my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years and recently we have not been doing do well, i got him a nice gift for v-day and he didnt get me anything....i was really bummed and i told him how he made me feel, and he laughed at me. and has been being extreamly rude and munipiluative lately....i dont know how much more i can take..... i love this man with all my heart i have never loved any one like i have loved him, but this has got to stop what can i do need Advice asap
2007-02-23 07:27:12 · 7 answers · asked by LucKieZ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The sad thing is that sometimes without warning people just chane. They change and it hurts, because you look at them and think "this is NOT the prson I fell in love with at all!" It sucks when that happens, but it still happens. I think a lot of relationships end because of this. The thing you need to do is first give it another shot. Be honest with him and just say you think he has changed. Ask him if he thinks he has or if maybe he thinks you have and it's made him change. Just tell him your feelings and if he wants to work on things and he shows that he cares then I think you should try as hard as you can to work it out. If he laughs at you again then it's probably time to move on. I know you may have been with him for a long time, but the fact is there are a million other guys out there ready to treat you a thousand times better than that. Hope it works out for ya.
2007-02-23 07:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by Socially Awkward Penguin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well regardless of whether the relationship used to be good or not, it does sound like its time for both of you to move on and meet new people. I say this mainly because he didnt take your feelings into consideration when you tried to talk to him about Valentines Day. That really sucks! Besides that, you say hes being really rude and manipulative, and thats not how he should treat you. If you think you are headed for a breakup, dont wait around for him to do it. Get it over with yourself (I would) because you are the one who is hurt by his actions, and if you break it off first he will know you won't tolerate his behavior. He will either make it evident that he wants to move on, or try to do better to get you back. Good luck!
2007-02-23 07:35:38 · answer #2 · answered by rantfactory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One if he really loved you he would have not laughed when you told him how you felt..I've been married for almost 16 yrs and have never missed a V-D even the 9 months we dated..
Tell him your hurt and if things don't change you'll leave...and by the way he reacts will tell you how much he loves you..
2007-02-23 07:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think your relationship is falling to pieces then you dont love him if my boyfriend didnt get me a valentine it would be over . We as women should get romantic gifts on special days and if we dont dump them and find someone who will theyre are plenty of rich fish in the sea. you get out of life what you want to if you are satisfied with nothing then youll get nothing.
2007-02-23 07:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by DeeDee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my experiences, if you trully want to make things work with him, then make him feel like you dont care about him anymore. Now to some this may sound incredibly stupid, but trust me, it works. When he realizes that you dont need him, he'll come running back to you and will lose the whole attitude. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-02-23 07:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by t2006s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel when he does something annoying. He will definitely correct himself. Sometimes people are not aware of effect their behavior is making on others. It can me ignorance. So please convey your concerns.
Believe in patch up not break-ups. Because patch ups shower smiles and break-ups break both the people into pieces.
2007-02-23 07:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by Goldman 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you don't like to be treated like crap and if he thinks thats how it should be you wont take it any longer and leave. Tell him its either he changes and becomes the way he used to be or you are leaving.
2007-02-23 07:31:20 · answer #7 · answered by Loco 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋