After 7 years she decided to leave and she told me that all she feels for me now is love like a brother and she will never go back with me and for now doesnt want to hurt me by being my friend. I am really in love but her words crushed my heart. I know i need to forget about her but i cant and when i go out with friends all i do is think about her. Can any one please give helpful advices here. No crap. She said the she is happier then the las couple month we were together. yes we were living together
Please Help what can i do?
2007-02-23 07:25:11 · 19 answers · asked by leomebaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah it your ex- girlfriend lol go on a vacation or somewhere where you guy didn't met if you really want to forget her then my advice is to leave that area and going a road trip with friend or alone, it happen to me too lol for me to forget some that long is hard but i swear to you that if you found some else i bet you will be happier and lol if you are sad, angry, cry about her then she win lol think about ok here a easy way think what does she make you angry here one she broken your heart right that my advice hope you can found your true love lol and she not your true love. Hope this help
2007-02-23 07:49:08 · answer #1 · answered by mike2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh poor baby I wish I was in love. it will take some time to get over her but it is obvious she dosen't feel the same way. It will take a while because you where in a long time relationship it won't be easy because you still love her if you are still living together then you need to move out a new place will start the healing process even if you don't still live together a new place may be helpful seeing the apartment or house the two of shared if that is to drastic then take a vaction just you and your friends {that are single} and just let loose. I hope this helps it is hard getting over someone you love and it will not be easy and it wont happen over night
2007-02-23 07:33:50 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think of it this way, you had a girlfriend and know you have a friend, do not spoil the moment and keep her as a friend and move on by having new relationship but do not jump into the first wagon you find. Take your time and enjoy your single status, beleive me it is a period that you will never forget it as you are free. Also, I think that one of you should move out unless you can live with having her in the same place that you will bring a new girfriend into the place and I assure you that she will not be happy to see you bringing a girl back home with you. females can hide their feelings but they get to the point that they explode. My advise, move on and live your life, I been there and I am happier million times that when I was with my ex-girlfriend. LIve your life and enjoy it while it last.
2007-02-23 07:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by ahmad A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you're hurting... I know right now it doesn't seem like you will ever be able to forget about her, because the pain is still new. But the honest truth is that although it hurts at first, it will eventually ease up in time... and you'll be ready to start looking for someone else. You will never actually forget, but at least it won't hurt when you do. Hang in there, it will get better.
2007-02-23 07:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by selena n 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to take all this in, but you cant control someone else's feelings. It is better that she was honest with you and left, even though it hurt you. You only live once, and she wasn't happy. You will find someone else, and when you do you will look back on all of this and realize that everything happens for a reason. I've been on both sides of this situation and it isn't easy for anyone involved, but try and be strong. Focus on the positive things in your life and try to stay busy, so you don't dwell on her. It will get better and easier with time, I promise.
2007-02-23 07:31:45 · answer #5 · answered by hurleygirl5211 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry love, but there is nothing you can do. Sometimes people just fall out of love or feelings change. She was being honest with you and even though it broke your heart you have to give her credit for being honest with you. The fact is it's going to hurt very badly for a long time especially after being with her for so long, but you can't make someone love you no matter what you do. I'm sorry this happened to you. <3
2007-02-23 07:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by Socially Awkward Penguin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep your head up it is diffcult to be out of a relationship but usually when it ends it is for the better...... everything happens for a reason and mabey you two were not meant to be..... because there is someone better out their for you....... i am going through alot of problems myself right now and i totally understand where you are coming from.... but instead of fighting the waves i am learning to ride them no matter how bad it makes my heart hurt.... and in good time it will be easyier but instead of fighting for what you want you should just let life happen beause you cannot make some one love you.
2007-02-23 07:32:41 · answer #7 · answered by LucKieZ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW... my brother is in that IDENTICAL situation. Well, he has turned his concentrations towards his family and his interests. (which happen to be cars) It was really super rough for him at first cuz she just up and walked out and gave him the SAME EXACT story. I mean word for word. I'm not kidding. Look at it this way, you concentration and all your efforts were mostly directed at her for the last 7 years right? So you need to RE-direct them now. Family, work, pets (get a dog if you can), hobbies, exercise, cleaning, detailed cleaning, READING... just keep yourself totally busy until you are too damn tired to think about you two.
2007-02-24 06:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by cali 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts, but you have to let her go, in your mind and thoughts. Life goes on, and their is someone out their for you, don't rush it, take your time. Now the next time be friends for a while, so you can get to know someone, and then you can go to the next level! She may have done you a favor! It is going to be alright, so just hang in their!
2007-02-23 07:33:00 · answer #9 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to move on you may need to make a conscious decision not to give her any more 'head space'. She has been honest so as not to give you false hope but it seems you are unable to accept it's over. If you are having trouble moving on perhaps counselling will help you get closure.
2007-02-23 07:29:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋