My Maid of Honor hasn't mentioned throwing me a bridal shower (my wedding is two months away), but a good friend of my mom's asked me yesterday if she could throw a shower for me at the resturaunt she owns. She asked me to get a list of people I would like her to invite if I want her to do this for me. Would it be rude to ask my Maid of Honor what she thinks of my mom's friend throwing me a shower to make sure I'm not messing up any of her plans? I don't know exactly what to say to her.
2007-02-23 06:32:02 · 13 answers · asked by orangeflameninja 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just let them know that a friend of the family would like to throw you a shower and you said that you needed to check with your Maid of Honor. Then she can call the family friend and they can work out all the details.
Maybe your maid of Honor is not sure how to go about this and would love input from an older person. My aunts threw me a shower and a friend of the grooms family held another one too. My Matrons of Honor both were very happy to have assisitance with all the plans, plus it helped them out financially (Very expensive to be in someone's wedding).
If she already has something planned, please go with that. Maybe she would rather plan the bachorlette party instead.
Keep in mind though, she should help with the shower, whether it is food, money or time decorating and mailing out invites.
good Luck!
2007-02-23 06:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by chickemama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I understand it, you don't know what your maid of honor is planning, or if she's even planning anything at all. Right?
First, you need to find out if she's planning a shower. Honestly, I can't think of a good way to ask that outright without sounding rude and selfish, so I suggest being sneaky. Have a bridesmaid or your mother ask the maid of honor what the shower plans are.
If it turns out that your maid of honor IS planning something, then you can either have two showers or tell your mom's friend no thanks. If you decide to have two showers, make sure the same people aren't invited to both.
If the maid of honor is NOT planning anything yet, then simply say to her "My mom's friend wants to host my bridal shower. Would you mind?"
Also, if your maid of honor does work for the shower, like making favors, coming up with games, and buying prizes, then she can easily be listed as the cohost.
2007-02-23 16:01:02 · answer #2 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would tell your maid of honor and give her the lady's number if she is interested in joining forces and leave it at that. You should have a minimal amount to do with your shower as you are the guest of honor and this party is thrown for you, not by you. But I will tell you this. I was my BFs MOH this past summer and the one thing I really looked forward to was throwing her shower, I had been planning it for years, even before she found her man. I would not have wanted to relinquish that day for anything. So be understanding if she says she has it under control and tell this woman that your MOH has it all covered, but that you thank her for the offer.
ETA:Just to add, I never mentioned the bridal shower to the bride because it was a SURPRISE shower, so just because there has been no mention of it to you doesnt mean you arent getting one.
2007-02-23 15:19:02 · answer #3 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother and mothers friend should talk to your maid of honour and tell her their ideas, and see if your maid of honour already had plans. Most likely she was going to throw one for you within a few weeks but if she doesnt already have the invitations out perhaps they all could work together and have it at this resturaunt. Making sure that your maid of honor knows what is going on before any descions are made would be the best way to go. Get everyone on the same page and work something out.
Congrads!
2007-02-23 14:46:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation, I would ask your mother to sit down and have a conversation with your maid of honor. She can let her know that a family friend has offered to host a bridal shower for you and ask her if she has any plans that may be in conflict. Then if your maid of honor is interested in throwing you a second shower or coordinating with your family friend, it will be up to her and you don't have to be involved either way.
2007-02-23 15:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by Veronica W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just mention that your mother's friend is throwing you a shower and then maybe tell her the date. Just make it a friendly conversation; if she is planning on throwing you a shower, she might mention it then. Also, ask your mother. If the shower was suppose to be a surprise, I'm sure she would know something about it.
If your friend decides she wants to throw you another shower, she can. It's fine to have more then one shower.
2007-02-23 15:12:11 · answer #6 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not rude at all. I don't know what your situation is but where I live typically the bride's mother and the groom's mother each throw a shower and the Maid of honor throws the bachlorette party.
2007-02-23 14:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by sassssy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your maid of honor and tell her that your friend's mom is offering to host a shower for you and that maybe she should talk with her. Some people do not realize that they should be in charge of a shower.
2007-02-23 14:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a bride myself. It wouldn't be rude at all. I would just initiate the conversation as "so I was approached by so and so and they want to throw me a shower, isn't that great?" Then from there play off her reaction. If she doesn't tell you anything about one she has in the works then it's her bad.
2007-02-23 15:31:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have both and enjoy both! This is your time and everyone is happy for you!. I'm sure your Maid of Honor will understand.
Congrats!
2007-02-23 15:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by bride2be 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋