Should I tell him or keep it to myself, its been over 8 years now but we are still bestfriend through it all
2007-02-23 06:42:29 · 15 answers · asked by Fruitful1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
best friends?
YES!
tell him
he'd give you another chance
and obviously you want that
tell him you love him
maybe hed say the same thing back to you
=DD
2007-02-23 06:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was heart broken by a girl in 2004. It literally took me about a year to get over the majority of the pain. To this day I think about her occasionally and wonder what could have been. I've also moved on. Guys have the ability to heal faster when they are given the right opportunities to fall in love again. That doesn't mean they just forget right away but healing can be sped with the nurturing care of someone new. Everyone has a different story though. That being said they sometimes never stop loving someone who broke their heart, and it's just one of those unexplainable things. It doesn't mean they love the next person less, and doesn't mean they would leave the next person for the old person, it's just how hearts sometimes work. Always depends on the situation though, and how badly their heart was broken. P.S. I'm not talking about rebound girlfriends when I say nurturing care of someone new.
2016-05-24 03:01:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. It doesn't matter who broke who's heart it won't work. I have been there only it was 16 years since I had seen him. We tried and failed to much time and people change. We had actually been in love with each other for 30 years but had our own lives later. He was my first love. I almost lost my last love (my hubby) of 25 years (16 yrs at the time) over this. Now I put him back where he belongs a special place in my heart where he will always stay. We tried the friend thing too. Long distance but that is also over it didn't work we both know we can't be just friends.
2007-02-23 06:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny, I have the same problem. I have known the girl for 4 years. I hurt her pretty bad, but now I know that I should have never let her go. I told her and basically i have now been waiting because she said she needed time to think about it. I understand, because I hurt her. But, I am willing to wait for her answer. I will wait, because I KNOW it will work. If you have the slightest doubt, I would not do it. It can only end bad and you might lose a friend.
2007-02-23 06:52:30 · answer #4 · answered by Paul S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!!! That is the same boat i am in. But through it all i have realized that we are best friends! we didn't make it as lovers for a reason. in the society we live in now love comes and goes like the city bus, but a really true and good friend is hard to find. if you feel like loosing a friend for a lover is worth the risk .. go for it. But think about it for a while you didn't work out before what is different now? best of luck in your decission!!!!
p/s .... i am going to follow my own advise and take the risk
2007-02-23 06:53:06 · answer #5 · answered by meenie_is_sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the "I'm sorries.." won't mend what happened. Let sleeping dogs lie... you had your chance and blew it. You could tell him how you feel, but you need to be prepared for rejection, he most probably carries around resentment that you are not even aware of. Getting hurt leaves emotional scars that most of us don't even realize, and the lessons learned from those scars make you cautious of ever getting emotionally invested in that person again. I just think you really need to be 100% sure before you open up and let him know. If he isn't interested, then you only have yourself to blame. We all have our moments of being fickle with our love, but as we get older we understand more how precious it is and tend to nurture it more so than when we were young. I wish you luck and joy. Peace.
2007-02-23 06:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by julianna76301 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OMG..I'm goin through the same thing...its been 10 years but were not bestfriends..just associates....I'm thinking about spilling the beans cuz I can't stop thinking about him...maybe u should too...I'm trying to decide whether to write him a letter or talk face to face.
2007-02-23 06:47:57 · answer #7 · answered by susieozbornehiphop 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take it from me it is best to just remain friends, the feelings that your are feeling are gonna be there because you know he knows everything about you, but to be honest it hurts even more when it is a friend because you don't expect a friend to treat you the way a stranger would because he know you better,but it happens like that anyway so just stay friends,good luck
2007-02-23 06:52:27 · answer #8 · answered by Vick'e 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, is he single? Do you love him? If you answered yes and yes, then GIRL WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR??? Don't let him go again. Admit your mistakes and show him you are a better person now...I love it when exs get back together :)
2007-02-23 06:46:40 · answer #9 · answered by EV 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deffenitely should if you have been thorugh it you friendship will survive so you have nothing to loose, but if you would keep it to your self might actually ruin your friendship becuase of akwardness.
2007-02-23 06:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by Loco 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋