cutting scars?

Question

I've got a whole buncha scars from cutting. I also have a whole bunch of fresh cuts on my arm. How can i hide the scars from my peers?
P.S. My parents know and i am seeing a therepist
also are there any alternatives for cutting?

i dont want to kill my self.

Answer 1

good for you for getting help! i wish i had the courage to get help a few years back. ive been cutting myself my a few years now. i haven't done it in a couple months. i found two alternatives that kept me from harming myself when i use to do it alot...i had two best friends that i would call and just talk to. i never wanted to go to a therapist because i didnt want to talk about my personal problems to someone i didnt know...my friends really helped me to just calm down and realize that it just a stupid thing to do. when i had no one to talk to then i would write poems. i have a couple of notebooks full of poems...i would write every time i was sad or depressed or felt like i couldnt live anymore...anytime something would get me down i would write about...it doesnt even have to be poems...i even justwrote letters to myself...sometimes i would write them to people and just kept them to myself. that really helped the most...its just literally writing your feelings on paper...when i was cutting, it felt like i couldnt breathe...like all the shitty parts of life were building up and growing so big that it felt like i was gonna pop! so in order to vent i would cut. it felt like such a release. getting those same feelings out on paper gave me the same release...in a less dangerous way. now i can look back and read my old poems and letters and realize that i can move past that. and the fact that you are brave enough to see a therapist is good because it shows that you're moving on to the next step in getting better. once you are past that point and feel like you've found new safe ways to handle life then when someone asks you about your scars you can proudly talk about it...(not proud that you once cut yourself...but proud that its apart of you past and not your future!) and maybe you yourself can help someone just like you in the future and say "hey, i've been there and you can get help and life can seem okay."
hope everything works out for ya! if you need someone to talk to in the rough times you can email me!

Answer 2

The scars may fade with time, but for the most part, they'll naturally be there for a while. Honestly, just accept them. They are the cosequence. The scars will always be there. They burn deeper than the skin. You could get surgery to remove them, but in your mind the scars will always remain.
You can do all the therapy out there, but despite, it all depends on the individual wanting a change. First of all, dig for the root. Why do you do this? Do you remember the first time you cut? Why? Do you currently cut for the same reason? Be honest with yourself. By all means, you are not alone. If this act wasn't so tabooed, it would amaze everyone how common it is.
Apparently, this is the way you express yourself. There are other ways to get out emotions. Cutting is hurting, and keep in mind the scars. Not wanting them to be there could be a boost to quiting. Which sounds more easier to deal with- cutting or writing in a diary? Cutting or listening to music? Surely you understand. Another alternative is getting a sketchbook. It doesn't take an artist, it's simple- if you feel angery, grab a pencil and scribble the living daylights out of the page. Use a certain color that really expresses that emotion. It would really make you feel better, trust me. And if you feel the book, you'll have a visual documentary of your life.
I totally feel for you. Don't ever give up, keep positive and you can defeat this. Good luck, and I'll pray for you. :)

Answer 3

Well for starters keep up the therapy. I am a SI too. My SI isn't habitual but based on episodes of depression and stress. It has been almost 3 months since I last hurt myself. I understand how addictive it can be though.

Depending on where your scars are you can put on long t-shirts, jeans, or if you want to wear a skirt wear tights. You can try make up but I don't think it works very well.

One alternative I know for cutting is to wear a rubber band and when you want to cut, snap it on your wrist hard. You get the pain without the scarring.

I hope this helps and I hope you continue seeing your therapist so you can stop hurting yourself. I saw someone too when my SI was getting out of control.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I used to be a cutter and now have tons of scars and it sucks. I always have to answer questions about where the scars came from. I would ask your therapist what would work for you to stop. There is no real way to hide them unless you wear long sleeve all the time and that can be a pain. You may have to just let them show and deal with the questions. I wish you luck and hope you can stop before you end up with a bunch more.

Answer 5

well, when you first make them, if they're small enough, pull together your skin and try to fuse it together, holing it together with a piece of tape. If it' really bad, from experience i can tell you, to go far away or to a large city where theres too many people to remember just one(i.e. nyc ect) and go to a free clinic or ER and get stitches. As for the scars, i made up a BRILLIANT plan. I have a really mild case of excema(almost everyone does) and i scratched the living daylights out of my legs. Then I went to a dermatoligist. I got drugged up to get rid of the infection that had grown on my legs from the sores that I had inflicted upon myself, creme to heal it. Then there were scars left over, so she prescribed me a really strong tube of scar remover Now every time I think there are too many scars (or for some oddly hopeful moments where I think i can pull out of thi and making the scars go away so i cant see them nd get better) and they're too noticeable. Are people kind of iffy weather you d this or not? I'm stereotyped into doing this kind of stuff because of the music i listen to and people were starting to . get the idea that I did do it, i couldnt lt them think that! Play on humans stupidity and wear short sleeves, throws them off, only wear jackets andsuch if it really bad (like you JUST got the stitches) Make-up usually works, but i only use that if i can see it through the corner of my eye wear one of thosething that they Slashing sucks, all I can say is stop if you can, you sound like this is kinda new to you, so stop while your ahead. Good luck, and try to stop if it's possible, or you'll be stuck with it for life (i.e. me)

Answer 6

I will answer your question but first,
Just because you self injur does not make you EMO...
I hate steryotypes...makes me so freakin mad.

It's good that you are seaking help. That is the first step. To hid them, I usually wear longsleeves, braceltets or I use make up depending if they old scars or new ones.

I haven't cut in a while: the things that have worked for me are:
Taking showers,
walking
listening to inspiring music
talking with a trusted adult or friend
drawing
writing
scribiling on paper
writing on myself
talking or praying to God. * he knows how you feel,even if you don't think so*

If cutting is a way to deal with anger that you cannot express openly, try taking those feelings out on something else – running, dancing fast, screaming, punching a pillow, throwing something, ripping something apart

If cutting is a way to feel something when you feel numb inside, try holding ice or a package of frozen food, taking a very hot or very cold shower, chewing something with a very strong taste (like chili peppers, raw ginger root, or a grapefruit peel), or snapping a rubber band hard on your wrist

If cutting is a way to calm yourself, try taking a bubble bath, doing deep breathing, writing in a journal, drawing, or doing some yoga

If cutting involves your having to see blood, try drawing a red ink line where you would usually cut yourself,

Answer 7

Hi, snapping an elastic band hard on your wrist is one, drawing lines on yourself with red pen is another, and making ice cubes with red food coloring and letting them melt in your hand is another.... I cut too and i have to say that i the only one of those i tried is the elastic band one....it sort-of helped, but i went straight back to the cutting.

I use water-proof make-up sometimes on my scars, wear long tops or if i've just done it, wear a large plaster and if anyone asks i make up an excuse. Cat scratches from my "friends" cat is one i've used a lot.

However, the most important thing is to keep up the therapy and once you've delt with whatever it is that is causing you to self-harm, then you won't feel like you need to do it anymore (or thats whats supposed to happen).

Good luck.x

Answer 8

Vitamin E is supposed to be good for reducing scars. Long sleeves/ long pants will hide the scars for now. Alternatives? A rubberband maybe. Snap it instead of cutting. Keep busy, maybe tear some paper. Used to work for me.

Answer 9

Why hide them?
For some races, having big scars is a sign of courage and bravery. Some people put horse hairs in the cut to make the scars bigger.
Maybe your parents should be seeing a therapist if you are cutting yourself because of them?

Answer 10

There are some very good over-the-counter scar lotions on the market now...such as Mederma...you may want to try those. Also, if you are seeing a therapist and still cutting, you may need to change therapists...your therapist (a good one) can guide you in ways to deal with stress other than cutting....

Answer 11

Long sleeves, wristbands, jackets. Cocoa butter is pretty good for fading scars, if you don't want to buy those expensive creams that don't do much anyway. As for an alternative, the old rubber band around the wrist trick works pretty well.