to request that we do not go near each other for a couple of days until all the "meat" has been processed throughout his system?
I mean, I can't imagine kissing him after that, or being nearby when any bodily functions erupt ... I'm going to ask him to use the guest bathroom too.
I am a vegetarian, and I just am really truly grossed out about this.
I gave him no problem about going, so he should give me no problem about this request, right?
Thanks for your opinion!
2007-02-23 07:00:20 · 15 answers · asked by Reserved 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
There shouldn't be a problem with this request. If he can live with you a vegetarian and you live with him as a meatatarian, he should be able to accept the fallout for a few days. But after that, no grousing, complaining or mentioning it. Once its set, discussion has ended and everyone can just accept it.
My husband doesn't like it that I will sleep in the guest room because of his comical snoring. But if he won't do anything about the noise level, he can live with sleeping in separate beds.
2007-02-23 07:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by Amy V 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...so you married a guy who isn't a vegetarian. I'm sure this isn't the only time in your marriage that he has ate meat...correct? How and why is the wild game dinner different than a hamburger at McDonalds? You really need to get off your high horse, appreciate your husband for who he is and what he offers to you and your family. If you are so committed to the vegetarian lifestyle and you knew he was not a veg. before marriage....why are you pondering this question now?
Well, you wanted my opinion, there you go. Give your husband a hug, be thankful for all you have and grin and bear and say nothing.
2007-02-23 07:06:48 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle_My_Belle 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely you are pushing him too hard, you make to use guest room, you don't like kissing him! I think these minor things happen in life, as I fully understand that you were under no compulsion to marry him despite he was a non-veg. It's a timely phenomena and we all on the net wants to see you leading a happy married life.
You are only taking, but love means sacrifice and in holy matrimony it's both give and take, but love wants more.Now the ball is in your court, lets see how you pay as rules do apply.
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2007-02-23 07:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by Dr.Qutub 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would say that it is very wrong to make him stay away from you for days because you don't like meat. I agree that you could ask him to brush his teeth and take a shower so that you don't have to smell the meat but it should end there. It should not take three days for you to be able to stand to be around him.
Let me ask you, does he request that you stay away from him after you have been eating your tofu or bean curd or whatever you eat as a vegetarian? My guess is "no" he accepts you as you are with no exceptions.
2007-02-23 09:08:59 · answer #4 · answered by Misty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be a little over the top reacting actually. As long as he's not forcing you to go or forcing you to eat meat, don't worry about it and don't treat him like a stranger for the next few days. That's actually just plain childish.
2007-02-23 07:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would define this response as a "problem" for him going, consequence is frequently thought of as a problem for an action.
If he's fine with it; though I do have to second the thought that a hard-core vegan marrying a guy who goes to gaming dinner is a little unusual. Make it work.
2007-02-23 07:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jack A 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why would you not want to go near him? I don't think the meat is going to leak out of his skin or anything! Maybe the issue is less about the meat and more about you feeling like he dosn't understand or appreciate your beliefs?
2007-02-23 09:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, are you serious? I think you're overdoing it, meat eating isn't contagious. How do you deal with the people you meet in public, or with going to a public restroom? Meat eaters use those all the time!
2007-02-23 14:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have news for you sweetheart--just because you're vegetarian doesn't mean your sh!t doesn't stink too. If I were you, I'd get off your high horse, ask him politely when he returns to brush his teeth and tongue, rinse with Listerine, and make sure he flushes twice.
I suggest you get over it. I seriously doubt he suddenly became a carnivore. Chances are you knew this about him long before you married him.
2007-02-23 07:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
food/eating is a social experience. lots of people bond over food. i am sorry to hear that your and husband does not agree on food choices. it is hard.
i think asking him to stay away for a few days is harsh. bad for your marriage too. however. ask him to brush and floss his teeth as soon as he comes home, so his breath does not smell like meat. ask him to take a shower and change his cloth, so his body does not smell like meat. i do not think those demands are too much to ask.
good luck.
2007-02-23 07:45:15 · answer #10 · answered by scubagirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋