Hi I have some questions I hope someone can help with I been with my boyfriend for a year now a few months ago he admitted he lived with another woman for 10 months but before he lied and said he didn;t that was the frist of many lies about this woman.
Everyone kept saying she said he hurt her so questions went through my mind how abuse or what so I finally find her email address and ask her how he hurt her she answered she said she gave up her home and family and came to live with him on a promise he was in love with her they met on a dating site he still was married but separted getting a divorce he didnt tell her that till she moved in .
Within 2 months he was telling her he loved his wife but she still hung around for 8 more months he told her he loved her he didn;t the ex showed up she leaves but she had her bags packed for weeks , She said he cheated he says she did but she kept all his pictures and stuff for 3 years is shestill hanging on? My question iswhy does he keep lieing
2007-02-23 06:46:55 · 14 answers · asked by klynn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people lie because they always have and have never had to suffer the consequences. Others lie because they can't cope with being disapproved of, or to get something they know they wouldn't if they were honest. I would be seriously concerned if I were you both because of the lying and because of his history of treating women badly.
2007-02-23 06:54:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a feeling you are very young, It takes time to understand the male species but I have indeed found out that there is always a percentage of a man that will lie in order to achieve what there looking for. I think that before getting involved with a male you either assume the risks involved or stay single.A human will never change for another. If he's a cheater he will continue to cheat If He's a lier he will continue to lie. You can either accept it or move on
2007-02-23 14:54:33 · answer #2 · answered by Francine V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, this sounds rough, GET RID OF HIM! I dated a guy like that, found out after about 2 1/2 years that he lied about so much stuff. It got really bad, to the point where he started hitting me and I retaliated and was really scared to leave him. I didnt even live with him. When I finally did break up with him he would brake into my house early in the morn when I was the only one there, stand over my bed and just starte at me. After I thought he left once I went down stairs and he was sitting at my kitchen table drinking coffee! If he lies that much, dont risk it, he is hiding something!
2007-02-23 14:51:52 · answer #3 · answered by BUFFCHICK25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl wake up and get out of that relationship...He has lied way to much and is probably lieing to you right now... Are you sure that he is still not married and that he is not seeing someone on the side... Really I think staying with this guy is going to leave you hurting... Just like the ex girlfriend...
2007-02-23 14:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by evepineda02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you wont be able to sincerly trust your boyfriend, because I think he has a sincere time with trying to tell the truth...and that is hard to live with, and it will forever cause you pain and problems in your household and relationship with him. I would try sitting down and talking to him, ask him all the questions you are pondering about, and see what he says. Also, if this man is in ANY WAY SHAPE OR FORM abusive in any way, be it physical or verbal, I would not waste your time or saftey and just leave him now...you deserve someone better than that....
Good Luck and do the right thing...you need to follow what your mnd tells you, not what your heart is saying right now.
2007-02-23 14:52:00 · answer #5 · answered by SassyGirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously this guy has alot of tricks up his sleeve, so I suggest that you end your little rendezvous as quickly as possible, before you get sucked in his fantasy world. But you were really brave at going about to get the answers you needed. So I applaud you. With the woman telling you about his extramarital affairs, that should be all the answer you need to know that this guy is not who he says he is. Whether you believe her or not, she has enough credit-because she was involved with him as well, to make herself seem an honest woman. Could you see yourself giving up everything you have for him, and he couldn't have mentioned that he was once married, or had a family somewhere? Take Care!
2007-02-23 14:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by Sharon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person who lies to you either doesn't respect you or is afraid of how you will take the truth. Let him know that you'll be fine with the truth and back that up by BEING fine. Don't blow up when you hear honest things.
2007-02-23 14:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by Caramella 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people would rather lie than tell the truth. I would rather lie down and sleep at night. I'm sure you are way too good for this man.
2007-02-23 15:12:38 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Marilyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR QUESTION WAS WHY IS HE KEEP ON LIEING.
WELL ALL BOYS LIE.
SOME TIMES WHEN THEY LIE THEY HAVE THERE SELF THINKING THEY ARE TELLING THE TRUTH AND REALLY ISN'T. BUT TO YOUR FRIEND SHE NEED TO THINK LIKE BOYS WHEN SHE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH ONE. SHE HAVE TO BE SMART AND BRAVE. IF SHE DON'T THINK LIKE THEM THEN SHE WANT GET NO WHERE.
SEE WHERE U OR YOUR FRIEND MISSED UP AT WAS WHY WAS HE LIVING WITH THIS OTHER GIRL. Y'ALL HAVE TO THINK
2007-02-23 14:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by crystal bisexual 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go, there are many other guys out there and every women deserves to be respected and not lied to to. Beleive me there is someone out ther that will love you
2007-02-23 14:58:20 · answer #10 · answered by bebe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋