money, then yes, he should had at least take you out for dinner, or maybe ask you if you would like to go out on a romantic date.
I think you two need to talk and be honest with each other. If he has no more money, he might not want for you to know it and assumed you would be ok not going anywhere considering he told you the tires were the vday present. But still, he should have asked you or tell you that he is tight on money.
And you have to tell him, first, that you are very grateful that he spent his money on something important for you, and second, that he should be honest with you, that is ok if he used all the money, just to let you know as you are romantic and would have liked to go out.
Of course, if he has money, then you can tell him you were a little disappointed. Still I think you need to consider the fact he is buying you something important and not something useless.
2007-02-23 15:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by Dan D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not he was serious about the tires being your valentine's gift, if, within the first few weeks he was buying you $245 tires, he really must care about you. I understand that your incensed with the lack of Valentine's display, I would be too, but it's not time to write him off. Maybe he doesn't take Valentine's day very seriously (my parents love each other very much, and they never celebrated beyond some chocolate). Maybe he though a low-key evening would show how comfortable he was with you. I'd say let it slide this time, and if you're still together next year, step up and start talking about your V-day plans in January. Then he'll know you're serious!!
2007-02-23 15:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just spent a lot of money on YOUR tires! He obviously cares for you enough to want to ensure your safety on the road! He's probably broke now! Listen, I can trump anyone's worst Valentine's Day. . . One year, my (now ex) boyfriend gave me a mini desktop paper shredder! PAPER SHREDDER!!!!!!! For Valentine's Day!!!!! Take the mug, cheesy movie, and home cooked meal and run! This man's obviously not a cheapskate; otherwise you'd still have nasty tires on your car! He probably just ran out of funds! Let it go and don't judge him by this. You are still in a fairly new relationship so wait to see what he does for the next event you two will share. Then you can worry about how much he spends and what that means in terms of how much he values you! (Which is sick, by the way. But totally requires another question!)
2007-02-23 15:46:10 · answer #5 · answered by CurlyLocks 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One of four possibilities:
1. He was serious about the tires.
2. You are not satisfied with the simple things in life; picky.
3. He doesn't feel that you have been in a relationship with him long enough yet....it my be too soon for him.
4. He's broke from buying you tires and thought you'd be grateful to have even spent the day with him at his house.
2007-02-23 15:46:36 · answer #6 · answered by Roxie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey you and him have only been dating for two month, and 4wks into the relationship he bought tires that he didn't have to buy anyway. Vday is not about how much money you spend on a person, it's about showing the person that you care. Exactly what did you get him??? And how much did you spend ????
2007-02-23 15:44:51 · answer #7 · answered by T 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
man! maybe you have your priorities mixed up, those tires were expensive, especially if he hasn't known you that long..and he did feed you and even got you a mug *LOL* he cares for you more than you know and more than you appreciate, hopefully when you are older you will understand that true love isn't always hearts and flowers and the romantic notions of a teenager, true love is buying tires for a present, and taking care of one another when you're sick, true love is picking up socks and saying you're sorry, curling up on the couch with a rental movie and cheap popcorn and realizing self worth is not measured in how much someone spends on easily forgotten trinkets...blessings to you
2007-02-23 15:46:18 · answer #8 · answered by dances with cats 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit complaining! You've only been going out for a couple of months and he's already bought you $245 tires for christ sake. So, he picked you up and you ate at his house. So what. You got a mug. So what. He spent $245 on your dang tires. What did you expect?..... A diamond bracelet on top of it? Geesh! Count your blessings already, would ya?
2007-02-23 15:41:55 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hate to say it but I think he was serious about the tires being you vday gift.
2007-02-23 15:39:58 · answer #10 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋