but once we got together she said no more
sex and that I had pressured her into it.
How can I resolve this??
2007-02-23 06:21:27 · 32 answers · asked by John 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man, you gotta talk to her. If you did it already, she probably didn't like it too much and is now afraid to do it again. But, you have got to make her tell you why she doesn't want to have sex anymore...and don't do the guilt trip cos she is probably already uncomfortable with something. Just hold her hand, and tell her that you don't want to pressure her into anything, that you don't care about sex but about her and that you are not going to do it again until she is ready...BUT, you need to know why she does not want to have sex anymore...ask her if it was something you did? Make her feel bad for you...she will be more likely to answer your questions. Most of all, be patient and don't laugh at her. But if she is just being a bi**h then forget her and move on...
2007-02-23 06:30:54 · answer #1 · answered by Kat ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask her why she felt pressured and go from there. It sounds like she has some issues tho. If you didn't force her and she did it, I don't see how she was pressured. Girls aren't shy to say no if they don't want to. Tell her stopping now doesn't take away the fact that you guys already have done it. What difference does it make if you guys do again? She isn't a virgin obviously.
Well good luck, hope there is a resolution to it.
2007-02-23 06:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best way would be by respecting her wishes. If she only agreed to have sex with you because she felt pressured (regardless of whether or not you think that's a legitimate claim), she's only going to feel more pressure and resentment if you try to "resolve" this issue to your liking.
The fact that you phrased your question in the singular ("...I could have sex," not we) along with her feelings of pressure strongly indicate that you may not have been considering her wishes or feelings in this matter up to this point. You might want to try it.
2007-02-23 06:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by stmichaeldet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a girl I know what she is doing here, but she is doing it in all the wrong ways. She is trying to use her vagina to control you and the situation, which could be a smart move if she would withhold sex from you to get her way then give you some lovin after you give her what she wants. But in this case all she is doing is asking you to cheat on her. Tell her to grow up, she's the one who pressured herself into it. Tell her the pressure she is feeling is a little something called "guilt"!
2007-02-23 06:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by lorimtx2204 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really not a lot that you can do other than to respect her request. She needs to feel comfortable about this. Treat her with kindness and tenderness and let her come around on her own.It sounds to me as though she had sex with you because you put pressure on her before she was ready. There could be many reasons, fear of pregnancy, fear of disease, lack of commitment, etc. Relax and enjoy what you have going on right now, let the rest work itself out.
2007-02-23 06:30:29 · answer #5 · answered by myleshunt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something weird going on here.Sex should never be used as a tool or bargaining chip to get someone to do something etc.If this seems to be the case then you need to look at the relationship in general.Then again,If It's not the case,you'll have to figure out what the hell is going on,perhaps there are issues which need discussing between the two of you.Anyway,hope it works out.
2007-02-23 06:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by Mika K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The blogbaba's been married for 23 years, has 6 children with the woman and still can't figure it out. If it's any consulation men have been trying to figure out women since Eve conned Adam, if you come up with the answer even Bill Gates would want to know.
2007-02-23 06:35:09 · answer #7 · answered by blogbaba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about what you just wrote. You pressured her into having sex. You wouldn't be my bf for long. You should have talk to her and asked what the problem was. Not just be a selfish, self-centered person.
2007-02-23 06:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can make your girl friend having a long period of sex by taking her on a beautiful place where nonbody else is there. or show her some sexy films . i think she said no more because she would have got bored or felt sleepy or tired. so use new methods to show yourself as astrong man with a big one
2007-02-23 06:28:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way to start out, if she made a deal and reneges then she will do it again. It was a clear case of entrapment, based on what you say. Now she may have a different interpretation of what was said. Nail down stuff like this, in all things that make a difference.
2007-02-23 06:24:34 · answer #10 · answered by bigjohn B 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋