my mom put me in foster care and i have to suffer cause her boyfriend doesnt like me at all. How would i let her know that he is trying tto push me out of her life that way he can hurt her.
2007-02-23 06:38:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
the reason im in foster care is cause i was neglected. my mom chose him cause she is already used to having my big sister out of the house so she pushed me out 5 days after i turned 17. ive only got a few moths left til i get out. my mom i guess just thinks hes more important and i only tried to protect her and this is what i get for loving her. i guess she thinks hes worth it and she thinks it is okay for him to hit her i guess. the only reason he doesnt like me is cause i take up for my mom and dont let any man try to hurt her but since im in foster care i cant take up for my mother. people say that i should forget about her cause she left me without a paddle to row my bout but the truth is i cant cause im scared for both of our lives.
2007-02-23 06:54:24 · update #1
I want you to lift your head up. We can't control our parents unfortunately. So, now that you are about to turn 18 years old, you make sure that you don't make some of the same mistakes that your mom has made.
Try to find love within yourself, and don't look to other men to show you love.
Make a plan, and try to further your education to make a life for yourself on your own.
You have to come to the realization that your mom is not going to be there for you, so now all you have is you.
What are you going to do for you?
As hard as it may sound, you are going to have to let your mom go and live your life to the fullest.
I hope that you have other family or a support system. Try and get as much information from the Foster Care before getting out on your own.
Hope this Helps...
2007-02-23 07:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Brown Eyez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Why would your Mom put you in foster care? Have you been drinking and doing drugs, causing trouble, sleeping around? Has she tried to get you to listen but you won't. Ask her what you can do to get out of foster care and why her boyfriend doesn't like you. There must be a reason you are in foster care. Sorry if I'm judging.
2007-02-23 14:43:16 · answer #2 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that what your mother did hurts you. You should still forgive her. Everyone deserves forgiveness. You're just gonna have to develop more maturity then regular 17 yr olds would. I say go to college and make something of yourself. Don't just lay around being depressed about a mistake your mother made. Still call her and visit her just to see how she's doing. Then she'll realize how much of a big mistake she made, then, you'll be right there to comfort your mother and let her know that you forgive her. You only have one mother. Be there for her as much as you can. Don't cut her loose. We all make mistakes.
2007-02-23 15:31:14 · answer #3 · answered by Blondie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs this experience, especially when life will kick her in the butt when her BF leaves her. Some people only realize what they have after they have lost it or had to go through pain or both. Try to find someone else who you can turn to like your dad or other immediate relative. Good luck with everything.
2007-02-23 15:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by Michael K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw your mothers shes a selfish *****. If I were you I'd move away and get an education and a job and strive to makes lots of money and be successful. When your mother needs you when she is older, then you stick it to her and act like you don't have anytime for her, and don't give the worthless jerk a penny let alone any attention. Shes quite clearly a real loser who only cares for herself.
2007-02-23 19:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God. That's so selfish of your mother. I'm sorry but children are the most important thing on this earth. My boys are my life. You really need to talk to your mom and maybe talk about getting counseling. She needs to know you are her life. I'm
sorry this makes me very upset. I wish i could give you a big hug and tell you everything is going to be o.k. Please take care and i hope you can work it out.
God bless
2007-02-23 14:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by janet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my half sisters mother neglected her and all she always went out with men and drank and left her to take care of herself please don't be mad for me saying this but i honestly don't think she was ready to be a mom she doesn't know how - one day i think she'll realyze what she did and want you in her life the best thing for you to do in my opinion is not to forget about her but move on grow up and do great things with your life not to show her that you didn't need her but to show her what she missed out on leaving you for a man is so careless but you do it for you not her - i hope you understand what i'm trying to say. good luck!!
2007-02-23 15:07:39 · answer #7 · answered by Yvette 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all your mom shouldn't put her man before u because you're her blood. so try to talk to her and tell her whats on your mind.
2007-02-23 14:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by frances c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋