i had a boy friend
n i broke my relationship bcoz he got physical with me forcefully without my wish
i was already broken by his act bcoz he the one whom i trusted alot n used 2 feel safest with him
n felt that he is the one who loves me most
anyways when i m saying 2 leave me alone forever so now he is threating my life..he is saying "u r finished" "c wat m gonna do now" etc etc
i belong 2 very conservative family n i cant tell all this to my family
n he is having big approach to police n ministry too
i just want him to leave me ,leave me forever thats it...wat should i do
2007-02-23 07:12:01 · 12 answers · asked by stunning.sheena 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't have any contact with him whatsoever, then you won't have to listen to or worry about his threats. You don't need to tell him anything since he's obviously not listening, don't waste any more of your time on him.
2007-02-23 07:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you should do is notify the police and your pastor of your church and make a report that he is threatening your life. If he calls and threatens you, make a tape of the conversation and play it for the police. Then get an order of protection from the court. Also you must tell you parents what is going on. They have to know that you are being threatened. This is extremely important! They have to know the story. You cannot do this alone; you need the love and support of your parents and friends. Your parents will support you and will defend you. You are their daughter remember that, no matter that they are conservative.
This guy is threatening you because he thinks you are totally alone; If he knows your parents are supporting you, he probably will back off. Any man who physically abuses their partner is a scoundrel and evil. He doesn't deserve you and keep that in your mind every day when you wake up. You are better than he is and he lost his chance to be a recipient of your love. He is not worth it dear...and believe me he will never change. If you go back to him, he will abuse you again, and he could possibly do more than that. Call the police, make a report; tell your pastor; tell your parents; get an order of protection; and rid yourself of this psycho.
2007-02-23 07:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are abuse hotline phone lines in most decent-sized cities. Talk to one that is the same state (or province, or whatever) that you live in. They're not lawyers, but they'll give you an outline of your legal options anyway. And they'll give you emotional support.
Second, DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT "PEOPLE WILL THINK". Unless you're living in one of those screwed up Islamic or other countries where blood relatives of women engage in "honor killings", of course. Otherwise, if your family are decent people they'll put your safety ahead of anything else.
Remember -- this guy is committing SERIOUS crimes. Proving it may be hard, but both law and society's opinion are on your side.
And if you're attending a school or university of any kind, they're very likely to have good people to talk with as well.
2007-02-23 08:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like me 1 1/2 ago. My ex did something really bad to me and I was afraid to leave because I didnt know what else he would do. But I found to courage to stand up to him. I also got counseling for what he did and that helped alot! I went and filed a restraining order against him. I also took steps to press charges. Unfortunately, I didnt because I didnt want my family to know what happened. I dont know how old you are... but the best thing, and I wish I did, is tell them what happened. You never know how they may react. Your parents may have the courage you dont to get this nut off your case. Good Luck!
2007-02-23 07:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would like to say I am so sorry that you are being put in the situation you are. If your life is in danger I wouldn't stay. I understand you not wanting to tell your family but you don't have to....just leave. Whenever you get a chance I would pack all of my stuff and go stay with someone whom he wouldn't guess you would be stayin with. I wish you the best!
2007-02-23 07:29:50 · answer #5 · answered by sexililmommi420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ouch... this guy, yea, he's broken the law. if u learned how to spell better, i might actually understand half of what ur saying. However, you need to go to the police, and if what your talking about is rape, your family should understand. rape, and threatening can both be reported to the police, ESPECIALLY if you feel unsafe. besides going to the police, there is nothing that can stop this man, and your onlly other option is to move FAR away, and considering that your family cannot know about this, it's not much of a choice.
2007-02-23 07:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by Trombone_Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first you should learn how to type in english.....
second you should tell somebody especially if you are under age. I know you don't want to telll your family, but the fact is you need to tell someone so incase this guy decideds to do something completely crazy there will be someone who knows what is going on and maybe they can help you.
2007-02-23 07:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by Socially Awkward Penguin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Who cares if your family is conservative. When he has murdered you is your family going to speak at your funeral and say "well, it's okay because we're conservative!" No...I think they'll want to know that their daughters life is in jeopardy. File a restraining order against him. Get everybody invovled so that it won't be a mystery when he tries to hurt you.
2007-02-23 07:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to have the law intervene. Threats on your life are abusive. He only has to carry the act out once to kill you.
E-mail me once in awhile to let me know you're OK. I care.
2007-02-23 07:16:41 · answer #9 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are places that help people like you. Try to find a women's shelter or a group that can give you advice. Or a school counselor.
2007-02-23 07:17:46 · answer #10 · answered by DeeGee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋