I have a 2 year old daughter and i want to get her away from the babysitter that she has now and take her to?

Question

a certified babysitter but i am afraid she will cry and want me. I guess i am asking if i should be worried about her being in a certified daycare? They will probably take her mind off of things and she will forget i even left her but i still worry

Answer 1

It'll be harder for you than it is for her (even though she's the one crying.)

My brother-in-law was a stay-at-home dad to his little girl (who has him wrapped around her finger). He told my husband about when he first took her to a daycare, she cried, and screamed, and wouldn't let go of him, and begged to go with him. He said he went out to his car and cried for half an hour. My husband laughed, but when he told me about that (in front of my in-laws), I just yelled out, "I'VE DONE THAT!!!"

I asked my youngest child's (who cried pitifully for weeks when I dropped him off) teacher how long it lasts. The teacher told me I'm probably not even pulled out of the parking lot before he's happily playing with blocks or toy trucks, or watching a video (they do in the morning). I'm actually a little sad now, because he runs right in and I'm lucky if I get a wave over the shoulder "bye". :-)

You can help things some by keeping her informed and enthusiastic about the change. Let her know who her teacher will be, activities she'll do, that she'll be with other children and can play with them, and most importantly, who will pick her up, and when. Talk to the babysitter/daycare about personal belongings she can bring, like a favorite toy or blanket, or her own sippy cup. Let her meet her new sitter/teacher beforehand, and plan plenty of time that first morning, either for her, or for you to bawl it out in your car after you drop her off.

I promise, just because she cries when she's dropped off doesn't mean she doesn't like it or she's upset all day. Call as often as you need to (I called my kids' daycare at least once a day for the first few weeks). Talk to her about what she did (most likely, she'll happily tell you about her day in the afternoons, then act like she despises the place the next morning), and when you drop her off, remind her of what she likes about it. It helped with my kids to drop them off with breakfast (kept them occupied).

Good luck to you!

Answer 2

Why are you looking to change babysitters? I think that might be the more important issue. If the current one has actually done something, then that is a valid reason, and whether or not your daughter cries becomes irrevelent. But it there is no obvious reason for the change, then I don't see why you would.

There are pros and cons to daycare versus a sitter. With a babysitter, the child gets more individualized attention, whereas at a daycare center the caregivers are diving their time among many children.

With a daycare center, activities will tend to be more structured, getting her ready for a school environment. But with a babysitter, she will have less structured activities and have more time to engage in individual create play, which is also important for child development.

At a daycare center, she will learn to socialize with her peers. With a babysitter, she will learn how to occupy her own time and develop her own sense of self.

You also need to figure out how the sitter handles problems as opposed to the center. For example, one of my friends use to have a problem with getting the the center late to pick up her kids. The kids had to wait outside if the parents arrived late, because the center closed at a set time. While they were not left alone outside (someone would obviously stay with them), it made the kids feel like they were being punished. When my friend found a sitter, if she was running late the kids just continued doing whatever it was they were doing until she got there.

So make sure you are making the change for the right reasons.

Answer 3

Hi what are you worried about? and is the babysitter dong a great job? child healthy?clean?
home clean? get's attention? and look at this world today just because it's a certified school dosen't mean, it's the best>>> some of them are worse than a friends home ..Either way if you have a wriiten and notorized contract if any thing goes wrog you can SU..But most importantly the child is healthy and happy and well protected(u no what I mean) it's FIND leave the child alone!!!

Answer 4

Well, if she can talk, ask her the question yourself. Or you can ask her what she likes to do when your not around or her mother is with her. Then you can mention some of these things to the babysitter. Also, you can pretend you are leaving her there with the babysitter bbut then wait when she's not looking and sit in the corner and watch what happens. But if she doesn't like you being away, get one of YOUR parents to babysit and your daughter might like that instead!

Answer 5

The first few times will not only be tough for you but for her as well. It will be a huge adjustment for the two of you. But being in an enviroment where there are more children often times is more stimulating than being one on one. Too, begin to get her excited about the new place. I would suggest going to the new center and asking for permission to take pictures of the place. Take pictures of her classroom, possibly other children-if you have permission, stations that they have, the teachers and so on. Create a book with words and the pictures. Begin to read it to her to get her excited about it. Mark the day on the calender of when her first day is and make a big production out of it. This will help with the transition....

Answer 6

Just because a babysitter is not certified doesn't mean they aren't good. If there is a problem move her life happens she needs to learn that sooner or later. Worry impedes progress.

Answer 7

You need to decide what is best for your child, that is the important thing to remember, it doesn't matter if the current babysitter's feelings are hurt, there is something going on to make you want to change. Decide if it is important, and go from there.

Answer 8

Kids cry.. they get over it.
You do not permanently scar them if you change babysitters nor if they cry when you leave them.
Guilt is only a grown up thing if you let her control you like that nowshe will be worse when she is a teenager.

Answer 9

I'de try to take her to the dare care and stay with her for a day. Ease her into it.
take her back again and after you leave call a couple hours later. Do you know any other kids going there? That would also help.

Answer 10

For heaven's sake, it's your child and you are paying the bills. Grow a backbone and do what's best for your child. Tell the sitter you have made other arrangements. Give her some notice and then remove the child. I just don't understand people like you. You are asking to be used and manipulated.