Okay, i like this boy for some time now [[since school started]] i told him i like him and aked him out a whole ago like octoberish. he said he only wants to be friends with benifits b/c he likes the single life. but now we talk for about 2 hours every day on the phone. we talk about how much we want eachother to be our first time . i like him soo much its unbeivable. ill do anything for him. now theres a rumor going around school he had sex with another girl. he told me he didnt do anything and started crying in my arms. i beilve him and everything and he wants to make it all go away becasue everybosy else beilves the rumor. he said there are only a couple people he can trust and i am #1. now do i wait till end of this rumor bull or do i ask him again .... i dont no wat to do. i dont know if i should ask him again. please help me .. also email me orr something ..i need some girl and guy advice.
2007-02-23 06:39:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are "friends with benefits" then you don't have a claim to anything other than what he wants to give you. If you want more, after the rumor/scandal indicate to him your true feelings. It should be time for something more realistic for you or permanent. If he can't do that, you may not be happy.
2007-02-23 06:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, this guys sounds like he is playing you! Did you ask the other girl about the rumor? He just wants to be friends with benifits! First, he DOES NOT deserve your virginity if he CANNOT be with you exclusivly! Second, watch what you do, be sure you are ready for this. I lost my virginity when I was 20 and I regret the man I gave it to and the fact that I lost at all. Once its gone, thats it, its gone, you cant get it back and things change. Even if you keep it top secret, you will have a very hard time having any other relationship afterwards without having sex. It is almost like once you have it, it becomes less meaningful, so if things dont work out with this guy, the next guy you date will miss out. Just be careful, e-mail if you need to talk.
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2007-02-23 06:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by BUFFCHICK25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first I have to say I am an old person, so I may not understand. A friend with benefits USED to mean someone you had sex with, but no commitment. If that is still what it means, and you are OK with that, then go for it. Just realize that it means he WILL be having sex with other women, because YOU said it's OK. You say you do anything for him, does that include sharing him? If you want him to only have you, and are willing to loose your virginity to him, you seem to want him to be exclusively yours. Is he willing to do that? It doesn't sound like it. I will say if (or rather WHEN) you do have sex, do it SAFELY! Make sure he wears a condom every time. Even if you are on the pill, a condom is a good idea.
2007-02-23 06:55:07 · answer #3 · answered by roscoedeadbeat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dont pressure him about anything and dont make him feel like hes pressured because he is going through a hard time right now with this rumor going around and all so you need to just give him some time. Be there for him and be a good friend so if he needs someone to listen to or if he needs someone to talk to be his friend and be there for him but dont rush things because that wont help matters any at all. Just make him feel better as best as you can and i think things will get better.
2007-02-23 06:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by cheergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, here's what you say to your bf, U ask him again about the other girl, because chances of you finding out who started the rumor will probably be hard... and if he says No again. then u need to investigate on your own or with your friends,,, if he say's Yes,, and he tells you that he's so sorry & crap that's when u tell his butt to get lost or else. the thing is, is that just because there's a rumor going around school doesn't mean he did it... You do what your heart tells u ok. good luck
2007-02-23 06:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by BIG BEN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen here deary. It sounds to me like this boy is a player in the making. First, he told you he wanted to be friends with "benefits." He can be friends with whoever he wants and have benefits with whoever he wants if he is single. If he had sex with this other girl, it is not your business. He is not your boyfriend. He does not have to tell you. He is not going to tell you, especially the truth. He can cry because he's a male. Male's are liars... no not all. But I would say a good 85% of them. I am sorry if you're infatuated, or in love, or whatever you want to call it with this boy, but chances are, he did have sex with this other girl and he doesn't ever want you to find out about it because he already told you that he wanted you to be his first. He doesn't want to lose the opportunity to take your virginity.... and he wants you to believe that you will be taking his as well.
2007-02-23 06:46:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold out and don't be so attached for now. He was honest enough to admit that he liked the "single life". So from there, he can be with anyone and he's not committed to you, and you can't change that. He may have a huge torch for you, and I'll be he comes around and sees how much you're worth to him besides the usual physical stuff. Some silly things take time to sink in. Hang in there.
2007-02-23 06:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Mike C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will in simple terms help from a Christian attitude, so if that bothers you do no longer examine on. look up a sparkling testomony (you're specific to have been provided one at school by potential of the Gideons) and examine verses 6 -7 in financial disaster 4 of Paul's letter to the Philippians. i'm 80 5 and that passage has seen me via my existence, which consists of the untimely death of my father, then 5 years as a WW2 RAF Pilot (& a million crash), the deaths of two loving better halves and the hectic exhaustion of working a employer on a shoestring. follow that suggestion and, as promised, it provides you with a "peace surpassing information".
2016-10-16 08:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first of all theres alwayd rumors going around about everybody one time or another. You can believe what everybody else says but if i were you if u feel that he really cares about u and think hes telling u thr truth then believe him until you see that hes actually messing around with other girls. Dont let anybody elses lies get bin beteween your relationship.
2007-02-23 06:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he thinks of you as the number one person he can trust then go for it he must have more the just friends with benefits but just ask him how he really feels about you and that is all you can do for now until you find out if he likes you more then friends w/ benefits so i hope everything works out with you two!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-23 06:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by Leah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋